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The reader's letter reads:
Before I got married to my wife, I used to have an ex-boyfriend she loved very much, and they were dating for more than two years and eventually broke up.
The reason for their breakup is probably as follows: 1) the other party's family is good, but the other party is also more careful; 2) the other party has money in his own family, hangs his children every day, and does not work well; 3) his parents-in-law are very conservative people, and they will feel that their wives and such men will not be happy together, so they have beaten Mandarin ducks with sticks.
Not long after they broke up, I met my wife through my wife's relatives, and my parents-in-law were very satisfied with me, so they tried their best to get me and my wife together.
In fact, during my relationship with my wife, she often mentioned her ex-boyfriend in front of me, and my attitude at that time: If you really can't forget each other, we better not start.
My wife's attitude at that time: I can't be with him again, please give me some time, I will drive him out of my heart. At the moment, I can assure you that I will not contact him voluntarily, and even if he contacts me, I will not meet with him.
Seeing the wife's attitude is sincere, so our feelings continue and eventually form the result of marriage.
Today, my wife and I have been married for 3 years, during which time, we will definitely quarrel over some trivial matters of life, but I do not think that our feelings will be affected by the trivialities of life.
Unfortunately, my wife's birthday some time ago, the person who accompanied her was not me, but her ex-boyfriend.
I'm a little confused: The year after we got married, her ex-boyfriend got married too. Nowadays, they have performed the "resurgence of old feelings", and want to ask, is this fun?
The wife's attitude towards this matter: just can't stand the soft and hard bubbles of the other party, and simply have a meal with the other party, that's all.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
Through the years of youth, as social experience increases, people will become mature, and at the same time, it will also make the once simple heart a little more defensive. Regarding the memory of youth, the part of love dominates, and it is inevitable that it will leave scars, of course, the most tangled thing is the unwillingness in the past love. In the end, he chose the clichéd marriage in his life, but there is still a romance in his heart for love, and most of this romance comes from the concern for his ex and the regret of not really having each other and missing a person he did not cherish.
Which five types of women can't forget their ex-boyfriends after marriage?
First, love loses to distance.
Many good relationships appear during college, and these couples have thought that love will graduate and die, but they are willing to fight for a glimmer of hope for love. Still, there are still many loves that end up losing to distance, because few people have the courage to give up their jobs for love in the face of the call of work. For this reason, when two people who love deeply part ways because of their work, it also indicates that love will collapse sooner or later. This kind of love will leave regrets in the heart and try to save it when they have financial strength, but both sides have become fathers and mothers. Having a concern in your heart and praying for each other's happiness may be the best way to pay tribute to your old love, if you can't help but disturb each other, please draw a clear line between friendship and love.
Second, there is harmony between men and women.
I once heard a married woman complain to me, she said so, my ex-boyfriend is not handsome with my husband, nor is my husband rich, and I am not as good to my husband, but I just can't forget him. I said she was mean, she also admitted that she was mean, she told me that she could not forget the harmony with her ex-boyfriend about the level of harmony between men and women, although she also knew that she was just a tool of the other party, but there would always be some time, actively calling and harassing each other. When the other party is in a good mood, he will flirt with her on the phone, and when he is in a bad mood, he will insult her, even so, her thoughts of her ex-boyfriend are still unstoppable. It can be seen that as a man, please do not neglect your physical health and give your wife a harmonious married life.
Third, when you are young, you don't know how to cherish.
Many people can't convert their first love into marriage, but they can't forget their first love, some people miss the full commitment at that time, and some people blame themselves for not knowing how to cherish it at that time. In fact, in a relationship, the final regret is not the party who is fully committed, but the party who does not know how to cherish. When the relationship experiences more, he will eventually miss the one who was once very good to him, and scold himself for why he did not cherish it in the first place. Because of the guilt of love in the youth, there will be a longing in the heart, and this thought will become more and more intense with the quarrel between the husband and wife on trivial matters after marriage. So much so that some women who value love have lost sight of their ex-boyfriends in marriage.
Fourth, the ex-boyfriend's family is well-off.
Many women in the school period, would rather choose a man with excellent grades as a crush object, rather than accept the brother who does not love to study, and even disdain the brother of the brother. However, with the increase of age, especially after entering the society, the concept of love will change again, and it is felt that rich men are truly talented. It's just that the brother who once liked himself has become someone else's husband. In this situation, women will watch the rich life of the brother and feel remorseful, of course, women will rarely mention their remorse in front of others, and will only at some time vent the dissatisfaction of poor money on their husbands.
Fifth, love is beaten by a stick.
The love in the eyes of parents often values vested interests, that is, when the children reach the age of marriage, they only want to find a relatively well-off marriage partner for their children, because the parents cannot predict the future, and when a woman meets a poor boy at the marriageable age, such a relationship will often be beaten by a mandarin duck. Usually, after a few years, if the poor boy is still a poor man, the woman will sigh: fortunately, I listened to my mother; if the poor boy became a successful person after a few years, the woman would complain that her parents did not have the vision. Usually, women will regret for the rest of their lives because they missed a potential stock, but women should also remind themselves: in the field of love, they are willing to gamble and lose.