<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > do you have the experience of having some kind of difficulty in your life, you think someone can help you solve it, you wanted to contact him immediately, but you had to hesitate, worried about whether it would be too abrupt? Or even rejected by him because he was too abrupt? </h1>
When you find someone to help, you have to consider two questions: whether others have the ability to do this or not to help you. Generally speaking, it is easier for us to think of friends who have the ability to help themselves, so the difficulty is whether others are willing to help.
Unfortunately, you tend to ignore people who can help you, let alone pay attention to them.
What is the root cause of your hesitation?
Although the Internet is so convenient now, you have very little contact with him. You open your social software such as WeChat, Buckle, etc., flip to the chat page you have with him, and it is blank. You remember that the last time you contacted him was half a year ago. Obviously, you didn't do what you should do as a friend, knew little about his big and small things, and didn't take the initiative to ask. This is the root cause of your hesitation.
As the saying goes: "Friends have more roads to go". You must not allow yourself to be in this state for a long time. In fact, you can refer to the following ways to maintain your relationship with your friends.
First: Take the initiative to contact people and make frequent phone calls.
Now the more convenient the network, the more contacts are needed between friends. Usually, even if you are busy, don't forget to take some time to take the initiative to chat with your friends and nag. This will give your friend a chance to speak to you about his heart, and at the same time, your friend will be able to learn about your recent life situation. In this way, even if you are in trouble one day, your friend will understand you more and his heart will be more receptive.
Second, learn to invest in your friendships with your friends and have a little more personal interaction.
In a previous memoir, it was mentioned that a person who was appointed to form a cabinet was very anxious at the beginning of his appointment. Because a government's cabinet has at least seven or eight cabinet members, how can you find so many people who are suitable for you? This is indeed a difficult task, because in addition to the appropriate talents and experiences, the most important point is that the selected person has some friendship with himself. It can be seen how important friendship is in today's society.
In real life, everyone is busy with their own lives, and many times you and your friends can't see each other for a long time. So for this part of the friends, you should pay attention to some of their major events, such as marriage, birthday, etc. Of course, in ordinary life, if conditions permit, you can try to send small gifts to friends and increase a little human contact.
Third, remember the good of friends and learn to think in empathy
After people have a close relationship, it is always easy to demand more and more from the other party, always thinking that others should be good to them; but if the friend is slightly ill-rounded or cannot take care of it, there will be resentment. In the long run, it is easy to form a vicious circle and eventually damage the relationship between the two sides.
We have an old proverb called "To be fair, do it upside down." "Sometimes we are so angry that we think someone else is wrong. In fact, the situation may be far more complicated than your own identification.
Give it a try and put yourself in the other person's shoes. Ask yourself: If you were in such an environment, what would you think, what would you do? In fact, many times too much attention to the results and ignore the conclusions drawn by the process are often very unreasonable. Always habitual preconceived, it is easy to destroy the feelings between people. In life, remember to give your friends more understanding.
Finally, I would like to say that friends are not easy to come by, and I cherish you and me.