We can always see all kinds of lifting bars and trolls on the Internet, and no matter what others do, we like to say one or two words that make others uncomfortable and unreasonable. There are many topics that have been debated on the Internet, and the topic of older leftover women has never become obsolete.
As long as you see which woman confesses on the Internet that she does not want to get married, she wants to live her life, always saying that the other party does not actually want to marry, or because it is too picky to wait for marriage to say that she does not want to get married.
This kind of sarcasm has basically never been broken on the Internet. Why on earth can those leftover women not get married and prefer to live alone? Just look at her life and you'll understand.
1. Capable, not supported by men
Nowadays, there are more and more people in the category of older leftover women, and basically everyone will have one or two people around them who know a little sister who does not want to get married. Ren Xiaofei is also such a person who lives freely, and now she is thirty-three years old. But he was still single, and he didn't even have an ambiguous object.
She has become an old girl who can't marry in people's eyes, and she knows how people behind her talk about her, but she doesn't care, her life is her own life, not for others to see. Now she has a successful career, has the ability to not rely on men to support, she can't spend all the money she earns, buys a house and a car, and takes her parents on a trip when she has nothing to do.
She said that she has a car and a house, and her parents have the ability to take care of it, but there is no reason to get married. After getting married, she will have to give up a lot of things for the sake of the family, and the money she earns will not be as free as it is now.
She confessed that she was a selfish person and could not give her whole heart for the family. Instead of suffering and being wronged after marriage, it is better to remain single. Anyway, she couldn't live without anyone.
2. Be strong at heart and will not be affected by other people's words
Although the material conditions have been basically guaranteed, life is not a problem. But it is not easy to maintain a calm mind in the face of other people's pointing. I've seen a lot of people choose to start a marriage because of the pressure of gossip.
Why now more and more leftover women would rather be single for a lifetime than marry, it is precisely because the development and progress of the times have broken the tradition so that they understand that not marrying is not sorry for anyone, marriage is their own business. Even their own parents can't make decisions on their own behalf.
Strong enough inside not to affect your own decisions because of a few words from others. Ren Xiaofei was able to maintain a decent and polite smile when others were openly and secretly sour and picky, because she understood that the more these people did not admit that she was doing well, the more they proved to envy her quality of life and unrestrained.
3. Have enough confidence in yourself and your future
The general reason for persuading people to get married is nothing more than those few, "After the parents are old, no one will help you take care of your parents, how do you cope with such a big pressure, you will be sick when you are old, and there is not even a person around you who knows cold and knows hot and cold to take care of..." Ren Xiaofei listened to it many times.
But these words were just a breeze for her, she had already planned her future, and was going according to her plan step by step. Full of hope and confidence in your abilities and future, confident that you can take good care of yourself and your parents. She does not need to raise children to prevent aging, nor does she need the company of her husband.
Although alone, her future life will not be alone. Ren Xiaofei said that he would still arrange more time to travel with his parents, and his parents accompanied them when they were there, which was more filial than anything. After the parents are gone, they will live with good sisters who remain single like themselves, and it is also good to accompany each other.
People still like to use traditional ideas to bind women, but they have not asked the other party whether they are willing to be bound by these things.
In their eyes, not marrying is wrong, but Ren Xiaofei's example tells those who have been constantly ridiculing the older leftover women that they can't marry, they are not willing, they do have the right to choose life, because they are good and strong enough.
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