Hello teacher: I am in the medical aesthetic industry, I have been busy with work, and my emotional life is not very smooth. I am 31 years old and have met my current boyfriend on a dating site, and we are both divorced.
He's 42 years old, we've been together for 8 months, and we've been together many times, and he won't buy anything for me, and I won't ask for anything. But the feeling in my heart is still very uncomfortable.
I have been reunited once before, and I broke up again after two months of compounding. Now it has been half a month since the last breakup, and the WeChat between us has also been deleted.
I know I'm stupid and don't know how to talk to him, and now I miss him and don't know how to do it, hoping the teacher can help me.
Hello, after reading your story, I can feel that you are a very insecure person, but I can also feel that you are a brave person. Although there was a failed marriage, you were not defeated by this failure, and you are willing to continue to try to contact new people, which is also a victory.
But, at the same time, you also have to deal with the effects of a failed marriage. This will undoubtedly give you the next relationship life, producing a projection that is not particularly beautiful, so that you can feel that you have been in a very closed state in this new relationship, and do not want to open yourself up to let the other party know. After encountering problems, there will be no communication, and the problem can only be solved by deleting the contact information. No matter how reluctant you are, you don't know how to do it, which leads to a breakup.
If you want to save it, first of all, you have to adjust your mentality, let yourself become proactive, you don't always retreat, you have to take the initiative to add his contact information. Take the initiative to tell him why you have so many emotions and take the initiative to tell him what your feelings for him look like. Also tell him how you want him to express your love for you?
Before saying this, you must have enough courage and have good psychological construction. When you start to feel secure, and it's from the inside out, you can express what you want to say, say what you want to say.
You have to believe in yourself and at the same time believe that you deserve to be loved.
Men do not take the initiative to pay in love, in the eyes of women is not enough love. But many times, it is actually because men will not give, which will make us think that we do not love enough. So how can a man show his love generously?
The answer is simple: giving only one candy at a time always makes him feel overwhelmed.
When a man knows he has all of you, it's also when he loses interest in you. A man is like a small hungry cat, if he is easily satisfied, he will only eat more and more hungry, and even get tired. Only by keeping him looking forward to it forever will he feel like having you as a treasure.
Many silly girls in love, like pouring beans, pour out all their brains to each other, and the ending is usually to leave him with the feeling that you are just like that. Smart women always know how to retain, only show seven points, the remaining three points left to each other to speculate and reverie, men will have a sense of surprise to you, will always have the motivation to explore you.
In my future articles, I will share more techniques and words of giving only one candy at a time, so that he feels a new you at each stage, both excited and fascinated, wanting to continue to follow you, understand you, and sink more and more into your love maze.
I wish you happiness!