When we experience pain, frustration, lost love, and loss of loved ones, we constantly think of various scenes of connecting with them, and it is easy to understand that this situation is easy to understand in a short period of time, which is a self-healing method and is very effective.
But sometimes, the damage is so great that we are immersed in such life situations and cannot get out.
At this time, we are most likely to lose cognitive ability and cannot distinguish between life situations and life. Moving past connected life situations to the present memory, and ultimately leading to the whole of the present life becoming a memory of the past.
Eckhart Toly, author of The Power of The Moment, has said that we need to distinguish between life and life situations. Life is more like a holographic concept that encompasses everything, it refers to everything. Life situations, on the other hand, refer to a particular environment.
The living environment will change, but the life that represents the whole will not change. Sometimes the situation you are in will make you happy and happy, and sometimes it will make you sad and miserable.
However, these are only part of life. And if we can understand it, then getting out of the situation can be stronger without being affected by the situation.
When we are caught in this situation, it is difficult to recognize this, it is difficult to get out, what should we do to make ourselves strong?
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="15" > first, ask yourself, the lost thing, if he knows, I hope you have been indulging in thinking of him and stopping growing? </h1>
If you lose someone, can you think about whether he wants you to indulge in the situation of missing him and stop growing?
If yes, then is this person really for your own good? Why did he do this, and if it's for your own good, shouldn't it make you more independent and powerful? If he is not good for you, then, you unilaterally treat him well, and then hurt yourself, what is the picture?
If he doesn't want you to stop growing, then you've been indulging in the thought of him, and you haven't lived up to his expectations of you. For him, for himself, it is more necessary to cheer himself up.
Only you, who are cheered up, can establish that connection beyond time and space with the lost him. Through you, bloom the light you share with Him, illuminate the world, and bring greater light to the world.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="61" > second, if you can, stop everything you are doing, change the environment, and empty yourself. </h1>
Everything that is immersed in life situations can be changed by changing life situations. If you can't extricate yourself for a long time, and you want to extricate yourself, it is better to start with a different environment.
Many people, after losing their lovers or frustrated at work, will change their environment by cleaning their homes, sorting out their clothes, etc., and in this way, they will start over.
For many people, this is a very effective way, because in doing so, we step out of a particular life situation and rediscover life. Doing so also involves letting go of the past and rediscovering the present self.
To empty oneself is to empty oneself of all distractions, to be present in the present moment, and to establish a strong and stable mind through the connection to the present moment.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="62" > third, look at the problem from a higher perspective, what is the situation of people who encounter similar things. If you can, make a mutual connection with them. </h1>
When encountering anything, the first thing we think about is whether this matter has been encountered by others and how they have solved it.
Most of the things we encounter in our lives are things that many people have already encountered and may encounter more than once or twice.
What we think is more difficult than ascending to heaven may seem commonplace to others. At this time, we can find ways for others to solve problems, establish connections with others, and help each other.
Don't be a problem keeper, be a problem solver, and even become an expert in helping others solve the same problem.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="63" > fourth, find a place or person, and release the repressed emotions in your heart. </h1>
Emotions need to be released. After a long time of repression, it will not disappear, but will be transformed. And this transformation sometimes turns into hatred, so that when you encounter the same thing in the future, you will be mixed with hostility.
And repressed emotions can make us understand that everything can pass, and everything we encounter is not the actual whole. It's not like you're meeting a white swan, the swans all over the world are white. Even if we still encounter white next time, we need to firmly believe that exceptions always happen.
Because the world is big enough to accommodate all existence. Since it can accommodate everything, it can certainly accommodate your cathartic emotions.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="64" > fifth, see what else you have, and what else you need to carry. </h1>
Entering a certain life situation and not extricating yourself will make yourself lost in this small paradise. And when we came out, we found that the world is still very big, and there is a bigger paradise that contains this small paradise.
At this time, we need to think about what we still have, than the loss of important things, we certainly have some. And what they have, are they willing to see you lost?
So, as responsible for them, responsible for ourselves, we need to carry everything and get ourselves back on our feet.
In short, when we are caught up in life situations for a long time, we are likely to lose ourselves. The lost self cannot move forward, we need to come out, to know ourselves again, to know the world, to know all the present moments that are connected with us. Feel this connection carefully and enhance it.