The author | Mengchen
Education expert Zhang Dachun said:
Many families have rich daughters, and they have completely reversed the "rich".
First give the best material, enjoy the best conditions, and finally the real spiritual "rich", but completely unable to fit in.
Four years ago, the 16-year-old girl named Liu Siqi and her breathtaking state of life truly confirmed this.
Unexpectedly, she turned out to be like this...
I met Liu Siqi in "Metamorphometer".
Liu Siqi is a child born with a golden key, and her parents have created very favorable and rich living conditions for her.
Her uncle, her driver, assistant, housekeeper, and nanny, was responsible for all of Liu Siqi's life when she was away.
Once, in order to experience life, she and her uncle sold the mobile phone case for more than twenty yuan when it was two dollars. In the end, what could not be sold was simply given to passers-by.
The purchase price totaled more than 600 and finally lost more than 500.
The uncle said, "If you don't want money, just make her happy";
Mom said: "Losing money also makes her sell, and she sells that feeling." ”
Because of the indulgence and doting of her loved ones, her concept of money is like a piece of paper, profligate and unrestrained.
Went to the barbecue restaurant to eat barbecue, a total of 100 ate, she forced it to give people 500.
The happiest thing every day is to go to the mall, buy and buy, and spend tens of thousands of dollars a day.
A limited edition backpack, worth nine thousand nine hundred and nine, she was still just a middle school student, took a look and said "very good", and bought it happily.
In the face of her daughter's crazy pursuit of materials, her mother said:
"She spends money and I and her father are used to her, girls should be rich, she grows up, money outside can not tempt her." 」
If Liu Siqi's parents are conniving at her financially, which makes people sigh, then their full coverage of her in life is even more jaw-dropping.
On weekdays, 16-year-old Liu Siqi's clothes were worn by her mother, her nails were cut by her aunt, and her second aunt helped her feed her.
In the mother's view, the child is still young, these are small things.
If Liu Siqi spends a lot of money and has no ability to take care of herself in life, which is not particularly serious for her mother, then Liu Siqi's willfulness is something that her mother finds intolerable.
In order to pick up her hair, her mother invited a master to pick her up for her, and she wanted to go to a studio in Dalian because there were stars who went there to do their hair.
The mother was reluctant to scold her daughter, and could only persuade her bitterly:
"More than three hundred kilometers, driving a car to Dalian, spending more than ten thousand yuan, just pick up a hair, is it worth it?"
But she only played with her mobile phone and turned a deaf ear to her mother's words.
Even his brother couldn't look at it anymore and helped his mother talk about her, at this time, Liu Siqi suddenly jumped up from his chair and fell with something.
They also had to beat their brothers, and the two adults could not stop Liu Siqi's violent behavior.
After venting, he proudly called his father:
"He and his wife are sick together, just let me beat up, you will stop the little brother's Alipay tomorrow, don't let him buy toys."
Dad didn't have a word of scolding on the phone, but kept saying "Oh".
This scene made the mother on the side suddenly wake up, and if this continues, the daughter's life may be ruined.
How can a child who is full of materialism, willfulness and no self-care ability stand in society in the future, how to establish his own family, and how to take care of his family and himself?
The more the mother thought about it, the more frightened she became, and after thinking about it for a long time, they decided to let their baby daughter go out to suffer a little, to experience a different life, let her understand that life is not easy, and can also exercise her self-care ability.
So my mother made up her mind and signed her up for "Metamorphometer".
The night before Liu Siqi 'deformed' departure, her mother called a large family and went to her daughter for the trip.
During the meal, the mother, while feeding her daughter, said:
"When you get there, there's no one to feed you."
Liu Siqi, who had a happy mood of going to the mountains and rivers, took the three large boxes and a bag that the elders packed for her and embarked on the road of deformation to the mountains.
As soon as he got there, looking at the mountains full of eyes, Liu Siqi was dumbfounded.
Where is the road? Where is the said village?
No one told her the answer, no one helped her carry her suitcase up the mountain, and in order to climb the rough mountain road, she angrily threw three boxes at the foot of the mountain.
The steepness of the mountain road left her with both hands and feet, and when she climbed to the middle of the high and steep mountain, she tried to ask the staff for help in a cute way, but no one paid attention to her.
I don't know how much effort, how much time, how much fear, finally climbed to the top of the mountain, but the scene in front of her made her original joy fall to the bottom.
No one was welcomed, no one was welcome, and there was nothing but a few empty rooms and fellow deformed friends.
There is no water here, so you have to drink water to pick it up at the bottom of the mountain;
There is no one here to help with cooking, and when you are hungry, you have to go to the small shop down the hill to eat snacks on credit.
At night, Liu Siqi looked at the room where there was nothing, remembered the three boxes that he had thrown away by his own gambling, and wept sadly.
After surviving every meal and not knowing what to eat, finally, the "mom and dad" in the mountains returned.
"Mom and Dad" cooked a table of dishes, Liu Siqi and his friends ate with great happiness and touch, this meal may not be better than before, but for them may be the most delicious dish in this life.
In order to express their care and gratitude for the "parents" in the mountains, Liu Siqi and his friends plan to work to earn money and supplement the family.
Despite being criticized by her boss, extremely tired, and covered in mud, she persevered.
The most surprising thing is that this originally pampered and habitual big lady accidentally fell all over the mud, but did not say anything, got up and continued to work.
Each person gets 50 yuan for a day's salary, Liu Siqi said with emotion:
"50 yuan used to feel useless, but now you can use it for several full meals."
But the truth is that they did not go to eat and drink, but used 150 yuan to buy a pair of leather shoes for their father.
Read a sentence:
Any preaching is not as profound as the experience, educating children to say a hundred sentences, it is better to let children experience and experience.
This deformation that lasted for a month made Liu Siqi understand that there is still a side of life and suffering, and the world is not all around her.
The taste of hunger, the helplessness of no one, and the hard-won money became the wealth of Liu Siqi's life.
After four years, liu Siqi, a big miss who spent more than 10,000 yuan on this day and had to be fed at dinner, is now living?
Her changes would surprise everyone.
After the "deformation" returned, she began to learn to be slowly independent, and also changed her previous arrogant appearance.
She planned her own life direction, and in order to stick to her passion, the fashion design major, she decided to study abroad.
(@Siqi Liu Weibo)
Abroad, Liu Siqi, who has no one to rely on, has thoroughly learned to be independent, not only taking care of his own life, but also raising a dog alone.
After returning home, she signed a contract with a studio and became a real costume designer.
Not only is he seriously engaged in his work, but he is also very motivated and self-disciplined in his own body management and learning literacy.
Yoga, fitness, memorizing words, reading, watching celebrity speeches are all indispensable temperament and spiritual cultivation in her life.
Who would have thought that four years ago, this arrogant, extravagant, and self-care girl had a direct experience of life, but it made this girl undergo a qualitative transformation.
As parents, they are willing to use all their abilities to enrich their children and let their children live a worry-free, exquisite and stable life.
However, this is tantamount to raising flowers in a greenhouse, and once it encounters a storm, it may be uprooted.
True wealth is not to spoil children with all your might;
The real wealth is to prune the vine branches that the child climbs, let him experience the wind, experience the rain, and experience the suffering, so that he can put out the new and tender branches after the wind and rain, and after the ascetics, taste the sweetness of growth.
Just like Liu Siqi's insightful sentence:
After people have tasted the sour, sweet, bitter and spicy, even drinking a cup of boiled water feels sweet.
Wise parents will give their children two of the best gifts: courage and wings.
And true love is to let the child fight, to fly, to experience.
May every parent be an appreciator, applause, and spectator on the way to their child's development, rather than a substitute.
May our children be able to walk independently and strongly in the world, confident and happy to face their most authentic life.
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Author: Meng Chen, multi-platform contracted author, on the road of life, writing for warmth, cooking words to cure hunger. Some of the pictures in this article come from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.