Wen | Fang Xiaoju
Su Daqiang and Zhao Meilan are the best portrayal of the "yin sheng yang decline" type of husband and wife relationship in marriage.
In the original work of "All Is Good", after Zhao Meilan's sudden death, Su Daqiang lived in the family of his second son Ming Cheng, and he did not dare to go back to the place where he had lived alone, nor did he want to face his wife's relics again.
Su Daqiang's eldest son, Mingzhe, was a filial piety, and his father did not dare to live in his original home, so he changed his father's house.
For Su Daqiang to change the house, Mingzhe added a lot of silver, and he was a little nervous at hand, planning to buy home appliances for his parents and find them to continue to use.
However, when he took Su Daqiang to Mingyu's garage to choose what to put there, he was fiercely opposed by Su Daqiang, who sat on the car and refused to come down, and shouted with his head torn:
"Mingzhe, I don't want to see those old things, please let me go back, I can walk back by myself, don't bother you, please."
Looking at Su Daqiang, who was sucking and shouting loudly with his snot, Mingzhe was shocked and suspicious, a few old things, why did he make his father so afraid? He was overwhelmed and his scalp was tingling.
Su Mingyu couldn't look at it anymore and glanced at Su Daqiang:
"What's it called! If you don't want to see it, you can say a reason, and it's not a big deal."
Su Daqiang became even more timid under Mingyu's sharp gaze, and he looked at Mingzhe as if asking for help, and moved towards him.
Looking at the panicked look of the old father trembling, Su Mingyu doubted Dou Dou, why did Su Daqiang kill and not be willing to face his wife's relics? What's behind this?
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The marriage of Su Daqiang and Zhao Meilan is a deformed product of their time.
Su Daqiang in the TV series, although timid and hateful, but under ni Dahong's interpretation of the image is still reasonable, and in the original work, Su Daqiang is not only short, but also dry, grinding until he is more than thirty years old and has not yet married his daughter-in-law.
So his mother was anxious and set her sights on the countryside.
After the blind date arranged by relatives, Zhao Meilan, who has bright eyes and bright teeth, is very disappointed in Su Daqiang, who is like a little old man.
But Mother Zhao must grasp the straw of Su Daqiang, so as to take the opportunity to pull her son into the city, and after convincing her daughter that it is not successful, Mother Zhao moved her arms, and she pulled her wife to kneel for her daughter.
The most beautiful girl in the countryside, for the benefit of her mother's family, married the ugliest lang in the city with all kinds of grievances, and the strong marriage between Zhao Meilan and Su Daqiang was doomed to be unfortunate from the beginning.
What's more, Su Daqiang's humiliation and sorrow have laid the groundwork since the night of the cave flower candle. In the original work, Su Mingzhe has this description in his family history:
Dad said that what was even more infuriating was that Mom was not a virgin. He was very uncomfortable in the cave room on the night of the candle, but was slapped back by his mother.split face. Dad said that his mother's appearance was very vicious, and he did not dare to tell his grandmother about this matter.
Later, Dad heard rumors from relatives that her mother had gone to the health center to work as a temporary worker, all because she was sleeping alone by the county health bureau. Dad thought, no wonder Mom is so beautiful and eats imperial food people willing to marry him, it turned out to be broken shoes that no one wanted.
Since he knows that his wife is not a virgin, but a broken shoe, if Su Daqiang is a bloody man, he should slap him back on the spot, and then divorce his wife, and should not succumb to his wife's vicious face.
It can be seen that all the humiliation and suppression in Su Daqiang's marriage stemmed from his own cowardice and bloodlessness.
On the night of the cave flower candle, Zhao Meilan slapped her with a split face, awe-inspiringly declared her sovereignty, and high-profile highlighted her own toughness and domineering.
Su Daqiang, who was defeated in the face of Zhao Meilan's strength, was unfavorable in the first battle, so he was destined to live as a humble and pitiful little man who was obedient to everything in cowardice and humiliation.
In this marriage where women are too strong, men are too weak, and the purpose of exchanging benefits is not easy, Su Daqiang can survive without illness and disaster, and live healthily.
However, a timid and humble man, also has his own thoughts and dignity, Su Daqiang, who has been a librarian in school all his life, because he reads more books and has more ideas than other men.
The wife is not a virgin, and being slept before marriage is a scar on Su Daqiang's heart that is difficult to heal, and it is also his greatest shame as a man.
Although he was afraid of Zhao Meilan's strength, he never dared to say anything, but he was always grumpy.
After Zhao Meilan gave birth to Mingcheng, she put her hukou into the city, at this time, she made a divorce request to Su Daqiang, who was fed up with her domineering and suppression and silently accepted.
But after hearing the news that the two were going to divorce, Zhao Meilan's sister immediately returned to her hometown to tell her mother, and when Zhao Meilan heard that her daughter wanted a divorce, she took a tractor into the city to sell vegetables overnight to find Zhao Meilan, crying and shouting that she was not allowed to divorce, and then knelt down for her.
She forced Zhao Meilan to go to the city to get her brother's hukou and divorce her, otherwise she would have to go to Zhao Meilan's unit to make a big fuss.
Unable to make trouble with her mother, Zhao Meilan had to temporarily not divorce, but at this time, Su Daqiang was determined to escape from her "clutches", and in the face of Zhao Meilan, who had changed, Su Daqiang hid in school and refused to go home.
Seeing that Su Daqiang was determined to divorce, Zhao Meilan took her two children to the neighborhood committee to make trouble, and threatened that Su Daqiang was Chen Shimei and wanted to abandon their mother and son.
The people of the neighborhood committee were frightened by Zhao Meilan's repeated disturbances, so they went through the school to find Su Daqiang to do work, but this time Su Daqiang grew his ambition and must carry out the divorce to the end.
Seeing that Su Daqiang had to get a divorce, Zhao Meilan came up with the next strategy, she put down her face, and cried again and again to find the neighborhood committee, and asked the cadres of the neighborhood committee to help her drag Su Daqiang home for the night, until she was pregnant with Mingyu.
During the period when the woman was pregnant and breastfeeding, the law did not allow divorce, during this time, Zhao Meilan did not know what relationship, put her brother's hukou into the city, and completed her mother's wish.
After getting what she wanted, Zhao Meilan finally agreed to divorce and wanted to throw Xiao Mingyu, who was born not long ago, to Su Daqiang to raise, Su Daqiang looked at it and instigated, how could he raise such a young child?
He once again endured the humiliation in his heart, surrendered his gun in front of Zhao Meilan, and begged her not to divorce.
Since then, Su Daqiang has died of his heart for divorce, so in the midst of trembling, he did not dare to make a sound when he walked, his face was flattering, and he lived most of his life under Zhao Meilan's suppression like a mouse.
After Zhao Meilan's death, Su Daqiang did not want to see the relics left by her again, and it was logical to think about it, it was not easy to grow good scars, who was willing to touch it again, those days full of humiliation, did not want to.
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Because of his timidity and cowardice, Su Daqiang not only lived in humiliation and oppression all his life, but also took his mother's life.
There is a saying that says well: "Willing to gamble and lose", Su Daqiang caught his wife's slap to himself on the night of the cave flower candle, swallowed the fact that his wife was not a virgin, but he could not forget the shame in his heart, he could afford to gamble, but he could not put it down.
Although he did not dare to mention Zhao Meilan's scandal to his mother at first, he never crossed the hurdle in his heart, and in the end, he still couldn't help but reveal his wife's bottom with his mother.
After Su Mu knew that the daughter-in-law she married back at a high price was a second-hand commodity, she was mad.
Her husband died early, and she pulled her son into an adult with hard work, and the hardships in it can be imagined, so she did not want herself and her son to continue to live hard in the future.
When her son was dating, in addition to looking at Zhao Meilan's gentleness and quietness on the outside, she also looked at her rough hands.
She thought triumphantly that a little girl's hands were thick like this, indicating that she worked a lot at home, and she would definitely be a material who would live a life in the future, and her son could marry a woman who "would serve people" and have to rely on for the second half of her life.
Therefore, Su Mu satisfactorily agreed to her son's marriage, and in front of all her relatives and friends, promised to do everything possible to get her daughter-in-law's hukou to the city.
Su Mu was a person who wanted face, and when she was betrothed, she gave the Zhao family a lot of bride price, but the Zhao family did not come up with a decent dowry.
Zhao Meilan's mother only gave her daughter a quilt with a flower cloth and two embroidered pillows, and the cotton wool in the quilt was old, pulling out a fluff of ash.
So many bride price was obscured by the daughter-in-law's mother-in-law's family, Su Mu was very unhappy, on the day of her son's wedding, the wine banquet was not over, she was depressed and went back to the house to sleep.
Knowing so many ugly things about her daughter-in-law from her son's mouth, and thinking about the dowry that the Zhao family had given, Su Mu felt that she had lost a lot.
How could she swallow this evil breath when she couldn't rub the sand in her eyes? Therefore, she found a suitable opportunity and fought with Zhao Meilan.
Although Su Mu was strong, she was still weaker in front of Zhang Meilan, who was equally strong and had been tempered by life.
She did not shy away from saying in public that the ugly deeds of breaking her daughter-in-law were tantamount to stripping Zhao Meilan of her clothes and showing her to the public, she had always been competitive and competitive, and how could Zhao Meilan, who loved face, bear such humiliation.
Embarrassed and embarrassed, Zhao Meilan, in a fit of rage, used her fierceness to push Su Mu to the ground, allowing her to fall and cry in the water beach, and then closed the door and shut out the neighbor who was persuaded.
At this time, Su Daqiang, who had caused trouble, dared to say that he did not dare to be, he exerted his cowardice and timidity like a rat to the extreme, witnessed his mother's defeat, and he did not dare to help her say a fair word.
Under Zhao Meilan's majestic and fierce gaze, he watched his mother coldly and helplessly sit on the mud floor and cry, never daring to go forward and pull her.
The cruelty of the daughter-in-law and the cowardice of the son made Su Mu freeze out of a serious illness in the cold winter, and soon died.
As a son, Su Daqiang is disobedient and filial piety, in order to vent the resentment and resentment in his heart, he unveiled the bottom of his wife in front of his mother, he was happy, but pushed his mother to the road of no return.
If he had kind of suspended Zhao Meilan, or if he hadn't been frightened by Zhao Meilan's strength and viciousness on the night of the cave flower candle, he wouldn't have lived so stubbornly, and his mother wouldn't have clashed with his daughter-in-law.
If he could pull on when his mother fell to the ground, how could his mother die?
To put it bluntly, Zhao Meilan and Su Daqiang both carried a human life on their backs, and a life that Su Mu lost because of them.
Su Daqiang did not want to face his wife's relics, more ashamed of his mother, seeing those relics, he would see things and think of people, think of his mother, and think of the sins he and Zhao Meilan had done.
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After Zhao Meilan's sudden death, Su Daqiang faced his eldest son Mingzhe and sobbed:
"I don't dare to go home alone, I stay at home alone, my eyes and close my eyes are your mother, I can't stay for a moment, I want to live with you." 」
Mingzhe listened to his father's words, and his heart was miserable, and he could imagine how his father would mourn alone at the house where there were traces of his old wife everywhere.
But he couldn't figure out, how could his father and mother, after a lifetime, suddenly become afraid?
Mingzhe's innocence made him overlook one thing, his mother Zhao Meilan was overexcited while playing mahjong, resulting in a large-scale myocardial infarction.
People with a little medical knowledge know that when this disease occurs, it is necessary to ask the hospital for help in time, rather than moving the patient around casually.
But When Su Daqiang was sick with his wife, he was in a big mess, in order to save money, he actually did not call an ambulance, but found someone to carry Zhao Meilan to the side of the road to rent, and was refused to take a car several times before hitting the car.
Su Daqiang's selfish intentions in order to save money are the main reasons for Zhao Meilan's aggravation of her condition and delay her best treatment opportunities.
Su Daqiang's mouth that he was afraid of ghosts was actually guilty in his heart. Mingyu saw this more clearly than anyone else.
After Zhao Meilan's death, Su Daqiang's nervous system began to slowly recover his perception, and for him, the day of losing his wife was the freest and richest day in his life.
It was only when he remembered that his wife had delayed the treatment because of his own selfishness, that he would suddenly feel guilty and even more frightened. Therefore, he did not want to face his wife's relics anymore, and he did not want to think about the past.
In the face of Zhao Meilan's relics, Su Daqiang would see his wife's green eyes in those old things, looking at himself in the darkness with an animal-like cold and poisonous light, and that look made his back chill and shudder.
Later, as soon as he mentioned his wife Zhao Meilan, Su Daqiang became a conditioned reflex, and as soon as he heard Zhao Meilan's name, he felt a pair of green eyes staring at him.
Su Daqiang's overreaction when he mentioned his wife's relics caused Mingyu to question:
"Dad, your behavior is very strange, so I have to suspect that my mother's sudden death is related to you, you look up to answer my question, otherwise I have to ask the public security organs to intervene."
Su Mingyu's questioning created a huge pressure on Su Daqiang, who slowly slid down Mingzhe's trouser tube to the ground, and suddenly slammed the ground and burst into tears:
"I haven't harmed anyone, I haven't harmed anyone in my life, you've all wronged me, I've been harmed by your mother all my life, are you all blind?" Haven't you all seen it? yes...... yes...... Ahhh..."
Although Su Daqiang was inadvertent in delaying the treatment of Zhao Meilan's condition, he had always been timid as a rat, and his guilt and fear of this matter could be imagined. The pressure mingyu caused him was like crazy, and the old tears cried out to the sky.
Su Daqiang shouted, while his hands unconsciously punched the rough cement floor one punch after another, letting the rolling tears splash along the wrinkles, letting his fists knock out the black green on the ground, knocking the blood marks, and finally knocking out the hot blood.
Both Mingzhe and Mingyu were stunned by Su Daqiang's actions, from childhood to adulthood, it was the first time they had seen Old Father make such a loud noise.
Mingzhe involuntarily knelt down and gently hugged the old father who was crying, and Mingyu issued a sigh of "It seems that Dad has not been easy these years".
Because of the guilt in his heart, Su Daqiang gradually evolved from being reluctant to face his wife's relics at first to reflexively when he mentioned his wife's relics.
His children, in his old tears and shouts to heaven, could only pretend that nothing had happened, and were as confused as he was.
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When Su Daqiang was hungry and did not choose food, he endured humiliation and married Zhao Meilan, and their marriage of yin and yang not only harmed themselves, but also harmed their families.
A deformed marriage has produced deformed fruits, and the Su family has shown a deformed state except for Mingzhe.
Su Daqiang was like a mouse all his life, and he didn't even dare to make a sound when he walked, he was a witness to the abnormality of the Su family.
Su Ming became like a waste of firewood, under the excessive spoiling of his mother, he lived into a mother who could never be weaned psychologically, and his whereabouts were unknown after losing his marriage.
Su Mingyu, who has been snubbed since childhood and has not received a little love, lives trembling in the shadow of the Yin and Yang decline of the Su family, she has always been afraid that she will inherit her mother's inheritance and live as a yin person, so she has always resisted marriage, afraid of repeating her parents' life.
In this world, the most normal relationship between husband and wife is the balance of yin and yang, the yang is too strong, the yin is wilted, the yin is too strong, and the yang is decaying. Most of the relationships that are out of balance will be deformed.
Therefore, a man to enter the marriage, form a family, can not only look at the appearance, can not only consider the interests, it is best to weigh their own weight first, "no diamond, do not take porcelain work", can stabilize the wife, is the key to happiness in life.
The best husband and wife relationship in the world, Qinser and Ming, yin and yang balance!