High-quality companionship for parents to help form good habits

The upper grade of primary school is the most important period for children's psychological and physiological development and changes, and the cultivation and shaping of good learning habits is of great significance to improving learning efficiency, improving learning ability, forming good qualities and behaviors, and will also lay a solid foundation for children to successfully complete middle and high school learning, and even lifelong learning.

After the implementation of the "double reduction" policy, children have enough time at home, how can parents accompany their children in the upper grades with high quality and help them develop good habits?

First, high-quality companionship needs to create a quiet and independent learning atmosphere for children.

A quiet family learning environment can prompt children to concentrate on high concentration, concentrate on learning, and cultivate concentration; a relaxed and independent learning environment helps children to learn actively, form independent learning habits and good thinking skills. The so-called high-quality accompaniment is not that parents deliberately sit on the side to supervise when children learn, and it is not laissez-faire, but from the overall control, when the child needs to work with him to clarify ideas, establish knowledge links, and find the right way to think. When the child is clear about how to analyze and learn, parents should believe that he can independently find a solution to the problem, thereby increasing the "sense of independence" and "sense of gain" of the child's learning. Only by giving their children a certain amount of independent learning space can parents stimulate his willingness to take the initiative to learn, consciously promote the good habit of independent thinking, and cultivate self-learning ability and divergent thinking ability.

Second, high-quality accompaniment requires parents and children to jointly agree on "good habit goals", strengthen self-management awareness, and enhance self-control.

After entering the senior grade, children have initially formed some learning habits and have certain thinking skills. Parents should seize the opportunity to agree on the "good habit goal" with their children, and insist on "synchronous walking" and "step-by-step walking" in parallel.

"Synchronous walking" is to pay attention to the overall development of children, multiple habits at the same time to cultivate, mutual promotion. Children's learning habits are closely related to many habits such as life, hygiene, labor, and sports. In daily life, parents continue to strengthen the training of life self-care awareness, which is conducive to the formation of correct values and responsibility for children, thereby improving independent learning ability; the achievement of sports habit goals can effectively promote the improvement of children's attention and concentration; reading habits can promote children's thinking development and stimulate strong learning internal driving force. "Synchronous walking" requires parents and children to strengthen the cultivation of time management awareness, strictly implement work and rest plans, control the time and space of their own activities, avoid temptations, and restrain behavior.

The cultivation of good habits should be "step by step" because the formation of any good habit requires a gradual process. Setting goals in stages is conducive to children experiencing the sense of achievement and happiness achieved by the goal step by step, thereby enhancing self-management awareness and self-control ability, and ultimately internalizing good habits in the heart and externalizing them in practice. "Step by step" requires refining habit formation and forming abilities one by one. For example, when cultivating children's independent learning habits, they can be refined into: pre-study before class, first understand the content and then bring questions into the classroom; focus on listening to lectures in class, learn to think while listening, and then gradually develop the habit of taking notes to grasp the key points, remember key points, mark doubts, and write feelings; after class, develop the habit of reviewing in time, consolidating what you have learned, and writing a diary.

At the heart of the good habit goal is "autonomy and self-discipline." It is an important ability for children to enter secondary school and even lifelong learning.

Third, high-quality accompaniment requires the construction of learning families, perseverance in promoting habits, in order to achieve long-term sustainable development.

Parents' words and deeds subtly affect their children's inner feelings and thinking habits. In terms of behavior, parents should lead by example and set an example of active learning for their children; in terms of methods, they should unremittingly strengthen training; emotionally, respect, understand, trust and encourage children. Parents cooperate with each other to help children establish a positive self-evaluation concept, so that children can always maintain a stable and efficient learning state.

(Shi Weiying, a backbone teacher of Tianjin Experimental Primary School, a meritorious class teacher and a backbone class teacher in Heping District, led a class that has won the title of "Red Flag Squadron" in Heping District.) ）

Source: Tonight's newspaper