The world is bustling, all for the benefit of the coming, the world is bustling, all for the benefit of the future.
Too many people in the world run their lives for fame and fortune. They are constantly pursuing more things, and even if they are overburdened and physically and mentally exhausted, they are still reluctant to let go. It is like a terrible thing to let go of them.
But people's time and energy are limited, sometimes they want too much, and in the end they get nothing.
To be able to take it and put it down is a kind of wisdom of life and a call to happiness.
More than a hundred years ago, a man from a famous family and a combination of talent and temperament, in the most prosperous period of his life, took the initiative to completely isolate himself from all the love and interests of the world, chose to escape into the empty door, and was called "the first ruthless person of the Republic of China" by the world.
39 years old is the dividing point between his two extreme lives. And he is the Hongyi Master who is highly respected by the world, Li Shutong.
Let go of a thought, and be at ease.
In the book "Nothing in Life Cannot Be Put Down", the author Song Mo is telling the true meaning of life that Master Hongyi has penetrated after letting go of all the fame and fortune in the world, and teaches us an attitude of life that is indifferent to the world.
Next, the ashtray will take everyone to explore how to let go of desire and obsession and lead to the road to happiness together.
Only by knowing enough can we reap happiness
Man is unhappy, unhappy, not because he has too little, but because he does not know how to be satisfied.
After all, when a person is endlessly chasing materialistic desires, materialism also becomes his shackles.
In the book, the author tells that once upon a time there was a woodcutter who was extremely poor, and the Buddha rewarded him with a golden arhat out of kindness, thinking that he would be in a happy mood when he became a millionaire, but he was more anxious than before, on the grounds that he was not satisfied with getting this golden arhat, and wanted to take the remaining seventeen for himself, but he lost his soul because of the delay in getting it, and soon fell ill and died.
In the eyes of the ashtray, excessive desire easily devours one's own happiness and is the source of all suffering. We can only be truly happy if we are satisfied and grateful for what we have.
During his practice, Master Hongyi's diet was very simple, only a pickle, a rice and a boiled water, someone asked whether the pickles were too salty, but he replied that "salty has a salty taste", some people asked how to drink such a light boiled water, he replied "Although the boiled water is light, there is also a light taste." ”
This reminds the ashtray of a sentence in the book: "Whether life is comfortable or not is not whether the material is luxurious, but in our state of mind." ”
At the end of the day, happiness has nothing to do with external objects, but with one's own state of mind. Knowing enough, in order to find the small beauty in life, the mood will become comfortable, and people who do not know enough, even the most beautiful things will turn a blind eye, be led by endless desires, and eventually have to pay for excessive desires.
Ashtray feels that when we face too much desire, we may as well adjust our mentality, be satisfied with what we have, not too much pursuit of nothing, and live a life of the moment with peace of mind.
Of course, this is not to make us abandon our desires and stagnate, but when the gap between reality and desire is too large, we must appropriately throw away the unattainable material desires, so that the heart will become peaceful and thus obtain a sense of happiness.
As the saying goes, "No one can determine your happiness except yourself." ”
Only by learning to forgive can we liberate ourselves
Before escaping into the void, Master Hongyi often taught his students not to dwell on the faults of others, so that they could not only avoid unnecessary troubles, but also avoid disturbing their own minds.
Once, a student discovered that there was a grammatical deviation in the textbook arranged by Master Koichi, and he reprimanded him for misleading people. In fact, Master Hongyi had every reason to excuse himself and accuse the student of making unreasonable trouble, but he did not do so, and even praised the student, for which the student was greatly encouraged and inspired.
While Master Hongyi forgave his students, he also released his deep resentment.
In the final analysis, to forgive others is to let go of oneself and liberate oneself.
In the book, The author recounts that Mandela was imprisoned for opposing white apartheid policies before becoming president of South Africa, a barrier of 27 years. He was guarded by three men, who were always looking for reasons to abuse Mandela.
However, after Mandela was released from prison and elected president, he not only did not severely punish the three people who abused him, but even solemnly introduced them at the presidential inauguration ceremony to pay tribute to them.
The words he said shook Zi's heart. "The moment I stepped through the prison gates of freedom, I knew very well that if I couldn't leave my grief and resentment behind, I would still be in prison," he said. ”
As the book says, forgiveness is the only way to liberate the mind.
After all, when resentment is buried in our hearts, it will always consume the energy of our lives, and our whole person will be immersed in negative emotions and will be difficult to extricate ourselves, and unintended consequences will follow.
Therefore, ashtray believes that when we are hurt by others, do not suppress our own sad or angry emotions, but release them in a healthy way, and get rid of the role of being a victim, think about the value behind the other person's behavior from an objective point of view, and then decide whether to rebuild or abandon the relationship, and finally turn your attention to other things as much as possible, so that you can let go of resentment towards others and let yourself be born again.
Only by being willing to make profits can we win people's hearts
Rich businessman Li Ka-shing once said: "Taking into account the interests of the other party is the most important, can not limit the focus on their own interests, the two are complementary, they are willing to give profits, let the other party profit, in the end will still bring greater benefits to themselves." ”
That's what he said and that's what he did.
The book tells a story that when Li Ka-shing was doing business in the early days, a foreign trade company wanted to cancel cooperation for private reasons and planned to give him some compensation. However, Li Ka-shing believed that the cancellation of cooperation would not cost him much, so he gave up the compensation. It was this model of profit concession that was recognized by this foreign trade company, so much so that li Ka-shing was later introduced to a permanent customer.
As the author said, Li Ka-shing let others earn two more points and himself two points less, but he did not become poor because of this, but became richer and richer.
This reminds the ashtray of Busch's law. The law states that what you give will be rewarded to you exponentially.
Many times, the act of making profits seems to be a loss, but behind the loss is a kind of energy savings and a display of character. People who are willing to give in profit are more worthy of deep friendship with others.
On the contrary, those who are preoccupied with everything may be able to keep their wealth in the short term, but in the long run, the more you calculate the gains and losses with others, you will have to pay a corresponding price at some point in the future.
During the Five Dynasties period, Zhang Yun, who held an official position, had to worry about his wife even a penny, and in order to prevent her from stealing her belongings, he even hung all the keys in the house around his waist.
As a result, in the face of war, his key was unfortunately snatched by the enemy. When he returned home, he found that his home had been looted, and within half a day, he vomited blood and died.
This reminded the ashtray of a quote from Master Hongyi: "If you eat a small loss, you will not suffer a big loss." ”
In the view of the ashtray, people who are preoccupied with everything are often prone to eat their own consequences, and those who are willing to suffer losses will go wider and wider. When we get along with others, we don't care about our own efforts, but give others more benefits, so that others can feel our sincerity and be more willing to come close to us and support us.
Only by abandoning comparison can we embrace happiness
I believe that most people have had such an experience: when they are young, they are more than their grades, when they grow up, they are more than their salaries, their driving is better than their brands, and their housing is better than their location.
But are we really happy in this endless comparison?
Many times, blindly climbing will only make you more tired, and even lose your original happiness.
The book mentions that a person asks a wise man for advice, why pursue happiness for a lifetime, but get only pain?
It turned out that when he lived in a small town, he tried to make himself the happiest person in the town; when he lived in a small town, he tried to make himself the happiest person in the town, and when he lived in the metropolis, he wanted to be the happiest person in the metropolis...
As a result, the more he pursues happiness, the farther away happiness is from him.
In response to this question, the wise man responded that he only pursued "happiness than others" and did not pursue his own happiness.
Indeed, in our daily lives, most people aspire to be better off than others. As everyone knows, the more we have this desire, the less happiness we have.
As the author said in the book, everyone has their own way of life, you may envy other people's lives better than you, however, other people's lives are not necessarily suitable for you.
Moreover, we are not really involved in the lives of others, we only see the bright surface of others, and we have a sense of comparison. As everyone knows, behind the brilliance of others, there are also their own sufferings.
In the Japanese drama "Always Feel Happier Next Door", Komiyayama, who dresses up in a simple way, sees the neighbor couple dressed up and goes out, and immediately feels envious.
In order to live the so-called quality of life of her neighbors, even if her family is poor, she still can't hold back her vanity and spends a lot of money to dress herself up.
But she didn't know that the well-dressed couple also had to face all kinds of troubles behind their backs.
Therefore, instead of blindly comparing with others and being affected by the superficial "quality" of others, it is better to recognize the real needs of your own heart and strive to live the life you want.
Master Hongyi enjoyed all the glory and wealth in the first half of his life, but in the second half of his life he was willing to become an ascetic and not to quarrel with the world. No matter how much the lover dissuades him, he is not moved, and still steps into the Buddha's door. Because he knew that what he was pursuing for the rest of his life was a spiritual world, a kind of love that transcended the world.
In this world, everyone is unique and has their own unique pursuits, and we do not have to live according to what others call standards.
Therefore, the ashtray believes that at any time, instead of falling into the whirlpool of comparison and being confused by the so-called "happiness" of others, it is better to see our own hearts, strive to pursue the happiness we really want, and cherish everything we have, so that we can truly enjoy it.
The author mentioned in the book: "Life in the world, poor or rich, gain or loss, is just a moment of life, a state." ”
That being the case, then whether our situation is good or bad, we must know how to let go of the things that disturb our body and mind and move forward happily.
Ashtray believes that life ends up being a process of constantly letting go.
Let go of desire, let go of resentment, let go of greed, let go of comparison, and life can have a "quiet" word.
Stillness can give birth to wisdom, and it can also produce blessings.
Letting go is actually another kind of possession.