Two days ago, while I was browsing the video, I was struck by a copywriter. In short, a girl grows up without a home. GaoZan's comment was also brief, saying I hope you will never understand this sentence. When living alone, I rented a house for B, a traveler at my parents' house. After getting married, I was a guest of my mother's house and an outsider to my mother-in-law's house. Later, I slowly understood the lines that Chen Shu said in the play. I have to have my own house. No one wanted to kick me out of the house. It turns out that the guys who advise you to save hard, work hard, and put your career first so you have to own your own house sooner, even if it's small, and no one tells you about poison chicken soup, which is the experience of most married women who always cry for unmarried girls. Late last month, I had dinner with my friends. He smiled wryly and told me about a conversation he had with the kids. She and her husband had a fight that day. She was very angry, saying she couldn't live anymore and wanted to take the kids home. My daughter stood next to me and replied: Mom, whose house are you going to? The friend said without hesitation: Of course, it came back to my house. Which one is your home? With an innocent and suspicious look in her mother's eyes, her daughter asked him if he had come from his grandmother's house. Or Grandma's? My friend told me that at that moment, I suddenly couldn't look away. Well, I've been a full-time housewife in the family ever since I got pregnant with him. But it suddenly occurred to me that after being a wife and mother, I seemed to have gone from being a good girl to a good nanny.
In fact, even the children know I don't have a home. Well, before getting married, I thought my mother-in-law's family and my mother's family would be my own home, and I would have a small home to shelter from the wind and rain with someone I liked. But after getting married, I found that many of the storms in life were brought by a man who once said that he wanted to hold an umbrella and keep out the rain. His mother-in-law said it was human nature to treat you like a daughter. The first thing he remembered must have been the food his son liked to eat. He will also be nice to you, but if there is a real contradiction, he will still be on his son's side. In love, it is not good to be wronged in life. I always told my parents that I was afraid they would worry. I also want to know why I'm an adult with a home and a house. I married someone I liked. Why is my life still a mess? He was often angry, slammed the door shut, and looked around, but he didn't know where to go. In the end, he endured those disappointments and pains alone. It occurred to me that a reader had told me on WeChat that she had been with her boyfriend for many years and that her relationship was very stable. The boy has a house and has paid a down payment. They live together. They pay back together every month. They also bought a car together.
This boy is very good at driving. Pick him up wherever he wants. So the girl never got her driver's license until one day he found the presence of another girl on the boy's phone. That day, when I went out with my suitcase and opened the taxi port, I didn't know where to go, and I suddenly hated myself. I've been messing around all these years. Officially, a lot of women say that if I go back to my youth, I'll never get married again. However, the beauty and splendor of the wedding hall was shattered and polished by this clever dog. When countless moments of numbness and trance even give yourself the idea of giving up everything, you will suddenly think of the girl who once laughed and made trouble. When did he lose his eyes? It may begin when disputes are silenced, or it may be the process of making pots and pans dirty and messy every day, or it may be the process of killing irrational and incomprehensible children. So, when a person falls alone and a person quietly heals, do you lose yourself? Growing up, the girls really seem to have no home. Most mothers rarely go to their daughter's home because they think it's someone else's home. Most mothers-in-law often go to their son's home because they think it is their own home. As a result, a woman seems to have to switch back and forth between at least three roles of wife, mother, and daughter-in-law, so it seems really hard for a girl to be herself again when she grows up. As a proverb that has been widely circulated among women, I long to be hidden, properly placed, and remembered to avoid my pain, surprise, exile, and lack of support, but the second half of his sentence goes like this. But I know the guy. I always knew you did. I always knew that he would never come and put an umbilical cord on someone else, just to bear the fear of losing. But I said so much today. I don't want to frustrate you with this reality. Instead, I wish you and I could have more options.
Feelings are never the whole of life. If you learn the truth about life earlier, you will begin planning your retreat earlier. We should all know that in a passionate co-pilot we are not as reliable as stepping on the throttle and holding the steering wheel, and we cannot bring greater peace than our own real estate in the comfort of someone else's home. The car has oil, the car has money, the pocket has the key, and the mind has the ability to think independently and survive. It's a girl. Kids really need to feel safe. We should all understand that other people's appearances are just the icing on the cake. The blood in life is tough. You can only survive alone. What you struggle for the rest of your life is not your parents, husband, or material things, but that you can truly live like your eldest daughter. I have the ability to put it in a word, and I have the confidence to take root. I myself can taste sweet and sour, bitter and spicy, and I can bear joy and sorrow myself. You can pay, but you don't have to be wronged. You can tolerate it, but you don't have to. What you want to buy, the distance you want to walk, the sense of security you need, first of all, you have to be able to afford yourself. Only then can you truly have the love you expect, and only then will you not be afraid of anything, regret or anything. farewell. Finally, I would like to share a sentence that I really like very much with all the girls in the next step. I hope you can get through the difficult times ahead and gain more strength and determination. I want you to balance your life and open your eyes to discover it. I also want you to be motivated and committed to controlling the world throughout your career. You should remember that when you grow up, you can't be a child. If the world forces you to change, you will grit your teeth and compete with yourself through the thorns. May you have your own home as soon as possible and rely on your own efforts.