After a relationship, will you still have some things from your ex?
Whether you still have undeleted information on your phone, or a few old photos;
In your room, whether there are still gifts from your predecessors, and there are still memories;
Is it love or some other reason for a person to still have the object of an old lover?
The predecessor, for the incumbent, is a time bomb, an invisible enemy.
Many couples have conflicts, but also because they can't get over the "ex" barrier.
Sometimes, we are sullen and jealous because our lover still has the object of her ex.
Now that you've broken up, why keep each other's things?
Is it because he still has a mind, is it because he still loves that person in his heart?
It's nerve-wracking.
If the current heart is not strong and confident enough, it is easy to be stimulated and sad by the breath of the "ex".
But why do many people "reluctantly" throw away some of their ex's objects?
In fact, your lover is not as complicated as you think.
Those past that have not been deleted are just a memory, a store of mood.
Delete or not delete, throw or not lose, it's all there.
No one can take it away, and no one can stay.
Do you think that if he loses his object, he will lose the past?
True forgetting is to turn a blind eye in front of you and have no ripples in your heart.
Therefore, instead of fighting for the current past, it is better to relax your heart and grasp the feelings of the present.
But we're still curious, why are those things left? If it's not love, what kind of emotion is that?
Perhaps, it is just a memorial that has existed.
The end of each relationship will leave some marks.
That's the person he once loved, he's given, he's experienced beauty and pain.
We must admit that this is a fact. The memories that have happened cannot be said to disappear and disappear, and the ta you meet now is also from the past growth all the way to your side.
Therefore, we have a bystander's heart to look at this lost feeling, and we will not be so sad.
Objects left by the predecessor do not represent evidence of "still in love".
Sometimes, we just miss a moment of "being loved" and secretly reminisce about the feeling of being "loved".
What we miss is not that person, but ourselves in love.
What can be left behind must be the things that once made you happy.
No one leaves sad and painful memories around, and those happy feelings, like a cutscene movie, are gone after watching.
Another point is that some people really "forget" to discard.
When the relationship is over, don't think about it anymore. And those remaining objects, but did not take the initiative to clean up.
But the speaker has no intention, the listener intends. Maybe you don't think there's anything wrong with it, but for the current, the object of the predecessor is like a thorn in the eye and a thorn in the heart.
Some obvious traces should be cleaned up in time. For example, things that make people feel ambiguous, such as group photos and personal supplies, cannot be left behind.
It's respect for the next relationship, not something insignificant.
I myself have some memories of my first love.
It was the first year of love, and the two of them used the cute little bear book to deliver letters. This little book is our childish dialogue, and it is still pressed at the bottom of my box.
Do I still love him?
No, I have long since stopped loving, and there is no wave in my heart.
However, this diary contains my green years and is a testimony to my growth. Therefore, keeping the object of the ex does not represent love, but a record of his past experiences.
As an excellent incumbent, you should be able to face the "ex" of your lover with the right mentality.
You know, those who can't get to the end must be the one who is not suitable.
And you are the protagonist of this relationship now.
Admittedly, some people can't accept the existence of their predecessors.
At this time, we need to respect the current ideas. After all, the past is to let it pass, and cherishing the present is the most important.
If you really can't let go of someone and a relationship, then please deal with your heart first.
If you can't forget it, don't easily start a new relationship. It's a reflection of responsibility for the future and respect for the next relationship.