Mr. Lu Xun said: "A hundred beasts walk on their own, and cattle and sheep flock to the herd."
In life, we can often learn the insights and attitudes of each other's hearts from one person's solitude.
People who love to be alone, have a strong heart, a mature mind, and are most worthy of deep friendship.
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People who like to be alone are calm
I've seen experiments like this.
The University of Virginia recruited a group of volunteers and left them alone in an empty room for 15 minutes.
During those 15 minutes, volunteers can choose to sit there doing nothing or press a button next to them to let themselves go into shock to pass the time.
Before the experiment, the volunteers swore they would never use an electric shock button.
As a result, it didn't take long for more than half of the population to go into shock on their own rather than stay there alone.
The philosopher Pascal said, "Almost all of our suffering comes from not being able to be alone in our rooms."
A lot of people don't like a person. When they are alone, they feel lonely and panicked.
People who really know how to be alone, their faces are pale as chrysanthemums, and their hearts are calm and calm.
Kenichi Tanaka is one of the youngest Nobel laureates in chemistry and is known as a legend because he has never been in contact with academia.
He was an employee of an instrument manufacturing company who won the 2002 Nobel Prize in Chemistry for adding the wrong reagent to an experiment and mistakenly creating an important invention.
After Tian Zhonggeng won the award, countless honors and media pursuits followed, and he jumped from an unknown clerk to a favorite of the Japanese people overnight.
In an interview with reporters, Tian Zhonggeng was asked by reporters: What do you want to do most?
Kenichi Tanaka replied, "Leave me alone."
Kenichi Tanaka then refused all media interviews, rejected the company's olive branch, and returned to the institute to immerse himself in experiments.
Until 2018, Kenichi Tanaka published another important study in the authoritative scientific journal Nature.
Zhou said: "Compared to socializing, being alone is definitely an ability."
In impetuous times, solitude seems to be a luxury in life.
People who truly love solitude can endure long periods of loneliness, restrain impetuosity, and turn what they see into their own accumulation.
We can let go of our usual impetuousness and troubles and gain inner peace and tranquility.
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People who like to be alone are full of souls
How long have you not enjoyed your time alone?
Outside the traffic, the crowds are raging, but your heart is lonely and has nowhere to put it;
You aspire to be the focal point of the world, surrounded by applause and flowers, constantly seeking attention from the outside world;
You keep going to one drinking game after another, but you lose yourself in the game...
So deliberately gregarious, seemingly not lonely, but in fact empty.
Many times, low-quality socializing is not as good as high-quality solitude.
The famous calligraphy and painting artist Lin Xi once mentioned in the essay collection "I Only Like Joy and Not Sorrow":
For her, the best time of day is a busy day. When she got home, she took off her jewelry, washed her face, brushed her teeth, showered her hair, applied lotion, and put on a comfortable and simple cotton suit at home.
Then go to the table, make yourself a cup of tea, light an incense stick, fold your legs, take a deep breath, and even the music can't be turned on. Just to stay with myself for a while.
She believes that only in this way can we feel ourselves wholeheartedly and feel the wandering soul return to its original position.
"Time to Settle A Man" says, "A person's life can be bland, boring, stagnant, or it can be a fulfilling, wonderful adventure."
A person who loves to be alone must be full of souls in order to turn ordinary time into a peach blossom source that the world envies.
Li Bai likes to be alone, spends time with the moon, invites the moon to drink, and stays "until, holding up my cup, I ask the bright moon, bring me my shadow, let's three";
Tao Yuanming returned to the countryside, "picking chrysanthemums under the eastern fence, leisurely seeing the South Mountain", showing his comfort;
Su Dongpo shouted a long time, "Smoke and rain for a lifetime", he relied on bamboo sticks to enjoy a good time.
Exquisite Solitude says, "Loneliness is not an escape from the world, but another way of participating in it."
For those who like to be alone, they participate in the world in their own unique way.
Even on the mundane days of boiled noodles, you can sprinkle green onions like you would face a mediocre life.
By making deep friends with people who like to be alone, our lives can always be fun and hopeful.
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People who like to be alone have self-discipline in life
Zeng Guofan once said: "It is not difficult to cultivate the mind of self-study; it is difficult to cultivate a person's mind, but it is also necessary to be cautious." Prudence and independence is the first way to self-improvement in life, the first way to find happiness, and the first thing to do. ”
Being alone is like a ruler that measures whether a person is self-disciplined.
Once a mediocre person is lonely, he becomes more anxious and lonely. Good people can always plan their time alone and improve themselves.
Writer Li Shanglong said: "Loneliness is the best period of appreciation."
As the saying goes, "The books you have read are like the food you have eaten since childhood, invisible, but have long been melted into your flesh and blood."
Those lonely times that you can't see also become nourishment, nourishing your dreams and life.
Some time ago, Japanese actor and model Gao posted his morning show on the Internet, which was watched and loved by 300,000 people.
7:00: Get up on time. Pull back the curtains, bask in the sun and enjoy a quiet morning.
7:15: Start exercising. Put on your headphones, listen to music, and run to plan your day.
At 8:30, go back to the room to wash. Take a hot shower, wash off sweat and put on light makeup.
At 9:15, breakfast was prepared. Cook a bowl of brown rice, cook a pot of miso soup, and plate it for added ritual.
10:10: Morning reading. Open the book, stroke the pages to find the fragrance, and fill the brain with knowledge.
10:30: Go out to work. Bring your medals – earrings, rings and watches – to work and fall in love.
However, Oyama used to fall into depression, decadence, and depression all day long because of emotional frustration.
At the age of 30, she broke up with her boyfriend of 6 years. After the breakup, she ate too much and gained 20 pounds in two months.
Finally one day I woke up: I want to cheer up! So she moved out of the house she lived with her boyfriend, rented a house of her own, and began a "devilish" life of abstinence and solitude.
Today, at the age of 38, she has a big smile and is still full of aura like a girl.
I have always admired this kind of person who pays attention to herself from the hustle and bustle, and I also appreciate her self-discipline and leisure when she is alone.
On this tour, we were all lone walkers. This is a lesson we must learn to turn loneliness into loneliness and shake hands with it.
People who love to be alone have long learned to use self-discipline to fight against boring life.
With them, we can also learn to digest loneliness and cultivate chrysanthemums in the hustle and bustle.
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People who love solitude deserve deep friendship
Yu Hua said in "Crying in the Drizzle": "I no longer pretend to have many friends, but return to loneliness and start my own life with my real self."
A person's truest appearance is often hidden when he is alone.
People who love to be alone, have peace of mind, and enjoy everything at ease.
People who love to be alone, have a full heart and a normal heart.
People who love to be alone, have self-discipline in life, and use a soft heart to clear obstacles.
The antidote to the warmth and warmth of human feelings is hidden in loneliness.
In this life, people may meet many people, but there are only a few wonderful encounters that are really worth making friends.
If you meet someone who loves to be alone, you must cherish it.
Because you give them a smile, they will give you warmth and beauty.
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