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In our consistent cognition, the way women express their feelings is relatively subtle, even if they like a person, they dare not take the initiative to pursue, but will only silently hide in their hearts.
But in reality, this is a misconception and a gender bias.
On the contrary, if a woman really loves a person, she will only become braver than usual, and she will try her best to seize her own fate, even if she is rejected by the other party and tries her best, there will be no regrets.
Why do some people say that men chase women across the mountain, and women chase men across the yarn?
It's not that it's easier for women to take the initiative to pursue men, but that they have a lot of determination and have the imperative to act.
Hugo wrote in Les Misérables: "The first manifestation of true love in boys is timidity, and in girls is boldness." ”
A simple sentence is enough to tell us that men and women face different feelings.
For women, if they are emotional about a certain opposite sex, they will inevitably express it directly or indirectly, hoping that the other party can feel it and then react differently.
If the hint doesn't work, they may confess directly.
Such women are brave and relatively easier to be happy, after all, people who know how to live for themselves, themselves regard themselves as the focus of life, they do not please others, only themselves.
In the process of getting along with a woman, if you find that she often makes these jokes, most of them mean that she is emotional about you, otherwise she will not cross the line in language.
If you also like her, you may wish to respond positively so as not to miss this rare fate.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="14" >: No, let's make it up, right? </h1>
When a woman talks to you in a joking tone, she is already emotional about you, but she is not sure if you will reject her, in order to find a step for herself in advance, she will say it in the form of a joke.
In fact, many truths are said in the form of jokes.
This can make the relationship between the two people less awkward and tense, and at the same time, you can leave yourself a way back. It's an art in language.
Many women, after being emotional about a certain opposite sex, will always be tempted to approach him, trying to get his attention and close the distance between each other.
She will intentionally or unintentionally talk to you about emotional topics, and then take the opportunity to say: "No, let's make it up, right?" ”
This is a kind of temptation, but also a confession, your answer and reaction will directly determine her attitude towards you in the future, and the choice of this relationship, so be cautious to answer.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="21" > two: I don't know, I thought you were interested in me</h1>
This kind of joke is actually a retreat method, she tries to make the distance between you become close, but also to see what kind of attitude you have towards her.
Before Jiajia was with her boyfriend, she often joked with him like this.
Whenever he replied to a message in seconds, or when he needed his help, he was always the first to arrive, or when he would always find a way to care for himself and be good to himself, she would say in passing:
"You're so nice to me, you don't know, I thought you were interesting to me."
In fact, the person who was really moved was her, but she did not dare to admit it easily, so she would test it with such a joke.
Later, the two confirmed the relationship, and the boyfriend confessed that at first he only regarded Jiajia as an ordinary friend, but she always liked to make some ambiguous jokes, and over time, love grew.
Remember what Jane Austen said in Pride and Prejudice: "No one can fall in love without any encouragement." ”
This sentence is enough to remind us that no matter which party takes the initiative, it is extremely important to get a response.
If you don't get a response, no matter how deep the feelings are, there will be a day of indifference, and no matter how active people are, there will be a day of withdrawal.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="31" > three: I see that you are not too old, or consider me</h1>
Many lovers get along as ordinary friends before becoming lovers, but when one of them is emotional about the other, the way they get along will slowly change.
If one of the parties has been single for too long and is not young, then the emotional other party may joke: "I see that you are not small, it is really not OK, consider me." ”
After saying this, I may add another sentence: "Although this has indeed wronged me, who makes me your good friend?" ”
Don't think that these jokes are something she said casually, and before that, she may have had a long struggle of thought and made a lot of determination.
If you say yes, she might ask you with surprise and delight, really?
If you say, don't joke, she may fall into a moment of loss, but in order to hide the embarrassment, she may say: "It was a joke, you think I really like you." 」 ”
But in fact, how uncomfortable her heart was at that moment, I am afraid that only she herself knows.
For a woman, when she's not sure if the other person likes her, she's often brave, but at the same time cautious.
Bravery lies in not wanting to miss, and caution lies in taking care of yourself.
Although she usually makes a lot of ambiguous jokes with you, she is serious about feelings, and will joke with you when she is emotional, and in front of others, she is more serious than anyone.
Don't get her wrong, if you really like her, be brave and respond to her positively.
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