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There is a topic of up to 23.06 million views: "Is there a difference between a woman's living status before marriage and after marriage?" ”
Some netizens replied: "Before marriage is a girl, after marriage is a big mother, busy making yourself happy when in love, busy balancing the family after marriage." ”
Some netizens complained: "Marriage is the graveyard of love, and children are the graveyard of marriage." Life is to suffer, before marriage fantasize about being pampered like a child, did not expect to take care of a large and a small child after marriage, and now becomes able to do anything. Love is not a fairy tale, but a lie. ”
The life that everyone experiences after marriage is unique, but the normal state of marriage is that it is inseparable from chai rice oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea, and love is also like drinking water in marriage, cold and warm self-knowledge.
From love to marriage, in fact, most women are facing the problem of time and energy being occupied by the family. Some women are willing to focus their lives on the family; some women strive to balance the relationship between career and family; and some women still rush forward in the workplace.
The living patterns of each family are different, and the atmosphere created is naturally different.
Some people blame the happiness of marriage on whether the woman is blessed, but in their eyes they think: "If a woman is a husband, the family will naturally be happy." ”
As everyone knows, marriage relies on two people working together, not on one person's luck. The "Wangfu" that people often say in their mouths does not simply refer to the impact of women's wealth and luck on the family.
Women are able to keep their homes in good order, relying on the time and energy they put in, on wisdom and emotional intelligence.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="11" >01: The essence of "Wangfu" is "Wang" itself</h1>
Sophie Marceau once said: "Women can age, but they must be graceful to death, and marriage must not wear women out of luster." ”
What woman in a marriage doesn't want to be graceful and moving? Every gift of fate has a price tag, and if a woman wants to live an elegant and calm life, she cannot help but have money to give herself confidence.
Why is It said that Wangfu is Wang himself? Huang Jing used her own personal experience to prove that the real value of a woman is not to take care of her family and family, but to create a better self.
Huang Jing and her husband have been married for many years and have raised two sons together, but as a full-time wife, she has too many hardships that are difficult to talk about. Marriage also needs an economic basis to maintain, she has no source of income, can only rely on her husband to support the family, over time the status of the family is naturally not as good as before.
Once, she happened to see the life state of her girlfriend in the circle of friends, and the ease and calmness of her girlfriend made her extremely envious, so she humbly asked the other party for advice on how to make money.
Some people say: money is very tacky. But again, money works.
Huang Jing learned to change herself with the help of her girlfriend, and finally achieved a little success through several months of hard work, and then her financial experience slowly accumulated, and she also made a drastic change in her life.
After she had the ability to create wealth, her husband also took the initiative to hand over his salary to her, and even her mother-in-law took her own money to invest in, and praised her daughter-in-law's ability when she saw people.
The quality of marriage is all about people, and whether a woman has a "Wangfu" life or not, the key lies in whether she knows how to cultivate herself. A woman who can make herself comfortable and happy, love is just the icing on the cake for them.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="21" >02: Women who are really "Wangfu" mostly abandon ineffective socializing</h1>
Xiao Yu and Liu Xin are girlfriends who have played from childhood to adulthood, and the two have a very close relationship, and they also talk about everything in their daily lives.
However, since Xiao Yu got married, the frequency of contact between the two has decreased visibly. Xiao Yu is now most concerned about topics related to children, and the friends who chat in life are also the same pregnant mothers.
Liu Xin likes beauty games as always, and although the two are still in love, it is difficult to chat deeply.
As the saying goes: Time is the most precious asset. A person has only twenty-four hours a day, and wise people will allocate time reasonably to enrich and improve themselves.
Women who go from love to marriage will change, and they can create a warm and happy home for their own small home, and behind them is also indispensable learning and paying.
Every woman in Wangfu, once a beautiful girl, has given up many things in balancing her life and marriage, and they may not ask for anything in return, but they must need to be respected and cherished by their families.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="28" >03: Unsociable women, time and energy are easier to adjust</h1>
In the TV series "Thirty Only", Gu Jia and Xu Huanshan's love entered the society from the campus, and the two co-founded the fireworks company.
Gu Jia is a good wife who "has to go up to the hall and get the kitchen down" in the eyes of countless people, even if Gu Jia has such excellent ability, she has given up a lot of doing all this.
After marrying Xu Huanshan, she chose to be a full-time wife, and used the energy of managing the company to educate and accompany her children, take care of her husband and family, and even occasionally help her husband solve work problems.
Gu Jia's social circle is very simple, if it is not for her son to be able to attend a good kindergarten, she will never be able to put down her body and strive to integrate into the "noblewoman circle".
Whether it is impeccable as a wife or a mother, she can live her life in an orderly manner, and she cannot do without her concentration and planning.
In marriage, she focused on running her own family, carefully selecting the furnishings of her new home, and personally making a small cake for her son to bring to her classmates.
After the divorce, in order to be able to give her children better living conditions, she became a strong woman and focused on developing her career.
Gu Jia has conquered countless netizens with her personality charm, and a woman who knows how to plan her life soberly, even if she is not a "Wangfu" life, she must have a rich and noble life.
The famous interpersonal communication master Carnegie said: "Women do two things well in their lives, first to make a living, and then to make love." ”
From the analysis of Maslow's hierarchy of needs, only by first satisfying physical and security needs will people pursue feelings and belonging, and finally realize themselves in respect and need.
The essence of a woman's "Wangfu" is actually a process of self-pursuit and realization.
The secret of women's "Wangfu" is actually to know how to manage themselves, every independent and focused woman has the ability to create happiness, they do not need to rely on the illusory luck to improve the quality of life, they can run the feng shui of the family.
Life is inevitably through the wind and rain, a real Wangfu woman, will not put her hopes on fate when the wind and rain come, rather than relying on luck to get through the difficulties, relying on strength is the safest.
Luck can only make life smooth for a while, and hard work can make people happy for a lifetime.
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