Someone recommended me to read Lord Mai's article "The Collapse of Adults, It's All Premeditated", saying that it is well written and let me learn.
I aimed at it in a minute, as a middle-aged man with old and young, I don't think life is so stressful. The young man who rides a bicycle and walks backwards, it is not a collapse, at most it is an emotional loss of control. If his will breaks, he will not be able to recover quickly and will apologize to the police.
It's normal for an adult, especially a middle-aged person to be carrying a heavy load, to be a little stressed. If the pressure is so great that it is difficult to sleep and sleep at night, it is definitely related to our own hearts, and it should be that we ourselves have lived a hard life.
Quite simply, if you only have the ability to earn five thousand a month, but you have to live a life of spending more than 10,000 a month, your pressure will of course come.
You only have the ability to support a woman, but you have to get into the grass to pack some other people's work, how can there be no pressure? I can't cope with working overtime until dawn every day!
Or do you only have the talent to attract thirty or fifty people, but you have to pretend to make a grand scene to embarrass yourself, the balloon blows too fast, and your mother didn't teach you? The loneliness and emptiness caused by the high profile, you think it is pressure, it is the depression that Huai Cai does not encounter, roll it. These are self-inflicted troubles, and they are completely free from stress.
How much pressure do middle-aged people have? Compared with the pressure of young people to read, I think middle-aged people are not so sad. Except for those accidents in life and physical ailments, as long as we don't die, we can basically live very happily.
Yesterday I laughed at myself, I was under great pressure from life, and I could still write an article about the life of a chicken feather - in fact, there is really a crushing pressure who has the heart to write an article... Honestly, I still enjoy life more.
Matthew 25:14-30: According to the parable of the consignment: God's entrustment to each of us is to give us two silver according to our talents, five thousand two, two thousand two, and one thousand two...
According to the teachings of the Bible, God gives you five thousand taels of silver for your talents or capital, and you earn five thousand; if you give you two thousand taels, you earn two thousand. The Lord says, whoever gives more will ask for more, and whoever entrusts more will take more from whomever he gives. Each one fulfills his mission according to his own talents, and he will be praised by God for your faithful and good servant...
Now, I happily take the two thousand taels that God gave me, and I do my part to run it, where is the pressure? All the pressure is that you only have two thousand taels, but you desperately want to earn five thousand taels. You had a thousand taels, but you thought God had given too little, so you didn't bother to take care of it, and buried it like that stupid servant... Motionless waiting for God's relief.
These two kinds of people are blamed in life: the first is too greedy, and the second is too lazy. Isn't it?
If I had greed, I would certainly not have done my part, and I would have been full of pressure. As far as the waste industry I am doing at present, if I want to do stronger, bigger and more beautiful, I can ah! Do everything possible to rob other people's orders, work day and night, and even thieves dare to collect them indiscriminately. And call the husband also non-stop cooperation: there is a cargo to pull the goods, no goods to pull the freight! Never leave the van empty... Rainy days should be sunny days, heavy rain should be light rain... Small money is not spared, big money is not missed... All day long by a variety of business customers to direct the rolling belt crawling...
In this way, we don't have to rest, and we have to rush to eat and drink! What will he be like? Don't say sit in the car for a while before going home, he doesn't even have time to go home! Of course, we can earn more by working like this, but it is still not enough - because I want to send my children abroad for further study, I want to make their instrumental skills pass the emperor's tenth level, then there is still a lot of money - there is pressure! How much pressure to have! Ten pressure mountains can pounce on you... Don't talk about collapse, direct exhaustion is possible.
However, I didn't choose to fight like this, it wasn't the life I wanted. For God tells us, what good is it for you to earn the whole world and lose your own life? What else can you exchange for your life?
Although there are many injustices in this society, it is still tolerant. People are relatively free, as long as you work hard enough, who will live too badly? We all have many opportunities to choose, but we always want to get rich overnight, always want to live a life that is not compatible with their own abilities, you say you have pressure, huh, who is to blame? It's that you're asking too much, wanting too much, and crushing you.
You can only work to work, don't just want to be the boss; you can only be a small boss, don't think about being a big boss; you can only run a shop, don't open a chain; only how big your feet are, just how big your boots are... Where does the stress come from?
Life is not easy is not easy, but not so much stress, not so much collapse. A family of four like ours, old and young, from afar to work hard, has also encountered the suffering of running a single night and has nothing to do with blood - if you collapse, who will wipe your tears when you collapse? You are not strong who will take care of you? Hurry up and roll up your sleeves to dry, start from scratch, there is no time to hesitate! What's there to crash?
When I only have the money to buy a truck, I will never follow the trend to buy a less practical car; when I only have the ability to buy a house in a third-tier city, I will never run to the north, Guangzhou, shenzhen to get a down payment and borrow money... I really don't know, when a person has a clear goal, rational consumption, and a correct understanding of his own ability, where does the pressure come from, isn't it all blindly sought?
I took care of the children's diet and living, took care of this small waste shop, and sang and wrote to use trivial time. Go to bed early and get up early, there is no need to be busy, there is plenty of time! Stress, what is pressure? I don't seem to feel anything.
I would never allow my family to spend the night busy with anything — whether it was studying or working. Diligence can be there, physical exhaustion, and things that violate conventions cannot be done. God has given us daytime, nighttime work, serious work, night is for rest, no need to be busy with anything.
You know? In a country with a high happiness index, people despise the kind of people who open their doors to make money and drive until very late and do not close their doors... You want to earn a lot, nothing more than want to occupy a lot, the world's resources are limited, you have to account for more, is not greedy?
If there is not so much greed, there will not be so much differentiation between the rich and the poor, and the social pressure will be relatively reduced. When society makes us more and more stressed every day, I wonder if we can analyze ourselves well, in fact, I am also the person who creates pressure?