Text | May · Anchor | Enjoy the new sunshine
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People now, too lonely.
It's too hard to find someone who can talk to you at will.
I don't know if you've had an experience like this:
When you are in a bad mood, you especially want to find someone to talk about your bitterness.
Open the mobile phone address book, there are hundreds, thousands of contacts, but one by one to turn down, but found that there are few people who can be contacted.
Seventy percent are working partners, and communication with each other is limited to the content of the work.
In addition, your family and friends, your troubles, are not convenient to talk to him, and the unhappiness encountered at work is even more afraid to tell him, for fear that if you are not careful, it will reach the ears of other people in the company.
Twenty percent are former classmates who are almost out of touch after graduation.
Each has a new job and life, the circle is different, and the things encountered are different.
He doesn't necessarily understand your suffering, and he doesn't necessarily understand it when you say it.
Seven percent were former friends. This kind of friend is the most sad to think of.
From the past, there was nothing to talk about, and now there are fewer and fewer places to intersect with each other, and everyone is getting busier and busier.
Sometimes, I want to call the other person, but I am afraid of disturbing the other person.
What is even more frightening is that the phone is connected, but the lives of the two sides have long been different, full of heartfelt thoughts and grievances, turned into an embarrassing and polite sentence: "Are you okay lately?" ”
Therefore, you have a tacit understanding not to easily disturb each other, and finally, in this "tacit understanding", you gradually drift apart.
There was a small poem called "You Don't Understand Me, I Don't Blame You" circulated on the Internet, and I especially liked it:
Everyone has a dead end,
You can't get out on your own, and no one else can break in.
I put the deepest secrets there.
You don't understand me, and I don't blame you.
Everyone has a line of tears,
Drink the cold water, brew into tears.
I put the most bitter grievances there.
The true nature of life is indeed like this.
Everyone's life experience is different, you have your pain, he has his heartache, you can't understand him, he can't empathize with your experience.
There are many friends, but most of the time, everyone is destined to have a long way to walk alone, a person passing through the mud and passing by the wind.
So, please relax.
Slowly learn to become mature, slowly learn to look at the comings and goings of everyone in life, and slowly learn to swallow all the happiness, grievances and sadness in the breeze.
But also especially lucky, there are three percent of good friends in the phone, people you can talk to at any time.
You are particularly happy, a large string of messages bombard the past, although the preface does not match the afterword, but he especially understands your mood, you are happy, he also feels happy.
If you have a little sad emotion, he can immediately perceive it, and without you saying more, he will come to you immediately, or call you, amuse you, and help you analyze the right and wrong.
If you have any ideas that don't seem very practical, you can also be bold and tell him, never worrying about being ridiculed. He understands your passion, and he supports everything you pursue.
You chat with him, you don't have to rack your brains to think about the topic, every little thing in life can be talked about very happily, and every chat feels like time passes very quickly.
You will meet countless people in the sea of life, but if you can have three or two people who can talk at any time, you are really lucky.
To borrow a sentence from Zhang Ailing:
Meet the people you are going to meet among thousands of people, in the wilderness of time, no step earlier, no step later, just in time, there is nothing else to say, but to ask softly:
"Oh, you're here too?"
In this life, it is difficult to find a confidant, and I hope to cherish it!
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May, the little kitchen lady who lives by flowers, strolls around and eats, giving you a little earthly warmth, ten o'clock junren. This article was first published at Ten Point Reading (ID: duhaoshu), a national reading big number subscribed by more than 27 million people, please reply to "reprint" in the background.
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