#Marriage And Love Manual #Couples in hot love are sea vows and mountain alliances, and the sea is rotten. What is not you do not marry, not you do not marry, without your days, I can not live, etc., can really be called, earth-shattering ghost God's unique love! As a result, the two are married, but a series of practical problems faced after marriage have led the two to redefine the concept of love. Can't help but sigh: does marriage lower the level of love?
From the daughter-in-law's point of view, leaving the home that gave birth to herself and going to another family life except for her beloved husband, the rest of the people are strangers, to adapt, this transformation, how difficult it is. She wants to maintain the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the relationship between relatives and friends in her mother-in-law's family, and she has to go against her own will, do what she does not want to do, eat the food she does not want to eat, and say what she is not willing to say. Basically similar to, open your eyes and talk nonsense! The mother-in-law bought a new coat, neither the style nor the quality was suitable for her, but the daughter-in-law had to flatter: "Mom, you look so good in it, it's like customizing it for you." If you tell the truth, "This is not for you, the quality is inferior, and the style is not new." "Will the mother-in-law be happy?" The mother-in-law is not allowed to report to her husband, "Look at your daughter-in-law, you can't speak at all." "Over time, won't there be contradictions?" The relationship between the two will be strained. Therefore, if you want to maintain a relationship with your in-laws, your daughter-in-law must make sacrifices and make concessions. Love, which is originally equal, must be replaced by such inferiority here, otherwise there will be discordant notes in the family, and let the mother-in-law talk to you.
The tradition of our country is to raise children and prevent old age. When parents are capable of acting, they will help their children to take care of their children. Our children, when they were not in kindergarten, were cared for by their mother-in-law, and also by my parents. One day, the neighbor Aunt Wang said to my face: "Sister-in-law, are you tired day by day?" My son said, 'Mom, when I have children, I don't need you to look, I'm too tired'." My mother-in-law said, "How not to be tired, why not be an old man." Listening to this, my heart was particularly uncomfortable, and I felt very wronged. It's not me who picks it up, you children's children, you have shown it, and it is such an effect when you come to me? I was very unhappy in my heart and really wanted to cry. This is daily life, every day to face, you can not tell your husband truthfully, "What your mother said, makes me angry!" "Isn't this tantamount to suing your mother-in-law?" Maybe you start to tell your husband that he will comfort you, and then say it again, and then say it again, then it will not comfort you, think you are nagging, speaking for your mother: "My mother watches the children every day, how tired?" You still say that about my mom. "Therefore, if you want family harmony, you must abide by it: lower yourself the principle of being a human being and please your in-laws!" The mother-in-law's attitude toward you is good or bad, which is to determine whether your daughter-in-law has "filial piety" in the end. If your efforts are not in vain and you win the favor of your mother-in-law, then your mother-in-law will preach to others, "My daughter-in-law is filial piety, and it is good for me!" "If the daughter-in-law receives such praise, it is no less than the sense of honor of the star winning the award!"
Of course, this is not to say that you can lower your cognition and lower your own principles of being a person simply to please your in-laws, but you can give in to the fact that there is no strong relationship, you can give up your own views, after all, it is your husband's relatives; after all, you and your husband are in love with each other, and you will marry him. For the sake of your own love, for the sake of your family, don't hold on to a small matter, and maintain a good relationship with your in-laws. Let the husband rest assured, worry-free work, so that our little family, full of love, full of joy. Everyone will live every day harmoniously! You can earn the reputation of "filial daughter-in-law"!
From the mother-in-law's point of view, he raised his son so big, and finally it was time to marry his wife and have children, but it turned out that the son's love for his mother was full of love, but now he wanted to share it with a person who had nothing to do with himself, and his heart was not happy or willing! Therefore, the daughter-in-law always wears "colored glasses" to see and treat... There will be a series of phenomena such as discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. At this time, if the daughter-in-law respects the mother-in-law as a guest and treats each other with courtesy, it will be better; but if she is angry and unwilling to get along with the mother-in-law, there will definitely be a crack, or even a crack that cannot be repaired. My classmate Xiaomei, who loved her husband before marriage, had a particularly solid emotional foundation. But after marriage, several times to divorce. Later, I learned that when I first got married, every day my husband left work, before he came home, he had to talk with his mother-in-law, nag, and sometimes come home very late. Leave a newly married wife at home and leave her alone waiting for her husband. He obviously made a meal and waited for her husband to come home to eat with joy, but he didn't come back after a phone call, and he didn't come back after a phone call... In this way, the contradictions continue to appear, escalate, and finally really go to the situation of divorce!
At this time, if the mother-in-law considers that the newly married son comes back to see, let him go home to accompany his wife, or let the daughter-in-law also come back and have a meal together... In this way, the feelings of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will gradually increase, and there will be no divorce.
"The alley is too short to walk white-haired!" Marriage is not a matter of one person, but requires the efforts and maintenance of many people in order to connect family and love, make the family harmonious, and let people live happily and happily! Family harmony, social harmony. Love cannot be allowed to depreciate after marriage, reducing the level of love before marriage! "The hand of the son and the son with the old", let love last forever!
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