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Ryan was a brilliant writer in his youth, and her husband, Kelly, was a talented professional singer who was a match made in heaven and had 10 children after marriage.
An accident husband lost his beautiful singing voice, unable to sing, he changed from a glamorous singer to a general worker in a machinery factory, and the huge gap made the man's temperament change greatly, and he began to drink heavily.
He often used his meager income to buy drunk, so that the family often fell into the embarrassing situation of food shortage, in order to take care of the children, Ryan became a housewife, she was like a top every day to handle the family's big and small things.
One day, the landlord suddenly said that he wanted to take back the house, and the landlord said that his daughter was getting married and the house was no longer rented. Given three weeks to move, the kids panicked and found Daddy Kelly, he said, Go find your mom.
Lane has been unpaid since becoming a housewife, in order to raise children, good at writing, Ryan has been persistently participating in various advertising word design competitions over the years, winning various prizes for this stretched family, from household appliances to food, shoes, etc., but these are not worth mentioning compared to housing.
And the competition is fiercely competitive, whether he can win the prize is impossible to control, as the head of the family, Kelly bets the fate of the family on one uncontrollable game after another, throwing all the pressure to a housewife.
Just when the family was at a loss, a car stopped in front of his house, the people in the car said that Ryan stood out from the competition, won a huge prize and a large refrigerator, the neighbors came to congratulate Kelly and said that Kelly was lucky, married such a capable wife, Kelly smiled awkwardly.
Ryan said to the neighbors, "I'm just cheering him on." Ryan was still trying to help this fragile and sensitive husband save face.
They used this generous prize to provide a suite, when registering the property, because Ryan did not have a job, there was no qualification to sign on the property deed, the house could only be registered in her husband's name, Ryan did not say anything, and went home to pack up his things and prepare to go to his new home.
While packing up, her husband, Kelly, looked at the huge refrigerator in the hallway and thought it occupied a place to sell it. Lane said that there are many children in the family, and she usually needs to reserve more food, and she wants to stay. The husband said that this thing was a waste of electricity, Ryan insisted on staying, and the husband was very unhappy.
In the evening he began to drink heavily again, swearing and grinning as he listened to the show, while Ryan gathered the children to discuss various game skills to eliminate the negative impact of her husband on the children. On the one hand, self-abandonment and positive on the other, the two diametrically opposed attitudes to life are in stark contrast.
The drunken and out-of-control husband finally smashes the refrigerator that Ryan won back, and looks at the grumpy husband, Ryan escorts the children outside to hide, and he silently cleans up the messy home.
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When her husband woke up drunk and saw the broken refrigerator that he had smashed, he felt a little guilty, and he vowed, "I will buy something little by little to fill the refrigerator." The children didn't quite believe their father's words, "He couldn't even come up with the money to buy milk to fill the refrigerator." Ryan smiled and said to the children, "He at least has a goal, and that's a good start." ”
At noon, while Lane was cleaning up the housework, her youngest daughter came running to tell Ryan that she had soiled the floor while changing her brother's diaper. Ryan did not scold his daughter, took the three children to wash, it happened that the milkman came to deliver the milk, Ryan went to the milkman to hope that she could buy milk on credit, and was sneered at by the milkman, because there was no money to buy milk, Ryan could only say good things. Fortunately, the postman sent a letter with Ryan's prize money, and Ryan used the money to buy milk.
Back at home, the daughter apologized to her mother that she shouldn't have made a mess at home and let Ryan go to get the milk so late, Ryan said that it was nothing, if she had been early, she might not have been able to get the milk because she didn't have the money, everything was the best arrangement.
As usual, the husband was drunk and indifferent to the family's children. Lane continued to take the kids on a journey into a variety of competitions, and soon their family won again, this time with the unlimited free emptying of the cart at the supermarket for 10 minutes.
Ryan had already made a shopping list, and she ran to get the steak her children liked to eat and the cocktails that her husband liked to drink, and although she resented his alcoholism, this seemed to be his only preference. She considered everyone, but ignored herself, and in 10 minutes Ryan took the whole shopping cart, everyone's wish was fulfilled, and the children and husband were very happy.
When she got home, her husband watched the refrigerator filled with all kinds of food, and his sensitive and fragile nerves began to go manic again. The refrigerator he had promised to fill was now filled by his wife, Ryan, which made him faceless and frustrated, and he threw out all the food in anger.
Instead of getting angry, Ryan took out a cocktail made for him, and her husband hid aside with the wine out of guilt. Ryan was sharing the food with the children while paying attention to her husband, and when she found that something was wrong with him, she called him over and sat next to her, and his husband quickly put away his displeasure and ate together, like a happy family.
Under Ryan's cultivation, the eldest was admitted to the wei school as he wished, and the second and third successfully joined the well-known baseball team, and time changed many things, but it failed to change her husband's habit of drinking.
The husband looked at the children who had left home and began to complain about himself again, he hated his cowardly and incompetent self, but he was trapped in the swamp and could not extricate himself.
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Ryan still studied with the children, participated in competitions, talked and laughed, and was not negatively affected by her husband.
On this day, the husband came home and bought two bottles of wine, Ryan did not have money to buy milk, asked his husband for money, the husband said no money, Ryan said of course you have no money, the money is all used to let you buy wine.
Ryan can only find the milkman on credit again, for the other party's sneer, Ryan still smiles and greets, the good words are exhausted, the children are growing bodies, she does not want to interrupt the children's milk, under Ryan's bitter pleading, the milkman agreed to credit for a week.
Carrying two cartons of milk into the house, Ryan said to himself what a shame. The sensitive husband heard this and began to loudly rebuke Ryan, who should not buy milk without money, and during the quarrel, Ryan fell, the ground was full of milk and glass slag, and her hands were full of blood... But she didn't blame anyone, and the children glared at their father, Kelly, who told them it was an accident.
A month later, Ryan received an invitation from several housewives to exchange ideas about the game, she wanted to go, but could not drive, she wanted her husband to take her, he said that gasoline was too expensive, Saturday was too important for him, he did not want to stay in the car all the time, did not want to take her.
Ryan had no choice, let the son who could drive take her, before leaving, the younger son also prepared a gift for Ryan, but he mistakenly picked the neighbor's precious tulips, the neighbor came to the door to say, the husband saw the situation and quickly slipped away. Ryan had to get out of the car to deal with it, and she apologized to the neighbor, affirmed her young son's heart, and taught him to learn from the incident.
In the third year, she was invited again by the housewives, she asked her daughter who could drive to take her, the car was halfway to the road when there was a problem, the daughter complained that her father knew that the car was going to break down and did not repair it, and deliberately threw the trouble to them.
Between car repairs, the daughter asked her mother if she regretted marrying her father? Ryan said no, and her daughter said: "You have been dragged down by this family for twenty years, washing and cooking, and taking care of a group of mischievous children, you should have written articles for magazines in the big city and lived a good life, but you were dragged down by the family." Ryan said she was living a good life right now.
The daughter said that she was not good at all, it was terrible, just looking at today, it was difficult to get out of the long way, the car was broken, she said that if she was Ryan, she must be angry all day long.
Ryan said: "If I think so, it doesn't do me any good, I insist on going to this party, and I can not go." Now I'm chatting with my beloved daughter and I find it a lot of enjoyment. I hope that you will think of your own goodness. Ryan said it plainly, but he said it very clearly, and everything was his own choice.
At that time, if she chose not to marry Kelly, she might not have worked so hard, but she did not put the problem down to the original choice, but very rationally thought about how to live a better life.
After the car was repaired, the two continued to set off, and when they arrived at their destination, their friends were already greeted at the door, each of them was enthusiastic and talented, and here they read and exchanged ideas, which was very happy.
Lane seems to have found her former self, sharing her views with friends who give Lane a place in the last contest of the year. This exchange will make everyone gain a lot, and everyone's eyes will shine brightly.
When she got home, the children were locked out, she asked her husband to open the door and began to cook, but the husband was angry and asked her why she came back so late, Ryan said that she was only out for a day, but the husband did not stick to it, pulling Ryan.
The children thought that their father was going to bully their mother, and they came forward to grab their father, some holding their heads, some pulling his thighs, some pulling his arms... Left him unable to move.
Ryan couldn't bear it, took the opportunity to pour the jam that was preparing to cook to her husband, watching his husband being splashed red and shiny, Ryan had a clever move, she thought of a wonderful advertising word, her mood was not so bad.
She asked her husband, "Why are the children all shut out?" The husband said, "I thought you were going to never come back, I was secretly crying, I didn't want them to see", after saying that he gave Ryan a simple and beautiful desk, which was the only gift he had given after so many years of depression, Ryan was very happy, she thought life was starting to get better, and the confident and sunny husband had returned.
Who knows that life has given her a hammer, her husband has already secretly made the house as a loan mortgage, and now the repayment period is only one month, if they can't repay it in time, their family will have to sleep on the street.
She didn't understand why her husband was doing this, and he bowed his head and said, "I'm like a drowning person, I can never keep up, I just want to have some spare money in my pocket." ”
Ryan told him that a man's dignity is earned by his own hard work, not by sacrificing the happiness of his family.
Ryan cried, helpless, aggrieved, angry, and after a night of crying, she rearranged her emotions and began to arrange the child's upbringing. She felt that she had run out of water, and she prepared the morning for the children, and found that there was nothing to eat at home.
It was almost a month, they began to pack their personal belongings, the family was depressed, when the phone rang, Ryan won the first prize, and everyone hugged together as if they had grasped the straw of life. But the daughter is still very sad, because she does not believe that her father will change, and her life will still be in trouble again.
Lane said the phone call just now said she beat 250,000 contestants, and that wasn't her best. Her words gave the terrified child great sense of security. She encourages her daughter that there is a whole life ahead of you, that you can follow your own choices, that you have a very good mind, and that you have a good heart, and that you can accomplish anything. The kid ended up being a writer.
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The story comes from the film "The Perfect Housewives", which is also the biological experience of Lane's daughter, who wrote her mother's story into a biographical novel as an adult, which was a very popular book, and was adapted into a film of the same name in 2005 and brought to the big screen.
The content of the film is simple and plain, in the face of the difficulties and difficulties of life, the hostess Lane is positive, optimistic and strong, creating a good learning atmosphere and conditions for her children, and finally cultivating several children into talents.
No matter what kind of dilemma, as a mother, she never complains, accuses, or is angry, she uses a positive attitude to accept and face all kinds of embarrassments in life, and always provides positive, optimistic and upward positive energy to children. Protect children from the negative influences of their fathers.
After her husband had no confidence in life after his career was hit hard, and he anesthetized himself by alcoholism, Ryan was extremely tolerant of his husband, never complained, and tried to find ways to solve the difficulties faced by the family.
As a mother, Ryan is great and admirable, as a wife, she is perfect and qualified, and we cannot evaluate and give her sympathy for the life that Ryan has experienced, because that is her choice, and we cannot give criticism and accusation to the male host, because that is his life!
After we become adults, after we discover the truth of life, we will complain about the unsatisfactory life and the unhappiness of our careers, so that we can live in sorrow all the time. Others, the slightest disappointment, are world-weary, depressed, and even engage in extreme behavior.
Have you ever thought about Ryan's life, ten children, a useless husband? Having to support his family and take care of them is a crushing thought, but Ryan has won one advertising contest after another by virtue of his talent and luck. She is tenacious and does not give up every opportunity.
In the face of 10 children, she did not give up, did not scold, did not complain, and raised her children one by one in her own unique way and sent them to different places to engage in different professions. She strives to maintain family harmony and give her children a complete home.
Nowadays, the standard of living has improved, and people have become vulnerable. There is no adult world that is not hard, there is no one who is not tired, if you are really confused and overwhelmed, feel that your family is not useful, can not help you share, think that children are disobedient, grumpy... , may wish to watch this movie, maybe you will have different ideas and feelings.