People who fail are always looking for excuses, and successful people are always looking for ways.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="35" > today's topic:</h1>
Now there is suddenly an extra word for "lying flat" in society, which may be filled with a lot of helplessness. What I see, however, is that more people make excuses for their laziness.
It is precisely because the social economy has reached a certain level, full of unlimited possibilities and opportunities, young people should find the right positioning in life, avoid negative mentality, rekindle their fighting spirit, and be full of energy and cut through thorns to do hard work.
However, there are still many people who complain about the injustice of society to themselves and live in hatred and pain, so Xiao Yi will give you a support today, how to avoid this negative emotion.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="36" > real case:</h1>
Today's visitor is called Xiaowen, because of the poor family environment since childhood, he only came out to work at the age of 16. She has worked as an assembly line worker, delivered takeaways, and worked as a mass actor, and she has lost her original fighting spirit for life.
Now Xiaowen is filming in Hengdian, but recently it is really difficult to grab the scene, almost half a month is lying flat at home, and the pressure brought to her by the funds makes her feel breathless.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="37" > case study:</h1>
In fact, young people like Xiaowen are not in the minority, and most of them are also experiencing the pressure of the economy and the pain they bear mentally, and feel that they have lost motivation for life.
As early as 2018, the famous Japanese scholar Kenichi Ohmae put forward the concept of "low-desire society" in the book "Low-desire Society: The Economic Crisis of Population Aging and the Way to Solve it", which is characterized by: the population is declining, the super-aging, and the loss of self-motivation and desire are increasingly young people.
Of course, low desire is not useless, at least low desire and minimalist life can reduce the pressure on the natural environment, people's consumption concepts are more rational, and society has become more mature.
It is human nature to be dissatisfied with reality, but if you blindly compare your own shortcomings and deficiencies with the advantages and strengths of others, your psychology will get out of control. Of course, if it is used in the right direction, it will become the driving force for people to constantly pursue progress.
If he only focuses on his own shortcomings and the advantages and strengths of others, then what he gets is always complaints, complaints and pain, and in the long run, people's psychology and emotions will get out of control, and it will become very dangerous.
People with a negative mentality, the problem is mainly internal, the external material conditions can not be changed even if they are good, and this emotion can be transmitted to others.
If he can't find the reason from himself and don't change himself, then not only will he be forever trapped in negativity and can't extricate himself, but he will also infect other people.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="38" > teach you two mindsets to help you change the status quo</h1>
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="18" >01 halo effect</h1>
The halo effect was first developed by the famous American psychologist Edward M. What Sandek proposed in the 1920s is a factor that affects interpersonal perception.
A certain quality of a person will impress the other person, and the quality or characteristic of this strong perception of love house and wu, like the aura of the moon halo, spreads to the surroundings, which is the halo effect.
In "Thinking, Fast and Slow", Kahneman once said that the halo effect is a long-tested human mindset, and when people have a very good impression of a certain quality of a person, they will love the house and wudi to like other characteristics of ta.
The halo effect is an inertia that most people are difficult to detect, and even if the fact is used to argue that the halo effect is wrong, it is difficult for people to accept.
The halo effect teaches us not just a superficial illusion, but a reminder of our inner ability to improve ourselves.
There are always some successful people in society who attract everyone's attention, because they know how to show their strengths in the right direction, so that they can know you more comprehensively.
Therefore, we need to make reasonable use of the halo effect, as far as possible to show their strengths and good image to everyone, so that the other party will have an impression of you, you will be full of morale.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="26" >02 catastrophic imagination</h1>
There is a Chinese idiom called "worrying about the sky", and people often fall into the spiral of catastrophic imagination because of a small matter.
In fact, catastrophic imagination is the instinct that human beings have evolved in order to survive, but this instinct, in today's highly developed society, often leads people in the wrong direction and causes people a lot of unnecessary trouble.
The famous host Dou Wentao once said in "Round Table Pie" that a great pain in his life comes from the infinite amplification of small probability events. Some people even have obsessive-compulsive disorder due to unfounded habits, which bring many inconveniences to their lives.
People who are accustomed to self-doubt tend to have a lot of inner drama. When they encounter failure, on the one hand, they especially like to immerse themselves in this negative emotion and atmosphere, on the other hand, the memory of this failure is often called up and recalled.
Therefore, we need to understand the real cause of this kind of problem, and then try to solve it, let ourselves out of it, and thus get rid of self-denial.
The most critical step to get rid of self-denial is to accept the true self, focus on the true self, balance the self and the outside world, and finally reshape a true and reconciled self with the outside world.
Mindset is the product of human survival and development, many mindsets are also conducive to people's lives, objective treatment of mindset, reduce its negative impact on life, is a more appropriate attitude.
Finally, I hope that everyone can overcome their own mindset and make their lives better and better.