"Marriage Defense War", "Longing", "Addiction", "Never Look Away", "Like Fog Like Rain and Like Wind" and other excellent plays, Presumably everyone is familiar with it, they are all directed by one person, he is Zhao Baogang. Zhao Baogang is therefore known as the Master of Romance.
Talking about the secret of marriage, Zhao Baogang said: "Unreasonable marriage is happy"
So, how did Zhao Baogang "unreasonable" with his marriage? Was his marriage finally happy?
Zhao Baogang used to work as a sand turner in the Beijing steel mill, and his girlfriend at that time was the daughter of a high-ranking military official and an actor in the Guangxi Repertory Theatre, and she was Ding Rui.
Zhao Baogang was a literary and artistic youth at that time, and had been working part-time as an actor, and then through his own efforts, he entered the Beijing Television Drama Art Center.
Zhao Baogang's first "unreasonableness" in his early years:
When Zhao Baogang was directing "Addiction", due to insufficient props, he did not consult with his wife, so he moved almost all of his furniture to the set, and when he took it home, it was less than half. Wife Ding Rui asked what was going on? Zhao Baogang smiled and said, "They all let Jiang Shan smash it, she was angry with Wang Zhiwen..." ”
The second "unreasonable":
Since the wife is also an actor, the wife also wants to find a role in her husband's crew. Zhao Bao did not object at first, but when filming, the wife found that her husband always frowned when she looked at her. When I got home, my wife asked, "Am I not acting well?" Zhao Baogang said: "No, you acted too well." The wife said, "Then why do you see me frowning?" Zhao Baogang said: "This is because I am worried that shooting your scenes will pass one or two, and other actors will say, you see, in the end, it is his wife, one or two will pass, we will have to shoot more than a dozen, not necessarily." The wife also said: "Then you will give me a few more pictures", Zhao Baogang said: "That is not OK, others will say, you see, give her wife more shots, repeatedly find the best angle, present the best state." The wife understood and said, "You mean you don't want me to be an actor anymore"? Zhao Baogang smiled and said, "That's exactly what it means."
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In this way, under Zhao Baogang's "unreasonableness" and knocking on the side, his wife Ding Rui gave up her acting career and went to the business field.
Since then, Zhao Baogang has no "bondage", and in the workplace, he is like a fish in the water, one drama after another.
So, the "unreasonable" marriage that Zhao Baogang said is happy, is this really the case? Non also!
Behind Zhao Baogang's unreasonable marriage, it is precisely his wife Ding Rui who is reasoning! If there is no understanding of Ding Rui, how can Zhao Baogang say that the happy marriage is coming? I'm afraid that the marriage has already disintegrated!
Ding Rui supports her husband's career, understands her husband, does not "add chaos" to her husband, and never embarrasses her husband when things happen, it is her wife's broad mind that has achieved Zhao Baogang's grand cause.
In marriage, in fact, it is necessary to be reasonable, and those facts that seem to be "unreasonable" are actually that one party is reasoning and the other party is sacrificing, thus achieving a good marriage.
We found that in reality, in a family, the party that sacrifices is often mostly women, so it is also a pity that many excellent women have emerged and stood out in their careers. But "it is difficult to buy willingness with money", and it is this willingness and sacrifice that has fulfilled the happiness of marriage.
Once, Ding Rui told her husband that her mother was not in good health and wanted to buy a car for her parents. You know, Ding Rui is not a person who relies on her husband to feed her for idle meals, but she can still discuss with her husband in case of trouble, and the reply given by Zhao Baogang is only one word: buy!
Although the marriage of ordinary people is very far from their marriage, it seems that there is no comparison, but their methods and minds to deal with "contradictions" are also very worthy of reference for our ordinary couples.