We have a saying, people always like to eat in the bowl and look at the pot, in fact, people are not enough snakes swallow elephants, people never know satisfaction, always feel that other people's things are better, but do not know to look at the eyes, cherish what they have.
And many couples also have such a situation, getting along for a long time, hating each other, and conflicting. Completely forgot the promises of the two when they got married, the expectations and expectations of the two for the future. However, there is no affection between them, but after they really get it, they begin to envy others, forgetting that they also have things that others envy.
However, once or twice do not cherish, the other half will also be cold, because the union of two people is fate, and finally can enter marriage, but also because of the maintenance of the feelings of both parties. If just because they have become husband and wife, they often see each other, they forget each other's goodness, and fantasize about some that do not belong to them, then what they have gained after all, they will also lose.
Netizen Zhao Ran because of her marriage to her husband for many years, gradually forgot the reason why she married her husband, began to envy other people's husbands, and finally even chose to cheat, and felt that she had made the right choice, until she was discovered and saw her husband's change, Zhao Ran realized that she was just too greedy. Let's take a look at her story.
I didn't hate my husband
Zhao Ran and Kang Ming were in love for two years before they got married, and when they were proposed by Kang Ming, Zhao Ran was full of emotions and was eager to immediately pull Kang Ming to get a marriage license. Later, seeing the dream wedding that Kang Ming had done for himself, Zhao Ran felt that he was married to the right person, and he was determined to be with Kang Ming for the rest of his life.
At the beginning of the marriage, the two people were really happy, And Kang Ming spoiled Zhao Ran like when he was in love, took care of all the housework in the family, and did a good job, and the dishes he learned were also what Zhao Ran liked to eat. Half a year after the marriage, even Zhao Ran's parents, who were not optimistic about Kang Ming at the beginning, praised this son-in-law.
Several times Kang Ming accompanied Zhao Ran home for the festival, Zhao Ran's parents kept praising his son-in-law to his relatives, "Kang Ming this child is particularly good, people are also filial piety, Zhao Ran is used to yo, is it a housework, I was still thinking, what can I do when I marry this lazy girl?" ”
The relatives all laughed, but more envious, and Zhao Ran's heart was full of happiness at that time. However, a little time passed, Zhao Ran was no longer a minority of people who got married, but as more and more friends and classmates around her entered the marriage, looking at their own families in the circle of friends, Zhao Ran gradually compared others with himself.
Seeing the gifts bought by her husband in the circle of friends, Zhao Ran couldn't help but envy, and then look at the flowers that her friends had sunburned, Zhao Ran always wanted it. Kang Ming saw it, and would also buy gifts for Zhao Ran and flowers for Zhao Ran, but this kind of thing he asked for really got, and Zhao Ran's heart was very unhappy.
Looking at Kang Ming who was cooking in the kitchen with an apron, Zhao Ran was not pampered in his heart, but felt that Kang Ming was a bit out of the ordinary, a bit dull, and did not understand romance, so he could only bring these to himself.
Once this kind of thinking arises, it is difficult to dissipate, so Zhao Ran began to be unhappy and began to lose his temper with Kang Ming, who was a little unclear, but still tried his best to follow Zhao Ran.
The neighborhood's elite husband
The reason for zhao ran's complete outbreak is that the new neighbors they moved in, the pattern of the community where Kang Ming and Zhao Ran live is somewhat different, there are three units on the first floor, two small apartments have been sold, and the newly moved neighbors have bought a large apartment of 160 square meters.
This must be a rich man, so Zhao Ran and another neighbor looked at the family curiously, and then they were shocked. The new arrival is a family of three, the woman is particularly exquisite and beautiful, and the man is a successful person, and he is a social elite at a glance. What makes Zhao Ran even more envious is that women don't have to do housework at all, because every day there will be nannies coming.
On the third day of the neighbor's move, he saw the woman next door dressed exquisitely and driving out, Zhao Ran couldn't help but envy, "Look at people's lives, there are such handsome husbands, there are so cute children, they don't have to do anything, it's really good!" ”
Kang Ming just brought the meal to the table, and when he heard Zhao Ran say this, he joked, "It's like what you're doing at home, didn't your husband also make you a little princess?" Envy what others do, come over to us to eat, and today I made your favorite food. ”
However, upon hearing this, Zhao Ran suddenly became angry, "You are still interested in comparing yourself with others, can I buy any cosmetics I want?" Those tens of thousands of bags, can you afford to send me? Even the house is much worse than others, and you are kind enough to say that you spoil me, it is really not ashamed. ”
Kang Ming was scolded stunned, Zhao Ran was more and more angry the more he talked, he did not eat and get dressed and left with his bag, but in the process of going downstairs, he met the man next door. Seeing that the other two people were stunned, they greeted each other slightly embarrassed.
Zhao Ran thought that he was still praising him just now, and he felt a little shy, and when he was about to leave quickly, he was stopped by the man. The other party spoke very politely and politely, and soon dispelled Zhao Ran's nervousness, listening to the man say that he wanted Zhao Ran's contact information, although Zhao Ran was curious, but because of the little unevenness in his heart, Zhao Ran ghost made God send a promise.
Cheating and losing a marriage
On the way shopping, thinking of the handsomeness of men and gentlemen, Zhao Ran always couldn't help but blush, completely forgetting that he was married and falling into the charm of men.
At night, when he came home to see Kang Ming, who was already off work and was doing housework, Zhao Ran felt that Kang Ming did not come out, and did not pay attention to her husband who was flattered, and went directly back to the bedroom and locked the door. That night, the man sent a greeting message, Zhao Ran tried to chat with him twice, surprised to find that the two people were very speculative, and when the reaction came, it was already midnight.
Kang Ming was already sleeping in the second bedroom, and Zhao Ran didn't bother to take care of him at all, thinking that if her husband was a man, it would be better. In the days that followed, because men often took the initiative to show kindness, Zhao Ran always looked for opportunities to be close to men, always went to each other's homes on the grounds of good neighbor relations, and often invited couples to dinner.
However, Zhao Ran is strange that the neighbor women seem to be often absent from home, and the time of communication is long, the two families are familiar, and Kang Ming is also very friendly and polite to them. But half a year later, the man suddenly confessed to Zhao Ran, Zhao Ran was startled, at first did not agree, and as a result, under the man's gifts and gentle attacks, Zhao Ran finally became a lover with him.
The man meets all the fantasies of the perfect husband in Zhao Ran's heart, romantic, handsome, and successful in his career. The longer he spends with men, the more cold the feelings between Zhao Ran and Kang Ming, and Kang Ming no longer spoils Zhao Ran as before, but instead puts his mind on work and wants Zhao Ran to recognize himself.
However, once after returning home from work early and seeing the two people in the bedroom, Kang Ming's belief completely collapsed, "The rabbit does not eat the nest grass, you are not ashamed!" ”
Zhao Ran was still very dissatisfied, said that Kang Ming was useless, and then simply proposed divorce. As a result, after the divorce, things did not develop as Zhao Ran thought, and the man did not divorce and marry Zhao Ran, but gradually broke off contact with Zhao Ran.
After a while, Zhao Ran also heard from his friends that Kang Ming had now been promoted and had become a person who was highly valued by the leader. Zhao Ran did not know why, his life became like this, after the first time after the divorce to go home for the New Year, after being scolded by his parents fiercely, Zhao Ran completely regretted it, he was happy for several years, but at the age of 30, he was stupid once, cheating on the acquaintances around him, ruining everything he had.
Zhao Ran was indeed very happy at first, and Kang Ming also used all his efforts to be good to Zhao Ran, but after a long time, Zhao Ran began to dislike Kang Ming. Especially after moving in a new neighbor, in contrast, Zhao Ran felt that Kang Ming did not appear, and finally the rabbit ate the nest grass, ruined the marriage, and also ruined his own happiness.
Happiness needs to be grasped, but there are always some people who do not know how to cherish after getting it, feel that it is their own, they will always be their own, and then slowly begin to envy others and forget what they have. However, the goods are different from people, people have feelings and hearts, and they wholeheartedly pay for the other half of the family, but in the hearts of the other half, they are not worth mentioning. For anyone, this is unacceptable.
Zhao Ran is because she is blinded by happiness, she will forget what she was pursuing, she thought that Kang Ming did not come out, but forgot that If Kang Ming did not waste all his time on her, he could work hard to develop his career. And Zhao Ran finally paid for her stupidity, the happy marriage was lost, the elite lover who had her heart and mind also left, and in the end she got nothing.
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