Many people say that women marry not only to live with their husbands, but also to live with their mothers-in-law, and it has to be said that this sentence is also reasonable.
■ Narrator: Ms. Zheng
My husband and I are a campus couple, married as soon as we graduated from college, because we both have formal jobs and financial conditions are not bad, so we have had a very happy life over the years.
In the 3rd year of marriage, I gave birth to a daughter, and my husband took the initiative to pay for me to live in the confinement center, and also asked my sister-in-law to take care of me, and he came to accompany me after work. I was well taken care of throughout the confinement period and was not wronged, so when my husband proposed that he wanted a second child, I agreed without hesitation.
At that time, I had already discussed with my husband that I would take my own children during maternity leave, and when I went to work, I would find a sister-in-law, which was not difficult for our economic conditions. But after giving birth to my young son, my husband suddenly proposed that he want his mother-in-law to take care of Erbao.
I didn't agree at first, because after getting married, we always lived alone and only returned to our hometown during the New Year's Holiday, so my mother-in-law and I were actually not very familiar with each other. Then there are many colleagues in my unit who live with their mother-in-law, and they all say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a big problem, and even those who are divorced by their mother-in-law are mixed, so I don't want to find trouble for myself.
But after I objected, my husband gave me three irrefutable reasons:
First, there are many monthly sisters-in-law in order to lazily feed sleeping pills to children, and there are unpleasant revenge on children, this kind of thing even if there is a one in ten thousand chance of happening, it is unacceptable to our husband and wife, but let the mother-in-law come will certainly not happen this kind of thing.
Second, although the money of the sister-in-law will not cause a burden to our lives, it is better to save this money, and you can save it for your children as an education fund, so that it is also a deposit for many years, and it can also be used for emergency.
Third, at that time, the father-in-law had been dead for three years, although the mother-in-law was in good health, but there was only one person in the hometown, looking lonely, and the husband also wanted to take the mother-in-law to do filial piety.
My husband successfully persuaded me with these reasons, and finally he assured me that if I had a conflict with my mother-in-law, he would definitely "help me not help my relatives" and let me not worry about my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In this way, we took my mother-in-law to live with us.
When my mother-in-law first came, we got along quite well, because we were not very familiar with each other, and we were quite polite to each other. In addition to a bit of a dispute over the child, but the husband also knows that the mother-in-law's concept is backward, so every time the husband comes out to persuade the mother-in-law to listen to me.
After the second treasure went to kindergarten, the contradiction between us really broke out, before the child can not leave people, the mother-in-law all day long with the child, my husband and I are considerate of the mother-in-law's hardships, so never let the mother-in-law cook, usually not to buy to eat, or I and my husband take turns to do.
But now that Erbao has gone to kindergarten, her mother-in-law is relatively idle at home, so she has also taken over the cooking work. Maybe it is the aging taste deterioration, the mother-in-law's cooking is particularly salty, and sometimes the dumplings wrapped in bread can only be eaten. At the beginning of this matter, I told my husband that even if you don't consider me, you must also consider the child, the child eating so much salt will affect the development.
The husband said that it was good, but the situation did not improve a little, and then I took the initiative to say to my mother-in-law, and my mother-in-law gave me a smiley face, saying that she was old enough to let me bear more, I was also very helpless, I bought that kind of small spoon, anyway, it is 5 people's meals, as long as you put a small spoon of salt is just ok. But my mother-in-law was very disgusted with the spoon I bought, saying that it was like an ear spoon, and there was no salt taste at all.
Later, I said that I still cooked, at this time my mother-in-law used the trick of crying to deal with me, sat cross-legged on the sofa, and said that she was old while crying, and my son and daughter-in-law began to dislike it, and wanted to pack up things and go back to their hometown. Every time the mother-in-law cried, the husband had to coax her, and then the mother-in-law began to say that she had to work hard with the child, which caused the husband to shed tears, and finally developed into their mother's kindness and filial piety, and I became an "evil daughter-in-law" who could not tolerate the mother-in-law.
Just because of this incident, my husband and I quarreled more, my husband said every time that it is not easy for my mother-in-law, let me be more tolerant, as long as I retort, he will let me look at his face, or take the big hat of filial piety to suppress me.
Now I am more and more cold to my husband, and my husband does not like to take care of me, I really can't understand why my husband and I have been happily married for 10 years, and I will be trapped by my mother-in-law in the small matter of cooking.