Men are not good at expressing themselves because of their personality.
Many things, they will choose to bury deep in their hearts, will not use language to express the true needs of the heart.
Even if you want the other party to do something, you don't dare to say it directly.
So, when a relationship ends, men are usually well thought out and saved up enough disappointment.
But the other party does not understand why the breakup is so hasty.
They don't tell you what they really need, and that's why they need you to face up to his emotional needs.
Understand what he really wants in his heart, in order to adapt to local conditions, use appropriate methods, let him experience the beauty and comfort of feelings.
Even if he doesn't open his mouth, you should understand that men are tired with too much on their shoulders.
Women can also complain to their girlfriends, or express themselves through crying, etc., but they always wrap themselves in layers and digest themselves.
Second, love is a feeling that human beings need, and it can make life better.
Sometimes they are embarrassed to say that they want your attention, but this is not lacking.
01.
Even the strongest men will have times when they are sad and vulnerable.
Maybe in the places you can't see, they have silently dispelled a lot, sealing their negative emotions and not easily showing them to you.
Because of their self-esteem, they always want to show a strong image in front of you.
I am also worried that you will be affected by his state, a sentence of "it's okay", a lot of helplessness.
But as a partner, you need to achieve spiritual resonance with each other, just need to see with your eyes is not enough, you also need to use your heart to distinguish.
When he is in vulnerability, the presence of the other half is very special.
He can remove all disguises in front of you, without too many barriers and without any psychological burden.
So, you should understand that what men really need is also to get your care.
In times of adversity, you can reach out and pull them, maybe you think that your power is very small, but in their eyes it is not so, you are the one who is really needed.
02.
No matter what age men are, they can't do without the support of love.
A person is isolated and helpless, as if it is difficult to do anything, but after having the love of the other party, it is like a general wearing armor and more powerful to fight.
In feelings, people will have emotional sustenance, and put some of their emotions that have nowhere to put on each other.
They love you and want you to be able to give the same love, rather than just giving and not seeing anything in return.
The first time Zhao Si saw her husband crying, it was actually in a hospital bed.
During that time, Zhao Si's husband spent almost a month socializing in order to win a single business.
In the end, the body could not bear it, and was admitted to the hospital, fortunately, the problem was not big, and the result of the test was stomach bleeding.
On the first day of hospitalization in the hospital, Zhao Si's clothing store was inseparable from people in the peak season, so he could only ask his family to take care of his husband.
The next night, Zhao Si rushed to the hospital, not expecting her husband to see her shed tears.
At that moment, the tears flowed in Zhao Si's heart, and her husband thought that Zhao Si blamed him for not loving his body, so he did not come to see himself, and only then did he feel very wronged.
But Zhao Si also knew that her husband did this to make his family live a better and happier life.
His tears are more aggrieved, and men actually need to be cared for.
Maybe just a word, a meal, or even a look, that love can be directly conveyed to the depths of his heart.
Even if he is embarrassed to open his mouth, as a partner, he should be keenly aware of it and protect the vulnerability in his heart.
03.
Life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, there are many things that are actually trying to do, but the results are often unsatisfactory, and the most uncomfortable thing at this time is themselves.
That kind of helplessness and self-blame makes them doubt themselves.
In fact, they want to get a word of affirmation and encouragement, as long as you are still standing by his side, can understand him, support him, he can be afraid of any suffering.
Many years ago, my uncle's company suffered a crisis of bankruptcy.
He did a lot, talking from house to house, running from city to city, but no one wanted to continue to invest.
During that time, his mental state was very poor, the company always had someone knocking on the door, the office phone rang non-stop, and the large amount of compensation made him unable to support it.
After returning home, his wife always complained that he was not well managed, not like so-and-so, so capable, and even let him return the money that the two people had invested together.
In fact, the uncle did not feel powerless, the outside was already full of grass and trees, and the home should have been a place where warmth could be obtained;
But it is very sad that they do not get the love and comfort they deserve, and no one understands their feelings of being alone and helpless.
Many people will have different answers to what men are most eager for, but there is only one word that cannot be separated from its origin, that is, love.
Everything must be based on love, whether it is care or understanding, it is very precious, and it is what they really want.