If you've been in love, how long is your "obsessive love period"? If not, can you ask your friends around you how long their "obsessive love period" is?
The Five Languages of Love is a globally popular marriage counseling and personal growth tool.
Since its publication in 1992, it has consistently appeared on Publishers Weekly's best-seller lists and has been topped the New York Times bestseller list several times. Its Cumulative sales in English exceeded 10 million copies, and it was translated into more than 20 languages and distributed worldwide.
Since its publication, the Chinese edition has sold more than 500,000 copies. It can be said to be an enduring classic bestseller.
Dr. Gary Chapman, the author of this book, is a well-known marriage counseling expert, best-selling author and training instructor in the United States.
His radio show Growing Marriage has been broadcast on more than 100 radio stations. After more than 30 years of experience in marriage counseling, he found that people basically express love and understand love in five ways, that is, "five languages of love".
The author points out that there are five basic languages of love, and people use five ways to express love and understand love. The point is to speak the language of love that your spouse can grasp.
The five languages of love are:
Words of affirmation
Elaborate moments
Accept gifts
Actions of service
Physical contact
Love doesn't necessarily disappear after a wedding, but to survive, in order to make the marriage happier, we all have to try to learn a second language of love.
My understanding is the difference between "common sense" and "passion". So from the perspective of the measure of time, how long can the intoxicating experience of "falling in love" last?
The answer may be grim: only 2 years.
In other words, if you spend a lifetime with a lover who has a "fascinating romantic relationship", the feeling of being in love can only last for 2 years. What about 2 years from now?
The authors point out that some couples believe that after the feeling of being in love disappears, they have only two options. One is to suffer with the other half for a lifetime, and the other is to give up the marriage and start again.
Now there are more people who choose to remarry. You may not know, in fact, there is a better third choice, that is, to recognize the essence of the love experience, rationally and diligently love each other, and fill the love box of yourself and your other half.
Again, the old saying "marriage needs to be managed."
