Love or not love, in fact, there is really no need to guess, when the other party does not love, your heart already has the answer, the reason why you are unwilling to admit it is to fantasize that the other party will change their minds.
In fact, men who have changed their hearts are like bubbling Coke, although the surface has not changed much, but the taste is not as good as before.
A man who has changed his heart, no matter how seamlessly he pretends on the surface, will still show his horse's feet.
Some people say that if the feelings are good or not, you can see the difference when you sleep.
Although this statement is a bit exaggerated, it is not unreasonable, the man who loves you is from the heart; and the man who has changed his heart is only coping, and for the matter between husband and wife, it is only a routine.
He may deceive anyone, but he can't fool you, because no one in this world knows him better than you.
When a man changes his heart, even if he disguises it well, in fact, there will be the following two changes before going to bed.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="8" >01: Active room splitting</h1>
The man who loves you is eager to stick to you all the time, but the man who does not love you will only cope, as long as you do not want to touch him, he does not want to touch you.
Even in order to escape, he will choose to take the initiative to sleep with you.
You may think he's cold, but it's not, he just lost interest in you.
There is such a small story on the Internet:
One couple has been married for many years, and at the beginning the two got along more happily, and life was particularly happy.
However, slowly the man had someone else in his heart, and he began to dislike his wife, although he was very uncomfortable in his heart, but he could not be blatant.
Therefore, in order not to sleep with his wife, he often had nothing to do, and he worked against his wife, who asked him to wash his feet, and he just did not wash.
In the end, the wife got angry and asked him to go to another room to sleep, which was exactly what the man wanted.
After the man went to another room, he did not want to come back, and the wife understood the reason, she let her husband come back to sleep, but the husband was unwilling, saying that he was not willing to wash his feet for fear of smoking her.
Although on the surface, the man is considerate of the wife, but the wife immediately understands the meaning of the other party.
She said, "Are you doing this for my own good?" I see you just to quit me. ”
After the wife finished speaking, the man did not refute it.
Because, that's exactly what he meant, and later, they divorced.
A man who doesn't love you is very good at making excuses, although on the surface it is for your own good, but in fact it is extremely selfish.
I have someone else in my heart, otherwise, how can I not touch you for a long time?
As a man, if there is no physical problem, he will not lose interest in his wife, and when the other party is not even willing to give you the most basic needs, he says that he has you in his heart, even if you will not believe it.
As the saying goes:
"There is no desire to get closer physically, so why is there still you in your heart?" The body is far away, the heart is far away, and the love for each other is over. ”
In fact, it really is.
Any good relationship begins physically, and without the interest in touching you, it is difficult to love.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="29" >02: Sleep back-to-back with double beds separated by a sea</h1>
The most distant distance in the world is not that they cannot love each other, nor that they cannot be together, but that they are on the same double bed, but the other party is very happy and has someone else in their hearts.
When they first got married, most couples would sleep in each other's arms, and men were loving women enough, but over time, this love slowly changed.
Even touching each other more times feels superfluous.
Of course, it is not ruled out that people who love each other can always love each other, they may go to the end together, in addition to these people, there are naturally many emotional problems.
Although in the same bed, I always slept back-to-back.
This distance seems to be very close, in fact, the other party's heart has long been separated from you, the reason why you can't leave is because you still have a marriage contract with each other, and the fact that you are husband and wife.
In the past, when you talked to him, even if he was particularly sleepy, he would force himself to sleep and chat with you.
And now, even if he is not sleepy, he will deliberately pretend to be very sleepy, the purpose is to refuse to talk to you.
Friends Sunny has recently encountered such a problem, the husband who used to talk about everything, now rarely talks to himself, they seem to have become familiar strangers.
Although under the same roof, she could no longer guess her husband's thoughts.
When sleeping, sunny days often have nothing to say, and the husband is only "um" and "ah" echo.
Sunny day asked the husband if he was tired, the husband said yes, and then he no longer paid attention to each other, as long as the sunny day did not speak, he would never say half a sentence.
Sunny day asked me: "Xiao Bei, do you say that my husband does not love me anymore, what should I do?" ”
Although I already had the answer in my heart, I still couldn't bear to hurt her, but said that the other party may really just be tired.
Hearing me say this, Sunny day was relieved.
In fact, sunny days should not ask me, whether my husband loves, she knows better than anyone, the reason why I asked, just want to find someone to cheat on themselves together, I hope that my husband can fall in love with himself again one day.
However, this is really impossible.
When a man's heart is not on you, you have to be broken, it is good to solve the problem, but if it can't be solved, there is really no need to be soft or entangled.
You have to understand one thing, and that's that the rest of your life is expensive and you're going to be with people who deserve it.
Men who don't love you are like people who pretend to be asleep, even if you can make them turn over, you can't let the other person give you half a response.
He was originally very sober, just pretending, the purpose is to ignore you, and you want him to ignore you, then isn't this just begging for self-inflicted suffering?
The man who loves you will never treat you like this, and it is too late to love you, how can he snub you?
A person who truly loves you is worthy of your love, and those who do not love you, even if the surface is well disguised, you must stay away.
Because, for him, it may be nothing, but for you, it is a dangerous game.
And the damage caused by this game will even make you a lifetime.
Whether a man loves you or not, his body will tell you that a man who does not want to be close to you, who is not willing to give you warmth, who is not willing to sleep with you, how can a man who really loves you?
Life is short, I hope you can be responsible for your own love, but also responsible for your own heart.
In this way, happiness will come quietly.
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