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In high school, I had a good friend tell me that he was going to take shortcuts and find a woman from a particularly well-off family to fall in love with, so that he could struggle for ten years less.
Now many years have passed, and he has not heard from him.
What happened to those who mixed ambition in their feelings, I didn't quite understand before, with some life experience, I slowly confirmed that love and ambition, the two can go hand in hand but can not cross, because you can't control both sides.
01
In the year after the college entrance examination, I traveled alone to the island, taking only a copy of Stendhal's "Red and Black", and lying by the campfire on the beach in the middle of the night to read.
There is a saying in chapter thirteen that is still vividly remembered today: A young man of twenty years old, with some education, his soul is thousands of miles away from nature, and without going with nature, love is often nothing more than a most annoying responsibility, which is the misfortune caused by excessive civilization.
I deeply believe that there are only two results in taking shortcuts, one is that you don't have enough time to practice your own ability, and the ambition that ability can't support, all the roads are detours.
We can find the strongest example in this regard, the last young wife of the great grandfather, which is representative enough. In the end, he was beaten down, because everyone was not convinced. A little sensitive, not much to say, everyone understands.
The representative of this aspect of the contemporary era is Ms. Deng, but in fact, with Aunt Deng's ingenuity, if she does not rely on the old man Murdoch to ascend to the throne, she will struggle on her own, and her achievements will be much stronger than now.
The second result is that you don't get real love, because you have distracting thoughts in your heart, you will get bored, and when real feelings come, you can't control it, ambition and love are like elephants, you ride on it, you think it is following your command, but it is not, once it starts crazy, you are powerless.
The ambitious young man and his two love stories that we are going to tell today about "The Red and the Black" are very clever portrayals of this kind of thing.
And what's the best way to do that? It is a symbiotic relationship.
Such as Bill Gates and his wife, Zuckerberg and his wife, Buffett and his wife, no matter how bad be it is, beholds's ex-wife is ok, that is, you have to cultivate and water when people have potential but have not yet risen, and if you don't get up, it is not called a shortcut, and when you get up, it is too late, and most of the time there is no good result.
02
"Red and Black" is the masterpiece of the master Stendhal, and the red represents the red clothing of Napoleon's army, representing promotion. Black represents the black robe of the church and represents the promotion to high society by means of being a priest.
The story tells of a brilliant, well-born, but ambitious young man named Jullien, who wants to get into power by mixing with aristocratic women. Hooking up with the mayor's wife, he fled to the seminary after the matter was revealed. After being appreciated and reused by the Marquis, he had an affair with the Marquis's daughter.
Finally, under the planning of the church, the mayor's wife was forced to write a letter to expose him, ruining his future. In anger, he shot and wounded the mayor's wife, was sentenced to death, and went to the guillotine.
This vanity fair drama, so that the ambitious Jullien who worships Napoleon, full of obsession and talent, let him meet the two women, the old sincere, dedicated, simple, young arrogant, possessive, the former to help him step by step, the latter to let him go to destruction.
In the two extreme loves, he also willingly went to destruction. This is a very realistic story, and when it is read a hundred years later, there is still no sense of violation, which is the incredible power of the masterpiece.
03
For careerists, there is no hypocrisy and nobility in the world, only success and failure.
For people who have no sense of morality at all, there is only "advantage" and "no profit", and in this regard, Jullien, who thinks he is "hypocritical", is far worse.
For Jullien, "hypocritical and successful" or "noble and despicable" are two alternative modes of behavior and their consequences, but for others, there is only one pattern of behavior in the world from beginning to end—that is, "unscrupulous means to achieve the end," but ultimately at a cost.
Whether it is pursuing dreams or shortcuts, I always believe that at the end of life, the most essential happiness comes from good interpersonal relationships.
If you are rich and poor, this is the iron law. So taking care of the feelings of others is a must, because the path to happiness is a narrow door, and altruism itself is also self-interest.
04
"The Red and the Black" also reveals a profound insight into the simple-looking view of love, but I think that people who are too young are incapable of appreciating simplicity, so they can only worship exaggerated passion, you can see the content on Douyin now.
I could not distinguish between peace and mediocrity, pride and nobility before. Madame Lenal's soft, self-sacrificing love was completely ignored or despised by me.
It was not until many years later that I realized how precious this sincerity was, and why Jullien turned his feelings from vanity into true love for her, because she loved so innocently, without mannerisms, and it was an honor to be loved like this.
Therefore, this book is difficult to read when you are young, and it takes years to slowly understand the fine texture of the story, knowing that the story is not only the main character with this tooth and claw, but also relies on those who do not catch you at the first time, but also very important.
They are often bleak and simple, but deeply embedded in the story, and like real life, it is this group of people who brew up the enduring tenderness of life.
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