Carnegie once said:
People who have determined their goals in life are dozens of steps ahead of those who are at a loss.
A purposeful life is far happier than a wandering life.
People who do not have a purpose in life, life itself is boring and boring.
The goal is easy to say, but how many people have really achieved it?
We seem to do a lot of things every day, but we don't seem to do anything.
Every day is as busy as a top, but those who want to do and should be done are not satisfactory.
The more times, the more you slowly lose the spirit to set goals.
As a result, we are exhausted in years without goals.
What efforts are there to talk about, and what qualifications are there to talk about efforts?
01 Does setting a goal work? You may be stuck in an endless loop of not disassembling the target
In high school, I didn't speak english well at the same table, but chemistry was excellent.
I and she just complement each other's abilities, so I took the initiative to help each other learn weak subjects.
When the two of us were excitedly discussing how to improve our grades, I suggested to her:
"Set a goal, for example, this monthly exam to complete the blanks to 6, reading comprehension error 5 ..."
She categorically rejected me.
Because on the road of learning English, she has set n goals, but she has never been able to achieve it.
This made her increasingly discouraged by her English scores.
I asked her how she had set the goal before, and she said it was similar to the one I had set, and I said then?
She said no, and then she started memorizing words very hard.
I was stunned! Does such an effort really work?
When I was in junior high school, my English level was seventy grades.
After scoring 72 points on a certain test, my mother nagged me all night with a hoarse voice.
Not only did I set a goal, but next time I must guarantee 80 points.
A detailed plan was also developed, including:
Memorize words, memorize phrases, memorize example sentences, memorize grammar, memorize sample texts, memorize texts, and memorize practice questions.
The amount of daily recitation and how to test it are prescribed.
And every day at the end of the day, I got up and called out to me to prepare breakfast for me.
At night, let me write homework with the best students in their class...
My mom also often checks.
So I came to a state later:
As long as the words, sentences, paragraphs, and articles have appeared in my life, I will memorize them.
The level of English has also remained stable close to the point of perfect score.
Many friends know my history of learning English.
In fact, I just turned key goals into process goals with the help of my mother.
And supervise and monitor all the way, just like a review, constantly summing up experience and improving skills.
And Lisa does work very hard, but how can the bare back words be enough?
Even if you are a good worker on the back of A to Z, the basic grammar and semantics are not understood.
Choosing and filling in the blanks with the Gestalt is definitely still not good.
The key is that the goal is not disassembled well, to the extent that it is easy to complete, and the failure to complete further discourages the enthusiasm.
This is also a dead loop where many friends work harder in English and get worse grades.
02 Grasping the key factors is the starting point of effective efforts
In addition to the english practice that everyone loves.
Many friends have a "good writer" complex, and I have 2 times to practice words intensively.
The first time was in the fifth grade of elementary school, and the grooved posters were purchased from the school.
I practiced for a long time, although I also wanted to write well.
Every day I write a page, there is no then, the font is still like that, but the perseverance is cultivated.
The second time was the summer vacation of the first year of junior high school, and that time I bought Sima Yan's posters.
The goal must be to practice beautiful words, and must be written quickly, and can not delay the time to do the question.
So I practiced all summer, sweating profusely, and still kept practicing.
This time I not only knew what my key goals were.
How much and quality of my weekly practice words.
I also considered what would affect the quality of my writing, and that was the state of mind.
When I'm irritable, I can't write well.
So I found a super quiet room, the Principal's Room (Mom is a teacher, I have this resource).
In addition, the third year of junior high school starts early in the summer.
I had the opportunity to take my own words and look for them with my Language teacher and the teacher who wrote well.
They would tell me which strokes were not in place and which structures were not clearly seen.
More critically, they found that the posture I had been using with my pen was wrong.
So my fonts are all crooked.
In the end, although my font did not reach the point of "people see people love, flowers see flowers bloom".
But at least the quality and speed of the test is enough.
In the process, I disassemble the goals into weekly, daily, and half-days.
I dig out the key elements, I constantly examine the extent to which the goal has been achieved, and find successful people to judge and learn from.
03 Crack the target anxiety, it is important to get the number accurately
However, you would say that you have also dismantled the target.
Even the Gantt chart was drawn, but the full goal was not achieved.
I really want to say that "the goal is difficult to achieve, but you think too much".
Three of the goals of a phase are already saturated.
In many cases, we don't start by listing goals too much and want to do everything.
But what are the goals?
Goals mean gaps and results that take some effort to achieve.
So, you can delete targets that don't need much effort.
But because people have limited energy, it is best to keep only 3 goals per month.
If those goals are not achieved, they will be anxious and stressed to stay.
Delete those that don't matter.
Key objectives are broken down into process objectives and time nodes are set.
This is often the end of our previous goal setting.
But here, in the goal-setting method I've shared with you, this is just the beginning.
You also need to consider the elements of each process goal, obstacle or challenge, and then develop targeted measures.
It's as if you've set an awesome weight loss goal.
Outdoor exercise is required for 1 hour a day.
However, winter is cold and smog, and you must pre-make indoor exercise plans.
For example, do a set of Jade Pearl Hyun weight loss yoga.
For example, you set a goal for the public account day.
However, the next step is to travel or take a major exam.
So where does your writing material come from and how do you squeeze out your writing time?
For example, you can communicate with friends more and collect stories while helping others.
But that's not enough.
All the goal setting is just the beginning, and the specific implementation process needs to be recorded and reviewed.
Of course, this requires you to believe in the role of the goal.
I don't care, I don't want to do it, so I eat, drink and sleep every day.
This mentality, how to set goals is futile, because not working hard is instinctive.
But do you know that "sooner or later you will come out and pay it back".
In those years you tried to avoid things you didn't want to learn, did you really dodge them?
Maybe when you become a parent, you will find out that there is no way to avoid it!