A person's cognition determines the height he can reach.
The same is true of chasing girls, how much a boy knows about the matter of "chasing girls", determines the degree of difficulty of chasing a girl, and the relationship between the two is proportional.
Because, a boy's cognition of the matter of "chasing girls" determines his pursuit behavior, and whether the pursuit behavior is advanced also determines whether the girl will have a feeling of love.
Therefore, if you want to effectively chase the girl you like, the boy wants to continuously improve his understanding of the matter of "chasing the girl".
Perhaps, some boys do not have a deeper understanding of the "chasing girls", I will give an example, I believe that everyone will have a deeper understanding.
Suppose, a girl comes on menstrual leave, and then, she tells you that her stomach hurts, how will you reply to her at this time?
Ordinary boys: pay more attention to the body, drink more hot water.
High emotional intelligence boy: It must be very uncomfortable, think about it is painful, when you are well, I will take you to a big meal and make up for it.
Analysis: It's not that "girls can't drink more hot water", it's just that girls don't feel your concern for such a reply.
For girls, she doesn't want a solution, she knows better than you, she wants boys to understand her pain and pay attention to her feelings.
This is two different cognitions, different cognitions, the pursuit behavior will be different, and the pursuit effect is very different.
In the process of chasing girls, we divide the "cognition of boys chasing girls" into three levels, next, I will explain in detail, you can compare your actual situation, and then, better to chase after the girls they like.
The lowest level of "chasing girls cognition": equivalent to no cognition at all.
Including: for themselves, there is no image management, not enough self-discipline, not enough effort, no life goals, you know, a boy has no value, will not attract girls; for feelings, regardless of girls' feelings, meet girls who like, directly confess to her.
In the final analysis, this kind of "recognition of chasing girls" is essentially: it will only be asked from girls.
A boy who knows how to make himself better is the basic requirement for pursuing girls; knowing how to treat a relationship is the core element of pursuing girls.
Medium-level "chasing girl cognition": half-understood about chasing girls.
This is the reality that most people exist.
Their cognition is: for themselves, know how to make themselves better, they clearly know that only if they have enough value, they can attract girls, but they do not know how to output value to girls, resulting in a lot of ineffective pursuit behavior in the process of chasing girls.
For feelings, they also know how to restrain their inner emotions, know that feelings need to be cultivated, and cannot be in a hurry, but they know little about the skills of chasing girls, or only stay at the shallow level of cognition.
For example, some boys can't chat, so they go online to find chat words, which is an ineffective pursuit behavior; some boys will not use any method of chasing girls, they will only be good to girls.
This kind of "recognition of chasing girls", its essence is: boys not only ask for girls, but also know how to pay for feelings, but they do not grasp the balance of pay, resulting in feelings to the road of "deformity".
Higher-level "chasing girl cognition": Before formally pursuing a girl, boys have a clear idea in their minds, and then, step by step, push their feelings forward.
Including: for themselves, can clearly understand their own value, and know how to output value to girls, effectively attract girls.
For example, if a boy has a gentle personality and gets along with people, he can always give others a very comfortable feeling, then, when he gets along with girls, he can use this personality to appease the bad emotions of girls, and he can also use this personality to let girls have a feeling of being pampered.
Boys output value to girls, pay attention to: first clearly recognize their own value, and then, and then use their strengths to avoid weaknesses to show their own value.
For feelings, they will have an overall understanding of chasing girls, including: the process of chasing girls, the skills and methods of chasing girls, the principle of skill application, at the same time, there is an in-depth understanding of the skills of chasing girls, for example, know how to use emotions to give girls the feeling of love, know how to create a chat atmosphere to give girls a comfortable environment to get along with, and know how to find emotional breakthroughs for girls.
On this point, you can use my column "99 Points Man" to carry out a systematic study.
This kind of "recognition of chasing girls", its focus is that boys can grasp the "balance point" in the entire process of getting along, and steadily promote the development of feelings.
When you complain that it is difficult to chase girls, then you should realize that your "girl chasing cognition" has been limited.
There is no difficulty in this world, and you can certainly do what others can do, as long as you raise your cognitive height.
Love is never something that can be obtained with hard work, it pays attention to methods and skills.
When you change your mind of chasing girls, you will find the sea and the sky.
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