Is your child a lion or a donkey? This story is a wake-up call for millions of parents

This story sounds a bit absurd at first. However, don't draw conclusions first, and when you're done reading, let's discuss it together:

One morning, the lion woke up. Today is different, it is very angry, angry and swirling. It began to roar, a roar that broke the tranquility of the wilderness, ferocious and majestic. It turned out that a little beast had made a joke with it: while the lion slept, the little beast hung a tag on its tail that read "Donkey." There is a number, there is a date, there is a red seal, there is a signature next to it...

The lion was annoyed. Does this have to be done? What to do? Where to start? This number, this seal, must have some origin. Tear off the label? No, tear it off recklessly, and inevitably take responsibility.

The lion decided to legally remove the label, and it came to the beast with great anger. "Am I a lion?" It questioned excitedly. "You are a lion," replied the jackal slowly and logically, "but according to the law, I see you as a donkey!" "How could it be a donkey?" I never eat hay! If I'm a lion, ask the kangaroo. ”

"Your appearance undoubtedly has the characteristics of a lion," said the kangaroo, "but I can't tell whether it is a lion or not!" "Stupid donkey! Why don't you say a word? The lion was distraught and began to roar at a donkey, "Am I going to be like you?" brute! I never sleep in a barn! ”

The donkey thought for a moment and then uttered its insight: "You may not be a donkey, but you are no longer a lion!" The lion asked around in vain, and as a result, everyone stopped thinking it was a lion, and some even said it was a bit like a long-haired dog.

The lion began to become low, and it begged the squirrel to testify, and explained to the fox, and finally only won a little sympathy. The haggard lion changed its appearance, giving way to this, giving that flashway, and the former majestic wind disappeared. Within a few days, the beasts heard the sound of donkeys from the lion's cave, "uh-huh" and "uh-huh."

I wonder if you understand the meaning of this?

After the child is born to a certain age, they will evaluate their appearance and position themselves. The concept of beauty and ugliness will begin to enter the consciousness of children through the guidance of parents or those around them.

The first sound: your skin is really dark, your nose is really ugly, you are an ugly duckling;

The second voice: your eyes are so big, your fingers are so beautiful, you are like an angel;

So, the children slowly began to position themselves: I am an ugly child, I am a beautiful child...

Slowly, the children who are positioned by their parents as beautiful, their faces are radiant and vigorous every day; the children described by their parents as ugly are bowed their heads and whispered wherever they go.

What is this called? This is called the child's "self-concept." Parents help their children build an impression of self-knowledge – that is, their own evaluation of themselves. This evaluation tends to last a lifetime, and it goes from a concept at the beginning to a real fact later!

In family education, self-concept is very important, so that children have a good self-concept, or a bad self-concept, will form a very important foundation for their growth.

For example, if a child does not have the ability to climb to the top of the mountain, you cannot say: No, the younger brother who is younger than you has climbed up, you are so bad. It's about emphasizing competence and stressing failure.

You have to change the failure from another angle, you say to the child: it doesn't matter, you have worked very hard, and it is higher than the last time, this is progress, then next time you can definitely climb to the top of the mountain! In this way, we have positively strengthened our will.

The same is true in terms of grades, the child's poor parents said, why are you so stupid? Such a simple question can also be wrong? Are you a pig brain? For adults, it may be just a smooth sentence, but for children, they absorb this evaluation: it turns out that I am an idiot. Over time, the child forms a concept of himself from the evaluation of his parents, I am stupid, I can't learn anything. Gradually, I lost interest in learning, and my grades became worse and worse.

If you have to criticize your child, you might as well put it another way.

When the child goes to bed late, you say: the baby who sleeps early will grow taller, and the mother will tell you a little story before going to bed.

Don't say: I don't care about you anymore! Love to sleep or not sleep, be careful that the teacher is late tomorrow to make you punish the station!

If your child's hair is not neat, you say: You comb your hair well, it will be more handsome.

Don't say: How do you always get dirty? Ugly dead!

You let the child dry the clothes, the child forgets, you say: Did you forget to dry the clothes? If you have time, go dry it.

Don't say: you are always so irresponsible, and it is not reassuring to give you anything!

You see, although they are all saying one thing, they have different attitudes in different tones, one shows negative energy, and the other shows positive energy.

Do you think that if you are counted down by your parents every day and receive negative energy every day, will your child be happy? Can he be physically and mentally healthy? To put it mildly, this is a curse on children.

Your children are originally lions, and if one day they slowly become donkeys, you don't say they are bad, it's that they don't show up. In fact, from the day he was born, you were slowly molding them into this way with your words, your eyes, and your body movements!

Parents are the closest people to the child, and the child evaluates himself every day according to our attitude to form their "self-concept". Our responsibility is to carefully help children improve their self-concept, so that they firmly believe that they are excellent children, cute children, brave and strong children, honest and trustworthy children, intelligent and wise children.

The success of children's education is the biggest success of the family, and the failure of children's education is the biggest failure of the family!

Source: New Parents Online