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Many parents will consciously or unconsciously attach a lot of expectations to their children and are always accustomed to imposing wills and ignoring their children's feelings.
But in fact, every child's growth needs its own space, and every child's thoughts and feelings should be respected, even if the other party is his own parent. In a family, the "tragedy" caused by the imposition of the will of the parents may need to be borne by another child.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-arrow-right" > child star Deng Heming died at a young age, and his sister inherited her brother's wishes</h1>
Now when Deng Heming is mentioned, perhaps everyone's impression of him is not so deep, and the reason behind this is always very regrettable.
Although Deng Heming is a child, with his own strength and cuteness, he has performed twice on the spot of the Spring Festival Gala. Deng Heming also has a younger sister named Deng Minglu, the little brother and sister are often active in the scene of the Spring Festival Gala, and everyone affectionately calls the two children "Spring Festival Gala Fu Doll" and "New Year Painting Doll".
However, it is surprising and regrettable that his brother Deng Heming left when he was only 8 years old because of blood cancer. For this news, many viewers are difficult to accept, especially when it is learned that the situation of the brother Deng Heming may be indirectly caused by the child's parents.
After the treatment, the condition of his brother Deng Heming was basically cured, but because the parents wanted to earn money with their children, the children were forced to drag such physical conditions to continue to perform.
For the departure of her brother, her sister Deng Minglu, who grew up together, is naturally very sad. After finally coming out of sadness and grief, the younger sister also actively inherited her brother's wishes, continued to learn opera, and persisted. Now she can perform independently on stage with her skillful skills and confident attitude, and commemorate her brother who left with her own efforts.
It turns out that the conscious or unconscious imposition of will on parents can have a certain degree of adverse effect on the physical and mental development of their children, and this effect may be far more than the parents themselves imagined.
Parents impose will, which may hurt the child
Parents impose will, which may be well reflected in the phrase "we are all for your own good." If parents have too high expectations for their children and their attitudes are too tough, this may become a burden and pressure on their children's growth.
According to a survey conducted by 2002 young people aged 18-35 by the China Youth Daily Social Survey Center and the Questionnaire Network, 84.9% of the young people surveyed admitted that in the process of growing up, their parents always liked to impose their ideas on themselves. In other respects, 56.7 per cent of the youth surveyed advised parents to set an example for their children.
In fact, the imposition of the will of parents often occurs when the child is young, and continues to the youth or even longer. The will of the parents may give the child some guidance and let the child take fewer detours, but if it exceeds a certain limit, it is obvious that it may hurt the child in the end.
In education, parents should uphold the correct concept of education:
It is understandable that parents want their children's growth to be less detoured, but if the behavior of education becomes "deformed" because of such ideas, it is obviously counterproductive.
Parents can give their children expectations, but they should respect their children's true thoughts. Parents can cultivate their children's interests and specialties, but they must not satisfy their inner lust for material things.
There are many things that parents can do, but the proportion and degree of them need to be carefully considered by parents, otherwise the child will become the most direct "victim".
The Japanese novelist Kotaro Isaka once said, "It's terrible to think of being a parent without having to go through an exam."
Although the words are sharper, we can still see that if the parents' educational concepts and behaviors do not "exert force" in the right direction, they can easily lead to a terrible ending.
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