Not more friends will bring happiness, after studying Sanmao for a few days, we all know that she is warm and cheerful and talented, and she is very good at telling stories.
Always lively and energetic, but also very kind, willing to help others.
In this way, her popularity is inevitable, and she has groups of friends everywhere.
But she said that she was very lonely, because there were not many friends who could communicate, until she met Xiao Pingping, who could understand what she said and made her very happy.
You can give him 100 of the more than 300 keys in your heart, and the friendship is only a short year, but Xiao Ping gave up his high salary and spent 30 years to follow her footsteps.
To fulfill her wish, she did not have time to see the world, he had seen it for her, and Sanmao had influenced his life.
Sanmao also said in "Talking about the Heart" that there are not too many friends, one or two is enough.
When I saw this passage at that time, I didn't know enough about her, thinking that she lived in simplicity and rarely made friends, and later learned that her friends were too many, but her feelings later in life were like this.
Too many friendships become a burden
Why are we setting a social cap? That's because we have limited time to run that many relationships at the same time.
There is no time to participate in the superficial lively socializing, Sanmao has many friends, and after Jose left, her heart has a big gap.
Friends because they love her, of course, want to accompany her more, always tell her the date directly, people will come.
I never asked her if she wanted to, probably because I thought she didn't have a job or free time, so I didn't ask.
Because of the friendship, Sanmao always cooperates, but he also admits that he is very tired, and the house has not been well decorated.
If you refuse to tell the truth, will you dilute some friendship? This is the upper limit.
Within your own means, manage the most important relationships, and leave the rest of the time to yourself.
A friend of mine, who works in Taipei, returns to Tainan to see her parents or to see her sister in Taichung whenever she has time.
She is not in Taipei on weekends, leaving time for her family, she has many friends, and can only find her on weekdays.
This is her emotional ordering, and everyone should sort out such an order.
True networking is based on your strength and the character of the other party
Actor Liu Tao lost a 4 million suitcase in Denmark, and the host Wang Han immediately called the Danish embassy as soon as she saw it on her Weibo, and the Danish foreign minister was his friend.
In less than 20 hours, things were found.
Liu Tao may not have had a deep friendship with Wang Han, but her fame made her see it as soon as she posted.
When he met Wang Han, who was warm and kind, he immediately helped.
Wang Han said that if you are my network, you and I must be equal, can help each other, and can create value for each other. Connections that are always demanding, or giving, are often unhealthy.
I have also written about people who will really help you, and there is no need for you to be humble and flattering, because they have good character and cultivation, and how can they bear to see you bow down to him.
Others help you because you are good, but also because others are good.
More often, socializing is a value exchange, and if you're strong enough, you'll have connections.
Of course, the contacts exchanged with sincerity are more profound.
On the theme of networking, I have written many times, and this time I try to write something new, hoping to give you a new experience.
In Sanmao's work "Gentle Night" that I watched yesterday, there is a story that impressed me.
In a square on the island of Gran Canaria, Sanmao meets an oriental man who is a handicraft vendor from Japan.
Seeing Sanmao, who was also an oriental face, he specially calculated that they were 50% off, and Sanmao wanted Jose not to accept it, and it was not easy to make money doing small business.
Sanmao thought to himself, what can he do for this foreigner? He thought of frying a table of national dishes for him to eat and entertaining friends to eat, which was something Sanmao often did.
Jose wondered, you didn't covet his cheapness, why did you invite him to dinner? Sanmao said that she was willing to discount her "love" for the other party.
After the other party came to eat, the 3 people became friends, and Sanmao also promised him that he could come to him if he had difficulties.
She would also wrap meat for him to eat and add some nutrition for him, and other vendors would misunderstand that Sanmao was his girlfriend.
Later, Sanmao became obsessed with painting stones, painting without eating or drinking, and was completely fascinated, and when he thought of his Japanese friends, he had not seen him for more than a month.
She blamed Jose for not reminding her? Jose said that you are in charge of relationships, and how do I know that you didn't go to see him.
Sanmao found his home, the landlord said he had moved away, she thought that the other party probably traveled to other countries, and did not care too much.
A few months later, I met a peddler by chance, only to learn that my Japanese friend's money and passport were all gone, and I had been in trouble, and I had been looking for Sanmao, but because Sanmao had moved, I didn't notify him of the new address, and I couldn't find it.
Later, she encountered a series of incidents, and had a very bad life, and Sanmao yi was very remorseful, this foreign friend trusted her so much, but she was busy drawing stones when the other party was in difficulty.
When he saw his Japanese friend again, he did not blame him at all, and Sanmao quietly asked someone to buy all his handicrafts to preserve his dignity.
During that time, it was another vendor who supported each other, and finally Sanmao invited the two of them to a meal again and sent them away from Gran Canaria.
After reading this story, I think Sanmao is really kind, and the encounter of her friend is not her responsibility, but she blames herself so much.
It also fits today's theme, our time is limited, she is addicted to hobbies, and she can't take care of friends.
She had already advised a Japanese friend to save the money, but the other party felt that it was unnecessary, always carrying it with him, if he saved it, everything would be very different.
We must take care of ourselves first, if he has an idea of money, stored in the bank, there is no need to wait for Sanmao to help.
The peddler who helped him, who was not in a good condition himself, helped him with all his strength, and was also a very kind person, and later the two of them went together to see the world.
And the Japanese friend can get the help of so many people because of his good character.
In any case, we must first manage ourselves, good character makes people willing to be close to you, and good ability allows us to cross ourselves.
This is the principle of networking that you must grasp most, not how many people you know and how good your interpersonal skills are.