Bai Yansong once said:
"Character is the highest degree, and the unity of virtue and talent is the true wisdom and true talent."
A person of good character is worth entrusting to us for a lifetime.
But sometimes we are easily deceived by the mask of hypocrisy, and we are really willing to pay but are disappointed.
To know how a person's character is, look at these three details.
I know that there was a problem on it:
"How did you lose a friend?"
The answer that received the most likes was only two words:
"Borrow money."
Because borrowing money allows us to see if a person is reliable.
As Sanmao said:
"The comedies of the world do not need money to produce, and most of the tragedies in the world are inseparable from money."
Money is like a mirror that can see people's hearts and people's character.
In the TV series "I Am Yu Huanshui", the story between Yu Huanshui and his brother Lu Fumeng is full of emotions.
Five years ago, Yu Huanshui left his mother 130,000 yuan for him before she died for emergency use.
The good brother Lüfmon needed the money and lent it to Lüfmon unchanged.
Later, because he wanted to buy a car for his wife and was worried that he didn't have any money on hand, Yu Huanshui went to Lu Fumeng to get the money back.
Lu Fumeng ran the train with his mouth full of mouths to fool him again and again, and also swore to tell Yu Huanshui what car he liked, even if he wanted to pick it.
Don't care about the price, just tell him when you choose it, and he will pay directly.
Hearing of his brother's righteousness, Yu Huanshui was full of joy and took his wife to buy a car happily.
Unexpectedly, the car was selected, but Lufmeng played missing,
Not only did not return to WeChat, Ming people in China, but also lied to Yu Huanshui that he went to Africa on a business trip.
Asked by Yu Huanshui, he also blamed him:
"Yu Huanshui, are you interested?" For this little money you as far as? ”
A month later, Yu Huanshui accidentally met Lu Fumeng on the street,
Collecting the debt in a low voice again, I did not expect the other party to dismiss him:
"I'll give you the money every minute, but it depends on my mood."
Yu Huanshui reacted to this, it turned out that he had been deceived by this brother he valued most.
Qian Zhongshu once sighed when he encountered something similar:
"Before borrowing money, you are a friend, after borrowing money, you are a great uncle, and if you repay the money, you are a benefactor."
People who borrow other people's money, don't talk about repaying money, or always delay again and again, remember to stay away.
Because of the deep friendship with people with poor money and quality, sooner or later they will suffer losses.
Money allows us to see the warmth and coldness of human feelings, and also to see a person's character.
A person who keeps his promise and takes the initiative to repay money must have a good character.
Whether a person's heart is good or bad will be reflected in his words.
There is a saying in the "Dharma Sayings and Asking God":
"Therefore, the voice of the heart also; the book, the heart painting also." Sound and picture shape, gentleman and villain see. ”
The meaning of this sentence is that words can reflect a person's inner thoughts and feelings, and words reflect his spiritual outlook, from which we can see the height of a person's inner world and spiritual character, and judge whether it is a gentleman or a villain.
Speaking can not only reflect a person's cultivation, but also reflect a person's character.
The Augmentation of the Sages has clouds:
"A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June."
A warm word can make people feel like a spring breeze and a warm sun in their hearts; and a hurtful word is like a knife, straight into the heart, making people feel pain.
People with poor character are accustomed to hanging on the shortcomings of others; when they speak, they carry guns and sticks, and demean others to highlight themselves.
And a person with good character, the tone of speech, the use of words will be as gentle as possible, always remember to save face for the other party.
After Qian Zhongshu and his daughter died of illness, Fei Xiaotong, who had a crush on Yang Dai in his early years, came to visit her.
When they were separated, Yang Dai sent Fei Xiaotong downstairs, and Fei Lao frequently turned back and clinged to him.
Yang Dai said lightly:
"The stairs are not easy to walk, and you should not go up in the future."
A simple sentence not only bid farewell to Fei Lao, but also politely rejected Fei Lao, indicating his attitude.
This is Yang Dai's insistence, and it also shows Yang Dai's respect and consideration for Fei Lao.
Cai Kangyong once said:
"The way you speak determines how you position yourself and how you look in the eyes of others."
A person with good character, when interacting with people, will not say absolutely, will leave a step for the other party.
The famous poet Ben Johnson once said:
"Language can best expose a person, as long as you speak, I can understand you." 」
Talking to people, people who can respect each other's shortcomings, and who can save face between words, are a kind of kindness and the embodiment of character.
Words and words, can care about the feelings of others, such a person must be a person with excellent personal character.
In the Introduction to Cai Gen Tan, it is said:
"Human feelings are repeated, and the road is bumpy."
The meaning of this sentence is: the world is capricious, and the road of life is bumpy.
No one's life can always be smooth, and setbacks and suffering are inevitable.
As Pu Songling wrote:
"There are many friends and friends, and there are many friends and widows in tribulations."
Only in the darkest hour can we see who is true and who is false.
When Hong Kong lyricist Huang Xia was 50 years old, things did not go well.
The film company he invested in was in a bad position, in debt, and his girlfriend of many years had left him.
In the trough, he has fewer and fewer friends around him, and he is also depressed, borrowing wine to dispel his sorrows.
During that dark time, in his own words, "No one in Hong Kong paid any attention to me." ”
One day, however, Huang Yongyu came, and he sat across from Huang Xia and said:
"The woman and money that loses a beloved can be recovered, but which part of the person is broken is not something that can be solved with money."
Huang Yongyu said:
"Let's not pity each other, we have to help each other out of trouble. Then I gave Huang Xia a few paintings, these paintings can also sell some money to save the emergency, I only have this, if not enough, I will try to find a way. ”
Looking at these paintings, Huang Xia stood up and hugged Huang Yongyu and said:
"You're right, we don't want to pity each other, but we have to help each other out of trouble."
Under the encouragement of Huang Yongyu, Huang Xia stepped out of the shadow of lost love, and the newly invested company gradually improved, and it took only two years to pay off the debt.
The Buddha said:
"Without a thing, without understanding a person."
Only when people are in distress can they see clearly who is true and who is false.
Some people can only call brothers and brothers when they are staggered, and only walk together when they are rich;
And some people can pull you when you fall into a low point, and they will not abandon you.
There is a saying:
"Friendship is not in the many, you are in the wind and rain; love is not long, you are in response to your needs."
Those who are willing to stay away from us in times of difficulty are true friends.
Friends who share wealth are easy to get, and friends who share honor and disgrace are difficult to find.
When we are poor and destitute, we will not abandon us, and such a person must have a good character.
Lao Tzu once said:
"The great things of the world must be done in detail."
A person's character is hidden in these small details of getting along in life.
We see people's hearts in small things, and we see character in details.
When a person can keep his promise and repay the money in time, he can gain the trust of others;
When a person speaks to take care of the feelings of others, they can win the respect of others.
When you are in trouble, the person who can take the initiative to help you get out of the predicament can get our true heart.
From the small details, we understand who is the person who deserves our careful cherishing.
May you and I all meet good people and walk together in poetry and far away.