The post-pandemic era
Our lives are always plagued by problems
Grows the "panic" in our hearts
How to stay "unhurried" in uncertainty
It is a challenge for each of us
One-way space joint Little Red Book
and 20 bookstores across the country
Together, we launched the "No Panic Mailbox" campaign
️ What is the problem of "panic" in your heart recently?
️ What is a good way to "not panic"?
We received these letters...
@Dear Nicholas: The essence of panic is to face the "unknown" and the uncontrollable, in addition to the more efficient sound of direct response and action, I occasionally find some gap between emotion and reason to fill it. Especially in autumn, when you open the window and burn incense, sometimes you will feel as if such a good season is not feeling that it is wasting for a moment, and sometimes a good cup of tea will be calming. After appeasing the anxious little beast, the only way to solve it is to face it, and the only way to deal with and cope with the anxiety of the unknown is to do a good job of one thing and a known thing that can be touched, and not to take care of too much at the same time, even if you feel that you can handle many things. When I go to complete these one by one, the sense of security I bring can avoid excessive "panic", slowly remove it from the equation of life, and understand that everything that happens is a process, accept the uncontrollable part of life, and grasp the controllable part.
via "Alone by the Sea"
@rare: (Recently" "panic" thing) every day I feel that I have to prepare for the exam to "study", and I dare not do other things to read other books, but the recent state is that I don't want to learn and resist learning, and then I am very panicked, reading other books without learning will panic, which will lead to my final failure to do anything. I will also keep procrastinating, even looking forward to starting tomorrow tomorrow and tomorrow I will cheer up! I'll be in good shape! The results are the same day after day, every day. I would be in such a state of chagrin and anxiety.
We suffer because it's not how much we really want to do it, but external factors like "career development," not what we pursue. Because I think that if I want to prepare for the exam, I can't read other books, on the contrary, I will go crazy to brush small videos and waste time, I don't usually brush videos much, but at this time, it is very contradictory! As if to avoid learning and temporarily entertain. The word "but" also represents hope, at least it means that it is good to survive, and there is hope! Don't give up! Chicken blood is coming.
via "Bottom Hot Girls"
@Giant Salamander: Recently, there are still a lot of problems in the heart of panic, probably because I am in my twenties, whether it is work or life, all aspects have suddenly poured into front of you. But if you think about it, perhaps the emotions brought about by these problems are not panic, but anxiety. As a gentle person, I am rarely surrounded by panic. Panic, or anxiety, the main point hidden under the anxiety of work and life may be "what kind of person I want to be."
For me, the way not to panic is naturally to read books, not to bear the spring light, there are books do not panic. (It's all autumn, shouldn't it be changed to autumn light hahaha?) On the one hand, when touching a book, it's easy for people to quiet down. On the other hand, thinking of so many books waiting for me to read ahead makes a lot of other things less urgent. (Maybe the book can't be read and it will become the biggest panic.) ）
At this time, I thought of a passage said by Teacher Yang Zhao, "I often say that thinking from the end and means, we often get a paradox, that is, just because you are so anxious, you can't be anxious." Because of anxiety, people say that what can help you, you are caught randomly. In fact, the more anxious you are, the more you need to slow down, because you don't have so much time to make mistakes, you have to slow down to clarify some fundamental truths, and cultivate your own deeper cognition and thinking ability. At this time, you need people or knowledge who speak the fundamentals. It was the only way I could think of. ”
via "Her"
@Lalar: I used to live a dashing and free life, a singer, a model, and now I like to write. It's just that I've been squatting at home for two months now. After graduating with a Master of Fine Arts, I worked as a counselor at a college. In the heat of layoffs last year, I escaped the system. I was eager to sell with confidence and decisiveness, so I went to Shenzhen to become a K12 salesman. Everyone said that leaving school was a crazy decision, a late rebellion. Only I know that I have lived like a marionette for the past ten years.
During the month of March going crazy for performance, I found that I didn't like my job that much. My favorite part of my job is not to take him down through all kinds of tricks, but to listen to them tell their stories. Their sorrows, their dreams, their hesitations.... Ideal and reality have torn open a huge gap. After double subtraction, I quit my job. I was going to look for a job, but I have to put it on hold. Because I found that these so-called "jobs" really didn't allow me to do what I wanted to do.
I don't want to make myself the same as before, not at all like myself. If you change careers to media as a journalist, doing interviews like Xu Zhiyuan looks a bit unrealistic. In an age when everyone is chasing how to make themselves look better than others, how an idealized person finds "self-identity" and inhabits this land is really bothering me.
via Robots and Frank
@ years climbed the tree: at the beginning of this year began to panic for the "pension", lived in the county hospital, felt that after having money, I can hospital pension, now save money, save some points. Old hospital pension. And I found that I was not alone in the county hospital, there were many human stories, and all kinds of people. Look at people, see rushed customers and doctors and nurses running at both ends. If you don't want to talk, put on your headphones. Say what you want. Join them occasionally to talk about death and have fun! It can be switched between patients and social people, and the food is good and convenient and cheap. Do not live in a single room, live in a few people's chase room, the toilet is outside, like the tube building where I lived when I was a child, at present, in addition to being expensive, I can also read quietly.
@stones: "Work" is already panicked enough, so after work I choose to relax and slow down.
@Nail: Friday's panic: Touch the fish for a week, how to write the "weekly newspaper"?
@Born: Panicking for "Graduate School". So I chose to avoid (cross out) and use mindfulness and concentration to relieve anxiety and panic.
via "Playtime"
@ Hua'er: The recent panic problem is to take the vocational certificate, every time you sign up and don't read the book, reading the book is painful, it has been delayed, and at the same time, I think that the examination is necessary for your own realistic career development, which is very important. But in the end, I gave up the exam, and I was even more panicked.
The way not to panic is to give up completely, don't take the exam, don't think about this matter in the future, comfort yourself, adjust yourself, not to take the exam is not a big deal, the examination itself is a ridiculous thing, career development love how to do it, anyway, do not like their own work, why let yourself be so painful. I'm not that kind of person (with a successful career). It's better to make yourself feel better off doing what you love.
But now the new problem is that I have given up on something that makes me miserable, and my mood has not become very good, and I have no ability to focus and do things patiently, or I don't have something that I really like. Still confused about life problems, still procrastinating, still not self-disciplined...
via The Cruel Tale of Youth
@Fengyan: "Preparation for the exam" is really anti-human, if it is something you are willing to do, learning every day is very painful, and you will only have the joy of gaining knowledge. Can only be painful, and then get used to it, almost can also learn, and finally confused test. Constantly chagrin at how I am such a person? There is always no plan and no execution, and the cycle repeats until the end of the next exam. (But now) take advantage of the young and learn!
@Wu Ya Mo Wu: Recently I felt "panicked" because I suddenly realized the correctness of the phrase "choice is greater than effort". My two aunts and I were a year apart, and I got the best grades when I was in school, but five years after graduation, I looked the least satisfied. The older brother worked as a housing agent, and soon he also bought a house in a new first-tier city, and the younger brother engaged in back-end technical work and bought a house in his hometown alone. It seems that I am the only one who is empty, and I have changed several times in Beijing, and it seems that nothing has changed, but I have lost the most energetic years. The current approach is "indirect indulgence in entertainment", which fundamentally seeks stability, abandons ambitions and ideals, and returns to real life.
via "Go to His* World"
@Lila: After a panicked life from childhood to adulthood, the anxiety of "wanting to be seen and connected" has grown. Understanding others can shape yourself. Discover the scheme of flashes and illuminate the path.
@ Foreigner: Yesterday I tried to "turn off the circle of friends", and the feeling of getting up this morning is to be relaxed and comfortable, turn off people and things that are not related to me, and have more time to pay attention to myself.
@ Fairy Balls Shrimp Rice: When learning to swallow dates, when you are not sure of what you want to do, you feel that you are just "lacking" and don't understand anything, when you don't understand whether you want to do what you should do at the age, when you face the age crisis and the comparison with others, panic.
@ Su Mu: Today I suddenly found myself a "child" with the appearance of an adult, dressing and shoes like an adult, imitating the behavior of adults, when I did not understand what to do, I have been involved in the tide of employment competition by the times, engaged in a job that I have no sense of, in order to occupy the "iron rice bowl" in the eyes of others, even if there is no sense, I have always occupied... I began to observe my current life, began to think about the future path, struggled in the whirlpool of confusion, searched...
via Milk
@Andy likes to speak English: my biggest takeaway this year compared to before is being able to relax. Slowly understand and accept your emotions, accept what you can't do, accept that you can make mistakes. There are still more than sixty days left to go to graduate school, and I have a good attitude. I believe that I can get in, and I enjoy this year's hard but pleasant graduate school time, thank you, thank you, thank you to the world, try to shine people.
@ Autumn Rain Chloe: Originally I thought that changing jobs might change a state, but suddenly my resume was seen by a company personnel after contacting me, answering the phone suddenly invincible panic, I thought what I should face the "actual" thing is, do not mainly think about what my feelings are, rationally consider their business capabilities and development needs, may reduce a lot of panic.
via "Love You Me Him"
@Fredy: In the face of the unknown everything, although I am panicked, there are miracles, luck, growth, and even a moment in the moment that makes me panic... Good world peace, sharing one earth or more... Panic and come slowly, try to see the other emotions.
If you also have Panic Story Sharing, you can participate in the "Panic Box" interaction in the following ways:
(1) Leave a message in the comment area, write down your recent "panic moment", and the story behind it;
(2) Go to the Little Red Book, bring #我要提问许知远 topic words, write down your own panic stories, or bring #我的不慌攻略 topic words to share your "no panic tricks" with everyone, such as recording "no panic book list/song list", writing "no panic diary" and so on;
(3) Deliver your own stories or questions to the "No Panic Mailbox" device of designated bookstores offline.
Thank you to the above bookstores for their support of the "No Panic Mailbox" campaign!
In particular, xiaohongshu and one-way space with the theme of "no panic", in the one-way space Hangzhou store landed a series of non-panic activities, you can:
* From October 21st to November 21st, we will be exhibited at "No Panic Island" to punch in the "Panic Box";
* From October 27th to October 30th, after 18:00, come to the "No Panic Tavern" for a drink of "No Panic Special".
Note: The above offline activities are carried out in the One-Way Space Hangzhou Store, for details, you can pay attention to the official account of the One-Way Space on the Little Red Book App.
Life is hard, let's start with sharing and arrive without panicking.
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