What is the most important thing in life? Many people are not clear about what to put down and what to pick up.
They will spend a lot of time arguing with people they don't know on the Internet, and yelling at rude people on the side of the road.
Wise people understand that life is sometimes a little lazy.
It is not to let you live lazily, but to learn not to care about the things that eliminate you!
Laziness will prevent you from improving at a faster rate, but for these 3 things, it would be better to be lazy.
Gao Xiaosong once said in "Strange Story":
"Laziness is the ladder of human progress, without the power of laziness, human beings will not invent cars and airplanes..."
Laziness, sometimes can really create higher value.
For the rest of your life, may you learn to be "lazy" in these 3 things.
1, too lazy to quarrel
Arguing is undoubtedly one of the most energy-destroying behaviors, and you will have a faster heartbeat and a red face.
In the end, no one can please well, no matter whether they argue or lose, they all lose themselves.
It's like Leung Ka Fai seeing Ping Ping share his experience of traveling the world.
He criticized him for abandoning his family and destroying the ecology, and standing on the word "reason" could be choked on him.
But he didn't, and he rationally said that he had good communication with his family and would ask local residents before carrying out activities.
Instead, he made Liang Jiahui feel guilty and came over to hug him and apologize.
Don't always like to quarrel so much, many things can be said well, don't braving the fire to say, it will only make people see jokes.
For wise people, the word quarrel does not exist, for them, it is just communication and expression.
Fools will always like to be quick for a while, even if you win, the other party has a grudge, and one day find an opportunity to do something bad to you.
Especially when you meet unimportant people to provoke you, you don't need to pay attention.
Is it really good to be angry, never make things better, even if the other person changes due to a momentary fear?
Solve problems and don't let other people's faults affect you.
Don't spend time arguing about small things, and the difference between saying and not saying is really not big.
A life without quarrels will make you more comfortable!
2, too lazy to take care of other people's business
Chinese are very enthusiastic, concerned about this and that, the neighbor has no children, and the cousin is not married.
Everyone's business must be managed, as if everyone's affairs are related to you.
Being enthusiastic is a very good thing, but only if the other person needs your care and help.
Instead of uninvited interference, just like many older unmarried women, who dislike the New Year the most, there are always relatives who ask questions.
The beautiful name is concern, but it makes the person concerned very annoyed, and he has to be worried about the feelings and dare not say his true feelings.
Their intentions are good, but what they do is repulsive.
There are also many in-laws who cannot let go of the heart of controlling their children, and the name is "love son", but in fact, they impose their own ideas on others.
When the child comes to ask for help, it is better to open his mouth, some in-laws even when the child wakes up, what to buy in the convenience store, and the son buys gifts for his wife!
It was as if the son's work was his, the son's money was his, and even the son's life was theirs.
Parents care about their children, this is a beautiful thing, but everything has a degree, do not let the good heart be disgusted.
People who like to be nosy end up being thankless.
Those who live their own lives well and do not love to worry about themselves, but they all live easily.
Take good care of your own health and don't burden your children, that is the real love for them.
3, too lazy to please others
Many people are afraid of offending this, afraid of offending that, and even passers-by have to please.
As long as the reason is justified, don't be afraid to reject others.
Take the fur child out, and often someone will tell me not to use the leash, let her be free, so that the dog will be "confident"? I don't agree with that it's called being confident, I just want to protect my children.
I will not listen to them because of this, make them happy, people's hairy children are not involved, it really has nothing to do with him, I choose the way I think is right, I will not please others.
In Alice in Wonderland, the White Queen says to Alice:
"You don't live to please others, choices, in your own hands."
Those who are always flattering are often the most popular, because you can't bear it once, and people break off their relationship with you.
On the contrary, those who have principles and bottom lines are more appreciated.
People who really like you are like your confident and radiant appearance, not humble and flattering appearance.
In life, many things must not be lazy, such as growth, work and sports.
But there are some things, it would be better to learn to be lazy!
Now I have long stopped arguing with people, and I am holding this concept in running myself.
That really doesn't make sense, don't want to waste this time, if the netizens have misunderstandings, there will be a clear explanation when they see it, if it's just sour words, really don't pay attention.
The same is true for many people, if there is a problem and a dispute, it is better to explain it clearly, do not need to be angry, it is not helpful, it will only make people despise it.
There is no need to please anyone, except for those who think it is very important in their hearts, they must naturally treat them well.
After doing this, life really becomes very easy, and people who don't care about themselves no longer take up time and space.
I used to want to rest, I would spend an hour listening to people talk, I didn't want to go out, I would also please my friends and reluctantly party, afraid that I would become an unsociable and indifferent person.
Now I understand that I have to look at the object of my own force, and if the other party bothers you, it doesn't matter, and I have never been good to you, why should I?
Examine your life, are you often careless about being too industrious in these 3 things?
The next time you try to be lazy, you'll be happier.