In our country, due to the serious imbalance between men and women, there are more and more single men, but a closer look will find that there are many single women who have reached marriageable age. Xu Min, who has a Beijing hukou, graduated from the Communication University of China, and her family has already prepared a car and a house for her, just waiting for the day when she gets married, but Xu Min has no results in falling in love again and again, and has not found a suitable partner for many blind dates.
This day Xu Min participated in a blind date activity, originally she just held the mentality of trying, did not expect to finally open the eyes, the other family lives in Heilongjiang, studied in the United Kingdom, and now in Beijing as a civil servant, the two are similar in age, but also have many similarities, so the two left contact information for each other, you can further understand later.
However, the marriage matter still has to be discussed with her parents, in the evening, Xu Min told her parents her thoughts, originally her parents were still satisfied, but after hearing that it was not a Beijing hukou, her mother with a strong personality directly refused, and also let Xu Min cut off contact with the other party.
In fact, in Xu Min's family, her mother has always occupied a dominant position, she grew up doing anything, basically obey her mother, so that she wants to fall in love independently will also be interfered with, which also leads to her fear of pursuing her own happiness.
Mother's words and deeds have a very great impact on Xu Min, every time Xu Min wants to follow her own choice, her mother will intervene, whether right or wrong, it seems that Xu Min has no initiative, sometimes Xu Min is also very distressed, but she does not dare to refute her mother, as long as she says more, she will be counted down by her mother, but after every quarrel, it is always she who apologizes.
Of course, Xu Min's mother is just the wrong way to express love, she is highly demanding of her future son-in-law, but also for the sake of her daughter's happiness, but her strong personality has brought psychological harm to her daughter, Xu Min is difficult to get rid of the controlled circle, she has to find a psychologist to complain, in front of the doctor, she can reveal her heart, telling the experience from childhood to adulthood, she still can't help crying, after all, blood relations cannot be changed, since she can not change her mother's concept, she can only try to accept.
Although Xu Min is 28 years old, in order to satisfy his strong mother, he has raised the criteria for finding a partner, requiring the other party to be more than 175 meters, and at the same time has a high-paying job, preferably a Beijing hukou and so on. We can understand the criteria for finding a partner, but how many people can meet these high conditions, so Xu Min can only continue to wait, and look forward to the early appearance of her other half.
A happy marriage can complete two people, based on material feelings, may really be able to resolve a lot of contradictions, but in the process of finding the other half, personality is still very important, only mutual tolerance, mutual understanding can be white to old, if only look at the material, it is doomed not to be long-term.