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Emotional Self-Description of a 41-Year-Old Woman: My 10-Year Secret Love Story

author:Jia Yizhen

Ten years of romance will eventually return, and the fate will come and go like water.

Before getting married, I was a naughty girl. I love to play all kinds of games, love to shop, travel, go to bars, and have had several boyfriends, but most of them are unreliable and feel very hurt.

Later, my colleague introduced me to my current husband. Although at first glance my husband is not as handsome as my previous boyfriend, he is calm, aggressive and friendly to people. After dating for half a year, I decided that this was the person I had entrusted all my life, and with the blessing of relatives and friends, we got married.

Emotional Self-Description of a 41-Year-Old Woman: My 10-Year Secret Love Story

I also said goodbye to my previous life, changed my previous bad habits, and resolved to be a good wife and mother to take care of my family.

Life after marriage is simple. Slowly, I realized that this was not the life I wanted. My husband is too unsympathetic, doesn't understand love and women.

It is said that women like romance, but holidays, even wedding anniversaries, even a bouquet of flowers will not send me, let alone any elaborate unexpected surprises. When I was carefully dressed up and deliberately displayed in front of him, he didn't know how to praise, I'm afraid I didn't know what it was called "female for self-pleasing".

ay! It felt like marrying an elm lump.

However, while I don't like my current married life, I have to move on, after all, it was my own choice!

More than a year after my marriage, the birth of my child allowed me to put all my energy into the child. It was at this time that my husband's company wanted to explore foreign markets, and my husband was given an important task and became the head of the company in charge of the company. Since then, we have begun a life of separation between the two places.

He can only come back once every two months. At first I wasn't used to this kind of life, I complained on the phone and he comforted me every time. He said that the market situation is very good, he is the person in charge, stay outside for a few more years, make more money, you will work hard for a while.

In order to help me take care of the children, he asked his mother to come from his hometown to live with me. My husband is relatively young, there's no problem taking care of the kids alone, and I have more free time.

At that time, I didn't recover after giving birth, which made me very distressed, and I decided to go to the gym. I got a card at a health club at a friend's introduction, and I met Zhang Ju, who also came to the gym often, and was in his early 1.8 meters tall, typical of the kind of eight-pack abs man who fascinated women.

Soon, we got better.

Emotional Self-Description of a 41-Year-Old Woman: My 10-Year Secret Love Story

Then, as long as I can't see him one day, I feel that there is something wrong, and his romance and affection attract me, in stark contrast to my husband's incomprehensible style.

The appearance of Zhang Ju made my long-suppressed emotions begin to spread again. He is a lover, knows women very well, and is very pleasing to me. He started giving me gifts, buying me all kinds of bags, and taking me to all kinds of high-end places of consumption. In his big house, I tasted mouth-watering French Lafite wine. We drank, talked, played...

In order to stay with him and not let my mother-in-law and husband suspect me, I would come home on time, rush to do housework, buy gifts for my mother-in-law, chat with her at home, very considerate. Every time my husband came home, my mother-in-law would praise me in front of my husband. For a few days when my husband came home, I would make what he liked to eat and chat with him. The husband was also satisfied. In fact, at this time, what I was silently thinking about was Zhang Ju.

Sometimes when I am at home alone at night, I feel that my husband works hard outside, the children are cared for by the mother-in-law, he gives me the pay card, I live a rich life, I am also guilty, and want to cut off contact with Zhang Ju. However, when I saw Zhang Ju, I couldn't make up my mind. I have to say that Zhang Ju understands women's hearts too well, and I am deeply fascinated and can't extricate myself...

A month ago, my husband came back and he told me that he had applied to transfer back. When I heard him say this, my heart tightened: Why did he suddenly come back?

After my husband left, I slipped words out of my mother-in-law's mouth. My mother-in-law said that my husband had heard some gossip from his colleagues about me, and although my husband was not sure, he still felt that he had been away for a long time and should choose to come back.

A few days later, my husband returned to the company headquarters. I knew I should make a break with Zhang Ju now.

Emotional Self-Description of a 41-Year-Old Woman: My 10-Year Secret Love Story

I met with Zhang Ju and told him about the situation. Zhang Ju is an old driver of the love field and knows that he should let go at the right time.

We finally warmed up once, announced the end of the ten-year relationship, deleted each other's contact information, and the two sides agreed not to contact again, and if they met by chance, they would all be passers-by.

Now, I am completely back in my family, the romance is like water has flowed away, and everything is calm.

Occasionally I think: Should I blame myself for that decade?