There is a lyric that says, "There is a kind of love called letting go." "When their children start a family, parents should let go of their children.
As the old saying goes, "Marry the daughter, spill the water." "Since the daughter married out, the woman's parents usually rarely intervene in the affairs of the daughter's family, but the man is different, and there are always some mother-in-law who do not know the sense of proportion to make the son's family a miasma and stir up a pool of muddy water."
It is the nature of parents to lick the love of calves, and after the child enters the society, the parents are always worried that the child will be difficult to cope with the trivialities of life. Whether the child's marriage is happy or not, whether the partner is suitable, all the time let the mother-in-law remember.
Even if it is encounter, it is fate, and only by cherishing each other can we live up to the situation.
When you are in love, it is a matter of two people, but marriage is a matter of two families. This is why two people are full of sweetness when they are in love, but after marriage, they have reached the point where they are tired of looking at each other and even finally divorcing. A large part of it is because the mother-in-law obstructs it. Marriage is not a one-man show, it requires the active cooperation of partners, and unilateral payment will make the balance of love unbalanced and eventually lead to tragedy.
When it comes to marriage, everyone will think of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem that every woman who enters marriage has to face, but the soldiers will cover up the water, the problem will always have a solution, solved, the mother-in-law relationship is a stepping stone to marriage, if it is not solved well, it will become a stumbling block to marriage.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in many families is always bad, and the root cause is that "the mother-in-law is too nosy". When the child has his own family, the sensible parents will know how to let go, or care for the child in another way, rather than directly involving in the child's family.
Fan Zhang Lili said in a private message that because her mother-in-law always likes to meddle in her affairs with her husband, she does not know how to be good, and finally she is mad at her mother-in-law...
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="9" > mother-in-law has to go in, and the daughter-in-law is not satisfied with everywhere</h1>
Zhang Lili knew before marriage that her mother-in-law was not a good stubble, and when she first met, her mother-in-law gave herself a big one, but Zhang Lili felt that she was going to live with her husband Wang Wei, so even if there was a mother-in-law's difficulty in front, it did not make Zhang Lili's determination to spend the rest of her life with Wang Wei shrink.
From an early age, the education of parents told themselves that they should respect their elders and be courteous to their juniors. Good tutoring makes Zhang Lili feel good in school and in the workplace, but she suffers from her mother-in-law.
Zhang Lili has always felt that as long as she is obedient enough to her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law will one day show a smile on herself, because Zhang Lili tries to meet her mother-in-law's requirements.
The pain of menstruation must have been experienced by all the sisters, menstruation is something, some people come without feeling, but some people are fidgeting, abdominal pain is unbearable.
Zhang Lili has been cold since childhood, and her abdominal pain is unbearable when menstruation comes, and sometimes she will faint in pain. On this day, the eldest aunt came to visit again, and on the occasion of the weekend holiday, the mother-in-law took out her score again and ordered: "Daughter-in-law, you go and wash Wang Wei's clothes." ”
Zhang Lili very obediently stuffed Wang Wei's clothes into the washing machine, who knew that the mother-in-law scolded: "Do you know how expensive Wei Wei's clothes are?" You can wash them by machine, and Wei Wei's clothes can only be washed by hand. ”
"Okay, Mom, I'll send him to the dry cleaner later." Zhang Lili said weakly.
"Send to the dry cleaner, how much does it cost, no, you have to wash by hand, now the children don't know how to save." The mother-in-law scolded.
Zhang Lili can only hold the bucket to put hot water, who knows the mother-in-law is not satisfied, said: "What hot water to use, the water heater boils water and costs more electricity, wash it with cold water, and it is not hot in the summer." ”
"But Mom, I'm menstruating." Zhang Lili said with a bitter face.
"When who hasn't had their period?" When I used to come here, I didn't work in the fields as usual, so who would show me this pitiful picture? The mother-in-law scolded.
Zhang Lili can only wash with cold water, after a while, about to be woken up, Wang Wei yawned out, but saw his wife squatting in the bathroom to wash her own clothes, Wang Wei hurriedly helped Zhang Lili up, a touch of hand, so cold! Wang Wei was surprised in his heart.
"Isn't it uncomfortable, how can you still wash your clothes, rest for two days, and don't rest well at home?" Wang Wei said with concern.
Although the mother-in-law is difficult to engage, the husband still cares about himself, which makes Zhang Lili feel very relieved.
"Mom, Lily came to aunt, why do you still let her work?" Wang Wei complained.
"Stinky boy, when your mother came, didn't you have to go out and work for you in the big sun, but didn't you feel bad?" I'll let her wash her clothes and you'll be upset like this?" The mother-in-law said.
Because the husband is toward himself, causing the mother-in-law to become more and more intense, and the words he says to himself are more and more excessive, but thinking that Wang Wei and himself are one heart, it is gradually not so difficult, so Zhang Lili's unreasonable demands on her mother-in-law will also be satisfied as much as possible.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="27" > daughter-in-law kicks the mother-in-law out and completely cleans up the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. </h1>
After a month, Zhang Lili found out that she was pregnant, and the two bars on the pregnancy test stick made her ecstatic, so Wang Wei took more careful care of Zhang Lili, and the mother-in-law also treated herself for this reason, and did not dictate to herself as before.
The other day Zhang Lili was always nauseated, tired and vomited and had a low appetite, but in recent days Zhang Lili suddenly felt that these feelings had disappeared, Zhang Lili was still joking that the child finally did not toss himself, Wang Wei also promised to accompany himself to the hospital for two days to take a good look.
The hospital on Saturdays was particularly busy, especially the obstetrics and gynecology department. Light row B super from eight o'clock in the morning to eleven o'clock at noon, Wang Wei worried about his own involvement, found a seat for himself to sit down, he lined up for more than three hours, see Wang Wei so distressed himself, Zhang Lili felt happy from the bottom of his heart, everything seemed to be developing in a good place, only to see Zhang Lili touching his stomach and saying: "Baby, you see how much Daddy hurts us two." ”
However, the doctor's words suddenly sent Zhang Lili to hell, and the child stopped.
The happiness of the morning is in stark contrast to the present.
"Surgery must be done immediately, otherwise, it will be irreversible damage to the body of the pregnant woman." The doctor said.
"You're still young, and you'll still have to take good care of them." Zhang Lili did not listen to a word of the doctor's words.
Until she returned home, Zhang Lili could not accept the fact that her child was gone.
Wang Wei was even more upset in his heart, but knowing that Zhang Lili was even more upset than himself, he did not show it, but instead comforted Zhang Lili: "It's okay, there will be more." The child felt that it was too early to come down now, so he flew back and waited for the right time to come down again..."
With the unit to leave, Zhang Lili at home muddled for several days, Wang Wei also simply took a leave, accompanied by Zhang Lili at home, who knew that the mother-in-law knew that the child was gone, rushed to the home, scolded: "Something that is not useful, even a child can not be retained, you must not pay attention, lost my grandson, and now still pull my son not to work, and fall with you at home." ”
"Mom, don't you say it, Lily is worse than anyone without a child, why would you say such a thing?" Wang Wei couldn't look at it anymore and retorted.
"You're still speaking for her, and it's really elbows twisting outward." The mother-in-law said angrily: "I didn't come for a few days, she lost the child, and didn't teach the house for three days..." The mother-in-law still chattered.
"Shut up, don't say it." No one expected Zhang Lili to lose her temper, "The matter of our two mouths, outsiders get out." ”
Zhang Lili seemed to be unable to bear it any longer, and said: "Whoever twisted his elbow outward, we are the family, I, Wang Wei, we are two sons, why do I just want to live a good life, why do I have to keep mixing it, Mom, my parents have always taught me to respect the elders, I see that you are the mother-in-law's sake more tolerant, why, you always do not let me go, peaceful coexistence is not good, is it only I divorced Wang Wei you can be satisfied, Wang Wei is not your appendage, I am not an appendage of Wang Wei, the days are for us to come by ourselves, we don't need your pointing, the child is sad that no one is there, so don't say it again, please don't come again in the future..."
"You and I are happy to take care of you." Looking at her son and not facing herself, the mother-in-law threw her hands and walked away.
What Zhang Lili did not expect was that later her mother-in-law really did not find her own trouble, but she did not move around so often, but Zhang Lili knew that she still had to fulfill her obligation to support her mother-in-law, so the surface was also calm.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="44" > blind tolerance can not be exchanged for respect. </h1>
Respect is mutual, and blind tolerance will only be exchanged for the other's inch. To be a person is to have your own bottom line, not to be foolish, even in the face of mother-in-law, you must also show your bottom line.
For the mother-in-law, the son is his own bottom line, with hard work to pull the son to grow up, so the son has a lot of hopes, but after the son has his own family, the mother-in-law is temporarily difficult to accept that she is no longer the most important woman in the son's life, the mother-in-law does not know how to withdraw with dignity, so there are many incidents.
And for the daughter-in-law, after marriage, I hope to have my own family, at this time the intervention of the mother-in-law makes herself have a very big resistance, it is recommended that everyone, encounter such a situation, patiently communicate with the mother-in-law, if the mother-in-law is difficult to communicate, it is more important to keep their own bottom line, never give in, do not let the mother-in-law over their heads.
Mutual respect and a sense of distance are the right way for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along.
Everything is just because of love, because of the mother-in-law's love for her son, because of her love for her husband, as long as both parties put themselves in the right position and see each other's efforts, the contradiction can naturally be resolved.
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If you are Zhang Lili, in the face of such a mother-in-law, what will you choose to do?
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