Mr. Lu Xun once said in "Talking about Face":
"Face is the program of the Chinese spirit, just like the long braids in the late Qing Dynasty, as long as you pull the braids, the human body will follow you as a whole."
However, if people live a lifetime, if they always care about the eyes of others and always pay attention to the words in the mouths of others, it is too much to hold back.
Put down your face and insist on "no face", you can win flowers and applause on the wonderful journey of life.
Writer Yishu said:
Face is the hardest thing for a person to put down, and it is also the most useless thing.
The more you care about it, the heavier it gets, the harder it gets.
Li Xiaoai's new realist novel "Free from Vulgarity" describes such a male protagonist:
The male host's name is Lu Chen, who has a good personality, but the ear roots are somewhat soft, and he is also very good-looking, even if the family can't make ends meet, he must show generosity outside.
He obviously only needed to go to a friend's child-giving feast, but was pulled to the lijin area by a subordinate he didn't know very well, and inexplicably spent 400 yuan more.
He held a banquet, obviously only needed to politely invite family and friends, but the specifications were so high that even his own uncle secretly complained:
"Lu Chen is too good-looking, good tobacco, good wine, good restaurant, red carpets everywhere, and someone handed towels to the toilet..."
As soon as he finished the banquet, his friend "Big Head" asked him to borrow money to buy a new house, and in order to show his brothers' righteousness, he arrogantly lent 50,000 yuan.
This box is not over, the uncle has also come to borrow money, the wife knows the bottom of the family, so she and the uncle to push away, may not be able to borrow.
But Lu Chen embezzled money from the settlement fee of going to the hotel to his uncle and sent him away, and the husband and wife quarreled bitterly.
Lu Chen is too good-looking, as long as the fox friend opens his mouth, he will borrow, and he is embarrassed to ask his friend to pay back, and he is not allowed to ask his wife to ask for money, so that his family always has to tear down the east wall to make up for the west wall, and his wife often fights with him, even to the point of divorce.
In the book "This Life Of Not To Be Crazy", there is such a passage:
To have face is a natural character in the bones of people, everyone has, there is no difference or impropriety.
The reason why there is a difference is because some people put down their faces in order to have more face, and some people lose face in order to die for face.
Death wants face to suffer, and the result of wanting too much face is mostly faceless.
The TV series "Please Answer 1988" has this narration:
"People really become stronger, not because they guard their self-esteem, but when they put aside their self-esteem."
Let go of the so-called self-esteem, throw away unnecessary face, people can really protect the people and things they want to protect, and truly win their own Lizi.
Affected by the epidemic and related policies, the entire entertainment industry has been greatly impacted, especially Hong Kong artists.
In August 2020, 38-year-old Hong Kong entertainer Wu Weile officially announced that he had changed careers to become a bus driver.
He is known as "ATV Tse Ting Feng", has participated in TV series such as "I Have a Date with Zombies 3" and "French Open Heroes", and has hosted some entertainment programs in Hong Kong, and can also be regarded as a well-known artist.
However, after the termination of his contract with ATV, his acting career has been tepid, and gradually, he faded out of the silver screen.
In the beginning, in order to maintain his life, he would take on some wedding hosts and event hosts, and he also appeared in shoe stores to sell goods.
But the global pandemic in 2020 has made his path to a living very difficult.
In order to raise 4 children and let the family live a better life, he overcame the psychological gap, gave up the so-called face, obtained the bus driving qualification, and finally went to work.
He confessed:
From a hot artist to another profession, there is definitely a psychological gap.
Changing careers is like being a new person, everything must be re-learned.
In the face of ridicule and difficulty, I didn't bother to pay attention to it, and I could only treat it normally.
As it is said in "A Generation of Grandmasters":
"People live in the world, some live to become faces, some live to become limes. And only Lizi can win real face. ”
People walk a lifetime, put down their faces, cultivate themselves solidly, can calmly meet the challenges of life, and can continue to innovate in their careers, so as to truly grow and win life adventures.
By letting go of the face, we can win back the lizi, and winning back the lizi can achieve the real face.
Murong Xi wrote in The Traces of Growth:
People should live for themselves in their lives, should like themselves, and don't care too much about what others think of me or what others think of me. In fact, how others measure you also depends on how you measure yourself.
If a person can know what he wants to live for, he can endure all the pain caused by it, can pay all the "faceless" price for it, and will also win the corresponding feedback.
Actor Jia Nailiang shared the story of his previous career as an actor in "Starry Sky Speech":
When he aspired to be an actor, his relatives in the family were not optimistic, and everyone thought that he was daydreaming, and they all threatened: "This child is not saved." ”
His parents did not agree with him 100 percent, but because of love, they supported him.
In the confusion of his friends and relatives and the worried eyes of his parents, he resolutely decided to go to the North Drift, record a small coffee show, imitate different actors to act, and grit his teeth to learn knowledge to participate in the art exam.
Several years of hard work were not in vain, he was admitted to film school, and the dream of being an actor has taken another step forward.
In order to survive in Beijing, he began to earn a living.
He commissioned the brothers of the photography department to take a set of art photos for himself, printed hundreds of them, and carefully wrote his personal profile information in each photo.
He travels to different photography groups, advertising production companies, and no matter what kind of face others give, he always tries to leave a photo and resume.
Many of the resumes he threw out were sunk in the sea, but he continued to insist on running "without face", constantly sending information to the outside and passing on his beliefs.
Finally, he earned back the first 100 yuan, 200 yuan, 1000 yuan, 2000 yuan...
Finally, the advertising circle and the assistant directors of the crew all knew that there was a person named "Jia Nailiang" and were impressed by him...
Finally, he was informed to star in the male number one of "Datang Gefei", and he really entered the show business circle...
Jia Nailiang said:
"When you have a dream, the first thing to do is to persevere, the second thing is 'don't face', and the third thing is 'insist on not face'."
Life will not fail everyone who puts down their hands to realize their dreams.
The more capable people are, the more they will not hesitate to give up face and win the choice of life.
For they know what they want, and they know that only they can fulfill themselves.
And letting go of their faces and insisting on "no face" can help them win all the way!
Mr. Yang Dai has such a sentence in the "100-year-old Testimonial":
I used to be so eager for the waves of fate, and in the end I found that the most beautiful scenery of life is the calm and calm in my heart.
I had so much expected the approval of the outside world that I finally realized that the world was my own and had nothing to do with outsiders.
Truly wise people will not die to face the guilt, but can lay down their face and win back the inside.
Truly intelligent people will persist and insist on not having a face on the road to growth in life.
People who insist on not having faces, have a strong heart, live transparently, and continue to act to really win the world.
With the king, may everyone be able to be themselves and have a cheeky happiness!
Author | Following Fang Lingxin, a shonan girl after the 90s, she wrote her heart to see the world.
Image | Visual China