Recluse: The reason why distance can produce beauty is that there is distance, and only then can it be possible to further sublimate "beauty".
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- The Spirit Recluse
Honey is too much to eat and tired, so one person is incomparably good to another person, and the final outcome is separation.
While indulging in yourself is also risky, it is more dangerous to indulge in another person. So how does one communicate with oneself and others? This is a difficult question to answer, and it varies from person to person. For me, it is probably necessary to understand that communicating with yourself, to know that you are lonely. It is best to communicate with others as "gentlemen's friendship is as light as water." However, this is not realistic, you can't be with your wife, children, parents are also "gentlemen's friendship is as light as water".
But you still have to be aware that there needs to be "distance" between any relationship, that everyone is like a "hedgehog", that we are warm in social relationships and in the natural environment, both to be together and to keep a distance. The distance will make the people around you feel no love and enthusiasm; the distance is close, and the "thorn" on your body will hurt them. Love requires bravery and selflessness, so that love is pure. But if love loses its distance, it becomes boiling hot water and burns ourselves. Why is the earth suitable for human habitation? Because the right distance, the right distance from the Sun, the right distance from Jupiter, the right distance from the Moon... Nature, in itself, is always teaching us how to live.
I now see couples kissing on the street, very envious, very understanding of their love and excitement that they have not seen for a long time. But if they are always like this, it is not appropriate. In the mall, a parent knelt down and begged his child not to buy an Apple mobile phone, because there was no money... Similar bottomless spoiling, the final outcome is often tragic.
One of my client's children is like that, and when the child is an adult, he has nothing to do, buying this and buying that. Every time he asked, his parents almost complied. Why don't you dare say no? His parents told me, "He threatens to self-harm or jump off a building." "And he did. Similar couples break up, and some people will threaten their own or each other's lives.
How important it is to cultivate a sense of independence is self-evident at this moment. You are you, I am me, your life is your life, my life is my life. Violating and threatening the lives of others is not right. "If you want to stand up for yourself, you want to reach people." You let yourself do everything, looking back and saying that your wife is lazy and squeamish, or that your children are incompetent, who is to blame? It's like you're holding his wings in place, but blaming him for not being able to fly, or saying he's changed.
The reason why distance can produce beauty is that there is a distance, and only then can there be the possibility of further sublimating "beauty", and man is such an animal with unlimited desires. Therefore, keeping a distance and leaving yourself with the possibility of infinite sublimation of relationships with others is the secret of love.
In this way, a person who loves himself should not set limits for himself, but should have the courage to discover himself and expand his own abilities and foresight; a person who loves others, in addition to loving himself, must also maintain a distance from others, often discover the beauty of others, but do not cling to the fact that he will become more beautiful like himself.
Excerpted from philosophical essays by independent scholars, writers, and artists.