No matter who it is, as long as you are in love, you will feel tired.
"Last week, I did 4 offline trainings, and I was severely sleep deprived and tired to the point of autism.
When I was resting, my wife asked me to go shopping, and I was a hundred unwilling in my heart, but I thought that I was busy ignoring her for a week, so I insisted on going.
In a bad mood, I felt that she didn't understand me enough.
Knowing that I have been busy for a week, why can't you understand me?
The whole time muddy, made a qualified tool person, to the door of the Lego store in my shocked eyes my wife went in and took a set of Lego I had long wanted out.
I have seen this set of LEGO several times before, and I have discussed it with her several times, but I have always felt a little expensive and reluctant to buy it.
She had bought it last week but the store was out of stock this week to get it.
Instantly, I felt that after a week of hard work, it was also a good thing to accompany my wife to go shopping. ”
In fact, whether in love or marriage, it is normal to be tired.
When the relationship is confirmed, we are no longer a simple independent individual, and love gives us sweetness and happiness while also requiring us to assume corresponding obligations.
For example: accompaniment,
When individual needs conflict with the obligations you need to take on as a partner, you will encounter a situation similar to mine, which I obviously don't want to do, but I should do.
I originally wanted to go to play with my friend on the weekend, but my girlfriend made an appointment to go shopping.
I wanted to go to dinner with my girlfriend over the weekend, but my boyfriend said that he was going to go to a family party this weekend.
When self-thinking and partner obligations conflict and choose to compromise, the relationship feels tired.
This kind of "tiredness" within the normal range is actually normal in the relationship, and most people, before entering love, are also ready to pay, so such tiredness is usually acceptable to both parties.
The "tiredness" that really hurts the relationship, and even wants people to escape from a relationship, is usually the tiredness that is not within the normal range.
As mentioned earlier, when individual needs and obligations need to be assumed, it can be tiring. Summarizing this sentence, it is not difficult for us to conclude that the tiredness in love comes from the conflict between obligations and individual needs.
Within the normal relationship identity, conflicts that arise naturally, such as the conflict between loyalty and harem, the conflict of companionship and freedom, the "tiredness" generated by it usually does not hurt the feelings. Because the parties are already prepared to bear these burdens.
The conflict that really makes people "tired of not loving" comes from the conflict between the obligations and the needs of one party.
For example, the woman said, "If you love me, you should buy me." To buy her something is to love her, which is her concocted obligation, which is not in the scope of the obligation of normal love. When the "obligation" to buy her something conflicts with the demand for not being willing to spend this money, the "tiredness" generated by this will really make people "tired and not love".
If you are a girl, think about your boyfriend, asking you not to talk to other people of the opposite sex, even the company leaders; asking that you can't sleep late and saying that it is not good for the skin; asking that you can't wear makeup on the grounds that you want to seduce people who are useless; also asking that you can't promote and can't read, because "women are talentless is virtuous"... Do you feel tired from such a relationship?
If you are a boy, think about looking at your girlfriend, I want you to delete all the women on WeChat; I want you to send her a bag of lipstick cosmetics on your anniversary every month; I want you to carefully plan a trip abroad on your anniversary every year; when she makes a mistake, tries to push your mother into the sea and then jumps into the sea herself, just to test who you will save first, you must tolerate her, can not be angry and spoiled to call her "little fool"... Do you feel tired of being in love?
Falling in love is going to be tiring, right. But what really makes people tired of getting tired of their partners being tired of falling in love, and even wanting to break up and escape, essentially comes from the excessive demands on each other.
Many times, lovers are no longer close to you, no longer express love to you, cold and violent to you, and even want to break up with you, in fact, because you have put forward too high requirements for him, so that he has taken on too many obligations that he should not have undertaken, so that he is too tired and tired to feel unloving.
If your relationship has become tense, three days a small quarrel five days a big quarrel, even he is already breaking up with you. Consider whether we ourselves are too demanding of our relationships and our partners. The current poor interaction presentation is actually a signal that the relationship is eager to "reduce the burden".
Try to appropriately reduce your requirements for "love" and "partner", and you will find that when the other party feels relaxed, you may give you more surprises and give love more sweetness.
If love can come from your love and my wishes, even if the body is tired, the heart is as willing as it is.