For young children, parents are absolute heaven, and no matter what parents give their children, the children will default to that it is "love" for him.
Children, after birth, are destined to need meticulous care and love from their parents, but this is not something that all children can get.
It is not uncommon for children to be abandoned, abused, and even abused to death.
<h1>People who do not have a perfect personality become parents and are doomed to tragedy</h1>
Funado Yuki, a 5-year-old Japanese girl, fainted at her home on March 2, 2018, and after being taken to the hospital, she unfortunately passed away due to sepsis caused by pneumonia.
She died unhappily, not by anyone else, but by the "parents" she had been praying for forgiveness in her diary. The stepfather hated the small knot love too fat, and only gave half a bowl of rice and a night of soup per meal. But Xiao Ji Ai was only 12kg when he died in the hospital, and asked a 5-year-old child who was 24 kilograms still fat?
Xiao Ji Ai was also often beaten, bathing in cold water in the cold winter, standing on the balcony, sleeping in a remote hut without a stove, and her parents and eldest son living in a large room.
I get up at 4 o'clock every morning, weigh myself, and practice writing kana. Insist on writing a diary every day, and the most written in the diary except for daily is to apologize to your parents and get their forgiveness. For themselves can not eat enough, their own cold, their own pain is not mentioned.
In the summary of love, the reason why I can't get the care and love of my parents is because I don't do well enough. If you can do better, your parents will one day be good to themselves. The ideal always can't withstand the cruelty of reality, and the small summary love can't wait for that day, and that day will not come after all.
People who do not have a perfect personality become parents and are doomed to tragedy. When Xiao Ji Ai was beaten by the vicious stepfather, her mother did not dissuade and stop her. When the staff of the children's counseling center visited, the mother did not ask for help, but accused them of sabotaging the family. When the family went out to dinner, Mom didn't bring a small knot of love.
Mom coldly and ruthlessly gave up the angel who was born in October when she was pregnant, and Dad killed the little angel with a ruthless and vicious novice. Such "parents", no matter how perfect the love of the small summary, will not get their hypocritical love.
<h1>There is no "love" rooted in the heart of parents, giving only cruelty, violence, fear, sensitivity and helplessness to their children. And the experience of abuse is a scar that accompanies children throughout their lives. </h1>
In 2018, the number of cases of child abuse handled by the Japanese Child Counseling Center was as high as that
133,778, a new record high, but these are just the tip of the iceberg, according to experts, almost every day a child dies of abuse.
The little lives that have passed away will no longer suffer, and may they be all right in heaven. But living children are still suffering from the unforgiving indifference of their "parents." Even if he is rescued, even if he grows up, he is still tormented by this experience.
In Japan, the number of children living in childcare institutions as a result of parental abuse is on the rise, and sexual and physical violence is constantly occurring among these children. This trend is deteriorating, and the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare of Japan is also conducting in-depth and meticulous investigations to discuss countermeasures.
A former staff member of a conservation institution said: "Most of the children in the nursing home have experienced violence firsthand and know the horror of violence. Now they are using violence to control children younger than themselves. Sexual violence is also a means for them to control other children, not a need for sex."
Yes! What children get from their parents is violence, what they learn is violence, and the way they get along with people and society can only be violence. Maybe in their minds, violence is the only way they can express love. Because these "parents" don't give their children anything other than violence.
Even if the children escape the clutches of their parents, the devil in their hearts will not be driven away. Fear, sensitivity make them incompatible with society; cruelty, violence keeps them in jail. It is extremely difficult to achieve happiness in a life with such an experience.
Universities in Tokyo often hold events called "Survivors of Abuse Telling Stories". In this activity, the children who survived to grow up recounted the painful experiences of torturing themselves.
■ Since he was sensible, he has been beaten and kicked by his parents and eaten rotten and moldy food. Feeling alone, alone, helpless, afraid. My parents must have wanted to die in this difficult daily life, and since then I don't know how many times I have wanted to die. But even so, at that time, she still thought that this was her parents' love for her. (Female in her 20s)
■ Being fed bugs by parents, being sprayed with insecticides on the eyes, being poured with boiling hot oil, being roasted with a lighter with a hand, and not being forced to excrete in a bucket with a toilet. After running away from home, he is still trapped by PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) and depression, and can only continue to struggle in the quagmire of poverty. No one but yourself will help you. The more miserable you are, the more society pushes you into the abyss. What really helped me was the world's most hated night workers. (Female in her 20s)
■ In the name of the daughter, overprotective, over-interfering, interfering in everything, and continuing verbal violence whenever there is a violation. I still think about it, I still feel unwell, I can't express my excitement, and my hatred will arise spontaneously. This feeling is indelible for a lifetime. (Female in her 30s)
There is no "love" rooted in the heart of parents, giving only cruelty, violence, fear, sensitivity and helplessness to their children. And the experience of abuse is a scar that accompanies children throughout their lives.
<h1>"Love" is the most effective remedy for healing the scars of the heart and driving away demons</h1>
Children who survived the abuse of their parents are still tormented by this painful experience when they grow up. Scars on the heart and demons in the heart hinder the pace of these children's happiness all the time.
But human beings are extraordinary animals. Even if the Scar Demon is powerful, catalyzed by time and love, the hearts of the survivors of abuse will eventually be sown with the seeds of "love". The seed takes root and sprouts in the heart, grows kind, friendly, brave, helpful branches and leaves, and finally bears the fruit of happiness.
The Japanese drama "Les Misérables – Journey without End" tells the story of children with tragic experiences who use "love" to break through their inner spells and obtain liberation and happiness.
In the play, Takumi Watanabe is a child who is abused by his stepfather and abandoned by his mother. Catalyzed by the love of the people around him, he did not give up on himself, was not tired of painful experiences, and worked hard to pursue the ideal of becoming a lawyer to help people with painful experiences like him. Although he died of an earthquake, the protagonist is redeemed by his love, inherits his ideals, and passes on "love" to people who have painful experiences.
Love can block the misfortunes of abuse survivors and allow them to eventually attain happiness. But this is not an easy task after all.
What we can do, and the easiest thing to do, is not to be "such" parents, not to be parents who "abuse their children and create misfortune". Be a parent who has love in your heart and takes root in your child's heart.
Life is unfair to you, and that is the challenge book that life sends you to grow. And the child is the biggest spiritual pillar for you to overcome the challenge.
When you are angry, it will be relieved to look at the child's sleeping face; when you are tired, the child's warm words will make you feel relaxed. Children are the light of happiness in your tired life. The child is definitely not the punching bag for you to vent your anger.
Digest anger in growth and spread "love" in children's hearts. Society is changing rapidly, and only "love" is eternal. How much love you sow today, you will eventually receive infinite love in the future.