It is often seen that some vigorous young people, after experiencing blows, the road of life is quite difficult, but some men and women with obscene faces and obedient behaviors are mixed up like fish. But in the end, I don't know which kind of people laughed to the end.
The difference between people and people is very large, and these differences are mostly not in appearance, but in the physical level of genes and spiritual level of the heart, concentrated in the way of doing things.
When encountering things, understanding problems and dealing with problems are different, it is the biggest difference between people and people.
Direct.
After countless observations, experiments, calculations, and deductions, Newton concluded Newton's three laws, one of which is that the force and the reaction force are equal in magnitude and occur at the same time. We found that this law of physics is also the most common way of communicating with people.
Soldiers will come to cover the water, you move me one style, you punch me one slap, you shout me a sentence, you respect me a foot I salute you a foot, quick and reciprocal reaction, is a direct style.
Eighty percent of the time, eighty percent of the time, they approach things in a direct way. This pattern tends to be local but effective, belonging to the emotional level but the brain's conditioned reflexes. Most people get punched for no reason, don't think much about it, and immediately fight back, which is the pattern.
Withdrawn.
If you can't fight, run. A very small number of people will stumble to the end, and most people will choose to avoid and retreat if they cannot win.
Whether it is passive avoidance or active withdrawal, the cognition of things is likely to be more comprehensive. The reason is very simple, standing a little farther, you can see a little more. Withdrawal is at the emotional and rational levels, or instinctively or for the sake of thinking, adopting a mode of doing things.
Active avoidance may be possible to judge the situation after the bullets fly for a while, and then seize the opportunity to attack. But those who habitually withdraw can only watch the opportunity slip away.
Roundabout.
Those who actively avoid may plan a more violent counterattack, which is a roundabout. There are opportunities to observe from multiple angles, and in the roundabout process, you can understand things more comprehensively and clearly, and find better ways to solve problems.
Some people habitually delay the reaction, that is, to leave time and space for detours.
As the saying goes, it is not too late for a gentleman to take revenge for ten years, and a roundabout 10-year counterattack may be 10 times the extent of that time.
Roundabout is nothing more than exchanging time for space, using time to enhance strength, enhance physical strength or intelligence, and create things in a timely manner in an attempt to fight back.
For a major event in a certain region, there is no wisdom at that time, maintain the status quo, and let the next generation have wisdom to solve it, this is the practice of a generation of great people, this detour is longer, and the result may be more perfect.
There is no unprovoked love in this world, nor unprovoked hatred, except for the incident of the pond fish on the stall, every encounter we have is worth reflecting on. Confucius advocated three provinces a day in order to clear up our follow-up obstacles.
Super-detachable.
In the process of detour and escape, we have the opportunity to detach.
The bystander is clear, transcendent, and from the perspective of the bystander, jump out to see the problem, adopt the detachment style of handling things, and see the problem more profoundly.
If roundabouts are rationality at the tactical level, then detachment is to use pure rationality to understand problems and deal with things at the strategic level.
As things change, we may change our concepts and no longer cling to our realms as we ascend.
It may also be that the object is human, and there is no subject to fight back. At this time, detachment may leave regrets and unwillingness, but only superficial detachment.
The other kind of detachment is not. High-legged chicken, do not step on the mud. Habitually staying away from right and wrong, thinking twice before acting, three provinces a day, holistic thinking is not trapped in the part, nature is pure and informal, is the inevitable destination of people who like to think and reflect.
When we are young, we deal directly with things, or evade or detour, all in order to fight for a breath and become a thing. As we age, we are physically weak, our minds mature, and we tend to use detachment to deal with things, which may also be a law, just like Newton's laws in the physical world.
There is nothing in the world, and the mediocre disturb themselves. When the heart is bigger, there are fewer things, the heart is small, and there are things everywhere.
After a long time of detachment, the leisure will come, the mind is not hindered, and it may achieve the realm of the rest of the life.