There is a saying: "People who are not related by blood are good to you, and they are gifts from Heaven." ”
In this life, it is difficult to meet such a person, and when it is encountered, it must be cherished. Because there is no blood relationship between good, it is a rare sincerity. However, in our lives, we will always meet all kinds of people, obviously not related by blood, but also full of expectations that she will treat you like a relative. This is actually unrealistic.
Especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the mother-in-law manages you to be a daughter, and the daughter-in-law is a mother-in-law, which is a blessing that is difficult to demand.
Under normal circumstances, maintaining moderate respect and appropriate distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is already a good mother-in-law template. And what happens when the mother-in-law crosses the line and really treats the daughter-in-law as a daughter, and the daughter-in-law obviously cannot treat the mother-in-law as a mother-in-law?
There are two scenarios.
First, the mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law as her own daughter, washes and cooks for her small family, and takes care of the children. But we say that there is no unprovoked love, and since there is no blood relationship, she also needs a little return for treating you like this. She needs you to treat her as a mother, to rely on and honor, so that as an older generation, you can have psychological happiness.
But the problem is, as a daughter, what mind will tell your mother, what bad temper will also be shown to your mother, these are not suitable for showing to your mother-in-law, once you do that, your mother-in-law will feel that you do not know good and evil, people give you "cows and horses", but you do not have a "good face" for others, you will be cold.
And even if it is our premise, the daughter-in-law can never treat the mother-in-law as a mother-in-law, so there will be no emotional reflection on the mother-in-law, which will also be problematic.
Over time, the mother-in-law will not get a response, and she will be full of grievances.
At that time, you will find that all the good she was in the early stage will become worse and worse in the later stage.
Complaining to your husband and telling your neighbors how dedicated she is to you, but you are not close to people, turning you into a bad person, and even isolating you at home and tossing you.
So did you find it? The position of daughter-in-law has natural difficulties, can not be too close to the mother-in-law, nor too far away from the mother-in-law, this is whether you are good or not, the mother-in-law is not reasonable, but the role is determined.
So, what is the second case?
The second situation is that the mother-in-law especially does not treat you as an outsider, and always lets you take care of her like a daughter. Today she will come to you where she has something missing in her house; tomorrow she will come to you where she is going to spend money; and gradually hollow out your and your husband's little home.
Is this good again? Not bad either.
Just like the mother-in-law of netizen Xiaomei, especially Xiaomei as "his own family", often called me in the middle of the night to say that he was uncomfortable, Xiaomei was very nervous, and quickly ran over to call the doctor to see, and the result was nothing. But the funniest thing is that the mother-in-law called Xiaomei ten times but would not call her young son once, saying that I was close to everything and troubled her with anything.
In this way, the distance is indeed the biggest killer of the mother-in-law relationship.
In fact, the TV series "The Belle Epoque of Daughters-in-Law" has long told us with a line: What kind of mother-in-law relationship is the safest?
"Keep a certain distance, always be polite."
A good mother-in-law, a wise mother-in-law, does not take the daughter-in-law as "her own family", but knows that she only has this level of relationship with you because she loves your son, and in essence, you are not related by blood, so you will get along politely and respectfully.
And a smart daughter-in-law will not take her mother-in-law as a mother.
You have your own boundaries, but you can tolerate each other, which is the best way to get along with your mother-in-law. Only in this way can the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law's family live a harmonious and beautiful life.
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