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See a sentence about self-disciplined women:
"Emotionally timely stop loss, find out that after the mistake, can be a woman who can make a decision on the spot." It is not that she does not love, but she knows that this relationship is doomed to have no results, and the more persistent she is, the more bottomless the abyss. To the one who pulls down your energy and quality of life, the one who consumes you recklessly. The most effective way is to stop the loss in time, do not make noise, do not explain, turn away, women remember, when the direction is wrong, stopping is the biggest progress, this sentence applies to any relationship! ”
Deeply believed, because a woman's youth is always passing, so when you realize that you are wrong, your timely stop loss is always more important than fighting for greater interests. Noisy and noisy, but you are consuming yourself, and what good can tangling with a person with negative energy do you?
The woman who can stop the loss in time is the high rank, she can marry well, and she can live happily, because she knows what is really good for herself. How many unhappy women are constantly repeating in their marriages, they just don't understand this, and as a result, they are constantly consuming themselves, wasting time, wasting youth, and the final outcome may not be good.
02
The husband cheated on her for the second time, He Qing realized the importance of stopping the loss in time, but at this time, she was already pregnant with her second child for eight months, and she was about to give birth, what do you let her do? Because the first time her husband cheated and did not stop the loss in time, he hoped to use the child to tie up his husband to help him stabilize the marriage, which led to greater harm to himself.
He Qing asked me what to do?
I said you can only continue to be patient now, there is no other way. Stabilizing your emotions and raising your body to give birth to your child is the most important thing. As for the negative husband, you don't have any conflict with him, you must let yourself learn to pretend, and don't expose yourself too easily. You're now eight months pregnant and you're about to give birth, and you're going to have to take a long time to tune yourself. Things have developed to this point, timely stop loss is useless for you, you can only wait for the later to clean up, later retaliation. It would be nice to use the negative husband as a tool, if he is still good.
In fact, this is the case, the first time wrong failed to stop the loss in time, then when the second time you face the same danger, you can only continue to accept to entangle with it, you have no other way. I can't escape, and it's not so easy to escape.
He Qing came to me when her husband first cheated on me, and what I told her was to sort out the feelings between your husband and wife and think of your own way out. But how I told her was useless, and as soon as my husband begged for forgiveness, she quickly forgave her. After forgiveness, what is even more incomprehensible? He Qing didn't think much of it and became pregnant with her second child.
The matter of having a second child is of course the icing on the cake for people with good feelings, but for couples with bad feelings, it is just to tie you up, so that you can't escape from marriage, making it more difficult for you than before.
But He Qing has already taken this road, and now she does not have the ability to stop her loss in time.
He Qing is the kind of woman who attaches great importance to feelings, and her heart is not so strong, so even if I tell her about the compromise method, she may not be able to do it. People are always like this, the reason is understood, so that they can control their own mentality, and only a few people can improve themselves.
Therefore, it can be expected that He Qing will still complain after that, or will find someone to talk to, and will still ask people "My husband cheated on me and can't go home, I have two children, what can I do?" What can be done? You can't get back a man who cheats again and again, all you can change is yourself, don't love him anymore, don't pin your hopes on him anymore, but strengthen yourself, become your own backer.
03
Unlike He Qing,who is indecisive, Li Qian is a woman who knows how to stop losses in time.
Li Qian had a relationship that had been talking for three years, she met and fell in love with her ex in her junior year, they did not break up after graduating from college, Li Qian went to graduate school, and her boyfriend directly came out to work. Maybe it's too many social temptations, and the boyfriend cheated after they got engaged.
After Li Qian learned about it, she didn't sleep all night, and she was wondering where the relationship between them should go?
Break up, three years of feelings are reluctant, after all, it is the first love, she really likes it, there have been too many beautiful responses between the two people. Don't divide it, but this thing is really a diaphragmatic person, engaged not long to get married, such a thing happened. Li Qian did not mess with her boyfriend, she felt that there was nothing to argue about, because things had already happened, and no matter how much explanation was sophistry. Li Qian's final choice is to break up, instead of being disappointed in the marriage, it is better to simply cut off the love thread completely before marriage.
The boyfriend knelt down with her and begged for forgiveness, and Li Qian said: "You are right, it is my mistake, it is I think you are a person who loves me well." I know that feelings can't last a lifetime, and I know that feelings can change, but I didn't expect this day to come so quickly. ”
After the breakup, her boyfriend came to her several times, and waited for her at the place where she left work with roses, but no matter what her boyfriend did, she still didn't look back.
Later, after being single for two years, Li Qian began to fall in love again. Friends asked her if she regretted giving up that relationship, and said that even if she married this man now, maybe she might be cheating in the future.
Li Qian said: "It is true that I cannot predict the future, but I can grasp the present, the present is very good for me, and I will talk about it later." But I'm not the kind of woman who is easily controlled, and I like to control myself. I also know what women should do to be happy in their marriage. Women should put more thought into themselves than on men. As for feelings, don't be too real, no one can be your lifelong backer, you have to constantly improve yourself. I didn't think of marriage as a lifelong affair. ”
Actually, I don't know what will happen later, but when things happen, we can't let ourselves be with a person with negative energy, what he does will consume your emotions, can you two still have a future? Don't let yourself put this life completely on marriage, whether we can live happily or not, in the final analysis, depends on what kind of attitude we live.
Li Qian will be happy, and the men who marry her will also cherish her, wise women, luck has never been too bad, because they know how to choose how to make their lives happy.
04
We all know the saying, "Marriage is a woman's second reincarnation", but have you found that women have always pinned their hopes on others, as if others are strong, you will live well yourself. Before getting married, you rely on your mother's family, and after you get married, you rely on a husband who is loyal to yourself, but you hope for others, and you yourself will be disappointed.
The mother's family may not be able to be reliable, and after marriage, you may meet people who are unladylike.
Only to strengthen yourself, you have to be a woman on your own.
Women must know how to choose for themselves, it does not matter if they choose the wrong direction, they must know how to stop losses in time, sometimes the direction is wrong, the more persistent the more persistent, the more bottomless the abyss. Some women can marry well, not lucky, but they are really wise, and women want to live well depends on wisdom, not on men.
Be a smart woman who knows how to stop losses in time and you will be happier.
Today's topic: Are you a wise woman who belongs to the timely stop loss? Welcome to leave a message.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.