Not long ago, a friend entrusted me with something, which was actually not a big deal, that is, to help her revise a paper.
To be honest, when encountering this situation, it is generally rejection. One is busy with the unit, the other is afraid of missing a friend, and the third is shallow. However, the relationship with friends is extraordinary, coupled with the friendship with the pulse, the generous money, and the most important thing is her set of "touting" techniques, which really makes me overwhelmed, and I have no choice but to "catch the ducks on the shelf" and reluctantly do it.
Man is really a hypocritical animal, always unable to resist the temptation of good words. In the face of good words, for some people, it is not necessary to lose their positions and principles, but there will certainly be likes and dislikes in psychology. That Li Shimin of the Tang Dynasty was a ming emperor who knew right from wrong, but in the face of Wei Zheng's "unpleasant words", he would still scold him as a countryman. However, he did not lose his position and killed Wei Zheng, and for this reason he became a Ming Jun who was praised by posterity in history. The generation of ming kings who are high above is still like this, and it seems that flattery is not escaped by ordinary people such as me.
Speaking of this, it is not to exalt oneself, nor to excuse oneself from doing anything. In my opinion, for other people's requests, good words are agreed to, and they are forced to be helpless, and since they promise others, they must do a good job. As the saying goes, if you promise not to give, your resentment is greater than your refusal. This means that if you promise someone to help but don't help, your friend will resent you far more than your friend who didn't promise you.
I'm just a guy who can't help but say nice things and promise friends to do things. After agreeing to a friend, I also clarified the time for replying, but the question came out. In the first few days, the unit was not very busy, and there was completely time to revise the paper. But because I was too confident and felt that there was enough time, I didn't pay attention to it. However, a few days later, due to the sudden busyness of the unit and the need to take a selection examination, I forgot about my friend. When my friend called to ask for it, I knew that the time had come to agree to deliver the paper, and I did not move my friend's paper at all. My friend was very angry about this, and he had never seen him so angry before. What to do? Promise a thousand gold, do what you do wrong to make up for yourself. So I had to raid one night and make serious revisions to the paper. When I delivered my friend the next day, although my friend was still unhappy, he was still grateful, and there was no shortage of praise in his words, which made me ashamed.
People who are confused for a while and do wrong things can be forgiven, and what cannot be forgiven is one mistake after another. Fortunately, guided by rational thinking, I did the former. In addition, I repeated several revisions to my friend's paper. At the same time, combined with their own knowledge, they put forward some targeted suggestions to their friends. At this time, I felt that I had really helped my friend.
In our life path, everyone is not an island, both need the help of friends, but also at the request of others to bring help to others. It is with the help of friends that we do not feel isolated on our own life path. At the same time, the help we bring to others also makes friends realize the true value of friendship. Give someone a rose, and the hand has a lingering fragrance. Friends help us, we have to know gratitude, we help friends, do our best. Friends help us not to do a good job, and we have to give good understanding. We help friends do not do a good job, must sincerely apologize. Only in this way will the relationship between friends last for a long time, their respective paths will become wider and wider, and life will become more and more exciting.