Author:Lie Lie (Author of Fushu)
There is a very concerned question on Zhihu: What kind of person do you most admire?
There are 5 particularly high praise answers, and the people that everyone appreciates the most are people who are emotionally stable, people who know how to be harmonious and different, people who do not easily accept defeat, people who do not care, and people who have a bottom line in doing things.
Think about these answers, and they are. Born in the world, but in just a few decades, everyone wants to be the best version of themselves, to be welcomed and loved.
Of course, this is not to blindly live under the eyes of others, but to tell more people that only by living a "high-level and beautiful" life can the road of life be broader and broader.
2022 is 72 days away. Before that, you might as well make yourself a little better
Focus on yourself and know how to "no more expensive than that"
Recently, there is a popular saying: "Comparison is the thief who steals happiness." ”
In life, the people around you, even yourself, must have secretly competed with people: Ta earns more money than me, Ta lives better than me, Ta's work is smooth, Ta's love object is not bad...
Not only that, but also because of the unintentional words of others, they will be grumpy.
It is true that once people have a contrast, they will be unhappy, so that they often forget everything they have and patronize other people's lives.
I can't help but think of the words that were once used as signatures of many people's social platforms:
"You stand on the bridge and look at the view, and the insiders who watch the view are upstairs watching you. Bright moons decorate your windows, you decorate other people's dreams. ”
Tell you a story.
Wang Charter, a young Chinese-American mathematician, graduated from the University of California. After graduation, most of the students chose to work in the big consortium, and only Wang Charter plunged into the private research room in California.
This hard work is ten years. During this decade, his income was very low, and in his first year, he could not afford to buy a house.
And the classmates around him are already employees and bosses with monthly incomes of hundreds of thousands or even millions. In the eyes of many people, Wang Zhizhi's life was particularly bad, but he himself never replied with a single word.
When Wang Charter was 35 years old, he conquered two of the world's top mathematical problems, harvested achievements and achievements, and dozens of universities in the United States invited him to teach at schools.
In this way, in the world mathematical community, Wang Zhizhi became recognized as the king of mathematics.
Perhaps this reminds you of this summer's explosive TV series "You Are My Glory", in which Yu Tu firmly chose aerospace when he was studying for a doctorate, not to compare materials with his classmates in the financial world, and finally realized the dream of space launch.
Their success is an inevitability, focusing on their own life path and insisting on being themselves is the law of their victory.
As ordinary people, we should learn and have such an open-minded spirit. For example, don't compare appearance with handsome men and beautiful women, don't compare wealth with rich people, we are also unique ourselves.
It is said that smart people must know how to appreciate themselves and accept themselves at any time, ordinary is the fate of most people, and there is no need to worry about it.
Someone said, "To judge whether a person is mature, then see if he is still comparing himself to others." ”
Brush circle of friends to see a classmate eat a hot pot is very hot nowadays, they must also have, the result of queuing for several hours to eat, found that the taste and service is not so.
I heard that a certain milk tea was going to open a branch in its own city, stood against the big sun for half a day, spent a lot of time and finally drank it into my mouth, and felt that "that's it."
There are many similar things, we always spend more attention on others in our daily lives, afraid that we will not catch up with this trend, that fashion.
Invisibly, energy and time are wasted, and these cannot be exchanged for how much money.
Earlier, such a passage was very popular on the Internet, and now it seems that there is still quite a "philosophical reason" - anything can be solved in eight words: about my ass, about your ass.
Indeed, instead of focusing on how others live, find ways to make your life better.
Say less and do more, and use Taoguang to cultivate obscurity to help life
An interview with Zhao Liying, a top national actor, impressed me.
In the interview, the reporter mentioned that Zhao Liying was violently abused by the Internet in an incident, and in the face of a slightly difficult question, Zhao Liying did not change her color, smiled and calmly replied:
"I've been debuting for more than a decade, and if I keep struggling with this issue, you say I can't do it?" If you can't accept it, don't do it. ”
With a little self-deprecating and very sober words, I circled a lot of fans for a while. In the center of the storm, she had already practiced a strong heart and a state of relief.
The little girl who used to be a cameo running field has now become the country's premier ratings Queen.
In the face of all the verbal violence and black fan doubts, Zhao Liying chose to avoid returning, silently concentrating on filming good scenes, improving acting skills, and responding to all this with her own strength.
In the "Vegetable Root Tan", there is a sentence that reads: "The talent of a gentleman, the jade and the pearl, cannot be easily known." ”
It means that a person who has talent will not easily show it, but will hide it and play at the right time. It is like having wealth not to be exposed, so as not to attract the envy of thieves and the poor.
Therefore, to live in the present, the important thing is to say less and do more, and know how to "hide" yourself.
Tang Xuanzong Li Chen is such an example. His legendary life is the best interpretation of these words.
Li Chen's biological mother was a lowly palace girl, and among the emperor's many sons at that time, she was only the thirteenth in line. Although he was an emperor, his chances of becoming emperor were almost zero.
In the palace, many people can't help themselves, especially the throne competition, and one careless person may lose his life.
Li Chen knew what a cruel environment this was, so in order to save himself, he did not say much from an early age, deliberately showing his reticent personality.
Because of this, all the people made fun of him as a fool, and even laughed at him in public.
But it was precisely because of his "stupidity" that he survived every palace coup unharmed.
Later, two Tang emperors died one after another, and the traitorous minister Ma Yuanzhen felt that Li Chenren was stupid and easy to control, so he chose him to support him to ascend to the throne, and as a result, Li Chen's change caught Ma Yuanzhen by surprise.
After ascending the throne, Li Chen had a bright brain, did things crisply, and spoke clearly, which surprised everyone.
Subsequently, with the momentum of thunder and lightning, he corrected the internal chaos, straightened out the chaogang, and stirred up turbulence and purity; externally stabilized the north, protected the southern frontier, and stabilized the western region... Created the Tang Dynasty during his reign.
This is what later history called the "rule of the great middle."
Perhaps, we can't shine like such historical figures, but we can learn their way of doing things in our own work and life, and let ourselves grow.
Zi Yue: "A gentleman is sensitive to words and sensitive to deeds", and it is the right way to say less and do more. Just like today's young people, they don't like to send friends friends, and when they ask what they are doing recently, they are talking about making money.
Nowadays, everyone may be "inside" in a way that you don't know, so talking less and doing more practical things will make us stronger unconsciously.
Living yourself well is the highest level of life
I don't know if you have heard the story of the translator Mr. Xu Yuanchong.
In the Changchun Garden of Peking University, there is an old house with a computer in it, which is the time when people should sleep late at night, but Elder Xu sits in front of the computer and types the keyboard.
People say that "Mrs. Xu will "steal time.". ”
As everyone knows, Xu Lao's typing is very slow, but he always insists on typing down every translated word by himself, for decades, never stopping.
In his eighties, Xu Lao was still busy with his work plan, and at the age of 93, he set himself a goal of translating the complete works of Shakespeare.
The old man said that life is not how many days you live, but how many days you remember. Enjoy every day and do what you love.
In June this year, the old man was buried. But when I think of his life, I will be full of enthusiasm for life, living, is living for myself.
Mr. Yang Dai once said in his "100-year-old Testimonial":
We once longed so much for the waves of fate, and in the end we found that the most beautiful scenery of life is the calmness and calmness of the heart.
We have been so eager for external approval that in the end we know that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others.
In the few remaining years of 2021, let us continue to do what we should do, be true to our hearts, calm and calm, and make life more comfortable.
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