Liu Xuehua Do you remember?
She was once a "Qiong Girl", and she was also a professional household of the empress dowager, the empress dowager in "The Biography of Zhen Huan", the empress dowager in "Splendid Wei Yang"... They are all classic characters she has created.
Recently, she participated in the variety show "Summer of the Eaves" at Station B.
The show allowed several young people working hard in Shanghai to live in the homes of three elderly people living alone, recording their 21-day cohabitation with young people.
The first old man to live alone was Liu Xuehua.
Unexpectedly, the big star turned out to be 62 years old, her husband died, childless, and lived alone for more than 9 years.
She said that she did not understand the advanced things such as the Internet, and would only use her mobile phone to make calls and play mahjong.
When I'm not working, I sit on the couch as soon as I wake up, and then feed the dog, watch TV, play mahjong on my phone, and never go out.
Because you must hear sounds, the TV in your home must be on 24 hours a day, and sleeping is no exception.
She said that living alone is actually not afraid, that is, if one day wrestles or what to do, no one knows.
In another ten years, she will definitely go to the nursing home, because there will be at least someone there to take care of her.
When she said these words on the show, the tone was very ordinary, but it still made people feel emotional - it turned out that as a big star, she would also be afraid of loneliness and feel helpless in front of the years.
Living alone, I don't know Liu Xuehua, and there is a pain of 100 million people hidden behind her.
According to the data of the seventh census, the total number of elderly people aged 60 and above in China has reached 260 million, accounting for 18.7% of the total population.
Among them, more than 100 million elderly people live alone and empty nests.
Liu Xuehua is lucky, and there is an aunt to take care of life, but most of the elderly who live alone that we can't see are facing far more difficulties than we imagined.
They can fall, get sick, get stuck.
Tell me a few real things.
In 2018, in a subway station in China, a 57-year-old aunt had a heart attack and was woken up by the emergency, and the first sentence was to ask the staff not to call her son who was far away in Germany.
In August 2020, an elderly man living alone in Bengbu, Anhui Province, fell down on the balcony of his home, constantly banging the ground with a washbasin, and 4 days later, some residents heard the knocking sound before calling the fire to rescue the elderly.
In April 2021, Hu Mou, an 83-year-old man in Xi'an, Shaanxi Province, was trapped for 2 hours because his bedroom door was unlocked.
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According to Xinhua News Agency, in China, the elderly fall 25 million times a year, and 60% of the elderly fall accidentally at home.
Many times, if the elderly living alone are not careful at home, they may encounter danger, and once they are not discovered in time, it will lead to irreparable tragedies.
Compared with falling, the loneliness of the elderly living alone, the difficulty of disconnecting from society are more hidden, and the risk of depression and dementia caused by it is more difficult to detect.
In the 2014 Spring Festival Gala skit "Disturbing You", Cai Ming played an empty nest old man who went to disturb tenants several times and caused a lot of jokes. The reason was finally revealed, she just didn't want them to leave because she was afraid of loneliness.
In "Summer of the Eaves", the second old man, Grandpa Zhu, who has lived alone for 12 years at the age of 89, makes people have mixed emotions.
Grandpa Zhu is a decent Shanghai "old Keler", when he was young, he had a successful career, and after retirement, he chose to live alone because he did not want to affect his children's lives and did not want to have conflicts with his children.
At first, he told the two young people who stayed in that it was quite free to live alone.
But after living together for a few days, Grandpa Zhu began to calculate the days of separation.
On his birthday, Grandpa Zhu said, "I told them not to celebrate my birthday", because everyone was too busy, and because the friends who accompanied him were gradually leaving one by one.
But that day, he sat alone on the couch again, repeatedly brushing messages on his phone, waiting for birthday wishes from family and friends. Repeatedly looking through the photos of the granddaughter in the photo album, and repeatedly opening the address book to turn to the child's mobile phone number, taking a look, and then turning it off.
It wasn't until late at night that I waited for my granddaughter's birthday wishes that I was willing to go to sleep happily, like a stubborn child.
In fact, for the elderly living alone, the companionship and concern of their children are really difficult to buy.
As a child, no matter how busy you are at work, remember to contact your parents a lot.
"What about at home?"
"Went out to buy something today?"
"It's cold, pay attention to your body"
"Good night and a good night's sleep."
These short sentences and simple greetings can bring full of emotion and warmth to the elderly. For them, happiness comes simply, even with just two warm greetings.
Many times, the company and warm greetings from the family may be the only way to make the elderly who live alone no longer lonely.