Someone on the Internet asked: After 4 years of cold war with my wife, and now my wife has returned to her mother's house with her children, what should I do?
As soon as this question came out, it caused netizens to complain, angrily denouncing the person who asked the question as selfish, stingy, and let the wife be wronged, and now that the wife has left, no one has washed clothes and cooked, and only then did he think of his wife. The most infuriating thing is that this person is not trying to find a way to get his wife back, but what does it mean to raise such a boring topic in the knowledge?
Married life is jointly maintained by both husband and wife, it is necessary to manage with care, in the four-year-long Cold War, the man did not fulfill a trace of responsibility and obligation as a husband, the wife did not choose to divorce, still hard to take care of the children to do housework, has been the greatest tolerance for him.
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I have such a friend, Wei, who lives a strange life with his husband. In the months since he went to work, whether the factory was on holiday or not, Wei had never gone to see his husband, and his husband had never come to see her. Whenever there was a holiday, friends around her advised Wei to go to her husband to surprise him, but Wei refused.
"He doesn't come to me, so why should I go to him?" These were the words that Wei often hung on his lips. And Wei's husband rarely calls her, obviously the two are not far apart, but the two have no communication at all, can only be called a nominal couple.
Last month, Wei's family bought a house, her husband called her to let her go back, Wei took out his savings to pay the down payment, and also had to pay off the mortgage every month.
"Usually I don't come to you, and when I want to buy a house, I have to spend money to remember that I have a wife like you."
"If you haven't fulfilled a little of your responsibilities and duties as a husband, what is the use of such a husband coming?"
I remember once, because of the work relationship Wei's mood is very bad, Wei dialed her husband's phone, originally there was a stomach of grievances wanted to tell him, when the end of the phone only came a bland "Is there anything wrong?" Wei had to suppress the heartache and loss in his heart, and said lightly: "It's all right." ”
If two people who did not live together in the first place did not even have the desire to talk, did not even know how to talk about a phone call, did not care about each other, did not greet each other, did such a marital relationship still need to be maintained?
I once saw such a sentence: two people who are always on different channels are like an island, even if they hug each other for a while, they will never go to each other's hearts.
Compared to Wei and her husband's strange marriage, Na's marriage relationship with her husband is just the opposite.
Every time Na's husband is on vacation, he will run over and accompany Na to work overtime in our factory. When I go to work, I often call over and send messages to Na from time to time, saying, Wife I miss you. Sometimes Na is too busy at work to reply to her husband's message, and his husband also complains that Na doesn't care about him anymore.
Occasionally Na will also complain to us, complaining that his husband is too clingy, occasionally the little couple will quarrel, a few days of unreasonable, Na's husband will call over to sell misery, otherwise directly come to our factory to block her, Na is soft, the two will be reconciled again.
Na often shouted in the company: "Love is made, feelings are quarrelsome." "Although the words are very rough, there is also a certain truth.
In the marriage relationship, not only the physical needs need to be met, communication is also the key to maintaining the relationship between husband and wife.
If you live in two places for a long time and your physical needs are not met, it is difficult to guarantee that there will be no third party interfering in the marriage, and finally the family will be torn apart.
Communication is the same, if there are things in the heart, unwilling to say their own thoughts, it is easy to let the other party misunderstand, no one is the roundworm in the stomach, you do not say it, others will never know what you think, once the misunderstanding deepens, the marriage relationship will also go to extinction.
Writer Westow said: "To speak bluntly is a positive attitude towards the problem. ”
The writer Gibran also said: "Marriage is two strong people who love each other in the same boat, in order to overcome the ups and downs of the years together." ”
Two people actually chose to live together, form a small family, they should have the same goal, fight side by side, in order to fight against life, not afraid of all wind and rain, guard their small family, so that the family can live a happy life.