01
It is said that anyone whose parents do not agree to marry will almost always regret it in the end.
At the beginning, I ignored the strong opposition of my parents and wanted to die and marry Song Ming.
Ten years later, my intestines were full of remorse.
Song Ming was my high school classmate and first love boyfriend.
After the college entrance examination, he confessed to me, saying that he had a crush on me for three years and did not want to miss it again.
That's when we all receive college acceptance letters from the same city.
In Song Ming's words, this is god does not want us to be separated.
Song Ming's mouth is very sweet, sweet words come with open mouths, and I feel happy with him.
However, after really falling in love, I found that the three views of our two were very incompatible.
02
My family is well-off, my dad is a well-known real estate dealer in the city, so he spends a lot of money.
Song Ming's parents are working in the factory, and he is more economical in consumption.
After a month of love, I proposed to break up.
The reason was that I bought a bag of 10,000 yuan for my birthday, and he thought that I was extravagant and wasteful, and I admired vanity.
After the breakup, we hadn't been in touch for four years, and we thought there would be no intersection in this life.
However, at that time, it was too easy to attribute the reunion of the long parting to Providence and fate.
03
After graduating from college, my father arranged for me to join an education group in Changchun.
On the first day of work, I had a dramatic reunion with Song Ming.
He was a salesman at the company, two months before I was hired.
Compared with high school, Song Ming was tall and handsome.
He recognized me at a glance and jokingly said, "Tang Xiaoxiao, what is the fate of the two of us, even the work can be found together." ”
These words made my heart move, but the surface was still light and breezy.
After all, we weren't happy to break up in the first place.
However, after that, Song Ming pursued me again.
At that time, I was in the administration department, Song Ming was in the sales department, the two departments were not on the same floor, as long as he did not travel, he would bring me breakfast.
Every morning, middle and evening, punch card-style care greetings.
It was cold and reminded me to add clothes, and when it rained, I was told to bring an umbrella, and when I had something to do, I was asked if I had eaten.
During that time, he took me to taste the large and small restaurants near the company, and the whole body was thoughtful and thoughtful.
At this time, Song Ming is no longer the hairy boy of four years ago, and he knows how to impress the girl's heart.
So, when he asked me if we could start over, I didn't refuse.
As the saying goes, a good horse does not eat turning grass.
But I think it may be that the grass is not good enough, and the current Song Ming has long since changed.
04
For a while, our company's sales task was very heavy, and the salesman basically had to go on a business trip for a long time.
Song Ming would win back Changchun and date me every month, sometimes he couldn't buy a ticket, he would come back in the bus all night, and when he got to the station, his legs were swollen.
When we are off-site, we keep weChat chats and videos every day, and there are really endless words.
We almost never quarrel, we always kiss and cuddle high.
Song Ming's investment costs in this relationship are also high, whether it is money or time, he is very willing.
His view of consumption is completely different from that of four years ago, and in his words, if he has a hundred yuan on his body, he will also spend ninety-nine yuan on me.
I joked with him about the past, and he said bluntly: "When I went to college, the pattern was too small, but people will always change." ”
Yes, he has changed, he has become handsome, thoughtful, and generous.
So, such a back to the grass, I want to eat.
05
In the second year of love, we began to talk about marriage, but my parents were not optimistic about Song Ming.
On the one hand, I feel that the disparity between each other's family conditions is too great, and more importantly, my parents feel that Song Ming has no sense of responsibility.
For example, we go out together, what to play, what to eat, where to eat, where to live, he never gives advice.
My dad said, "A big man, always saying that he is casual, is actually not wanting to take responsibility." ”
This statement is too strong for people to be difficult.
I cried out for Song Ming: "In front of you who are rich and powerful, who dares to have an opinion, it is okay to respect you." ”
However, my parents were not persuaded by me.
Even if the wedding date is set, they still don't like our relationship.
06
Especially in the process of Zhang Luo's wedding banquet, my parents made me repent several times.
Because Song Ming is stationed abroad to work, all the matters of marriage are in Zhang Luo.
In my mother's words: "Such a big thing as marriage, how can the woman worry about it, so what do you want him to do?" ”
I excused Song Ming and said that he was busy at work.
Song Ming didn't have time to take care of the wedding, but when he booked the hotel, he could always raise objections.
At that time, I looked for many hotels to compare, and he was able to identify the shortcomings of each one.
In the end, my dad got someone to book Sheraton.
Song Ming was angry, saying that this hotel was not convenient to travel, and it was not as good as a certain hotel near their home.
He lost his temper in front of me and said that in order to marry me, his parents took out all their savings to buy a house for renovation, and there was no more money to set up the hotel that our family requested.
I realized that he was thinking the hotel was expensive and over budget.
07
That day, Song Ming even said things like "I can't afford to raise you."
"I just started working now, I don't have anything, all I use for marriage is my parents' money, I don't want to see them too hard." 」
I was a standard love brain at the time, and I felt sorry for him and my parents.
Immediately went home to convince my parents that the money for the hotel was out of our family.
My father paid for it, but there were not a few people in the Mouth song family who did not give it a force.
This fell in Song Ming's eyes, that is, abandonment.
As for me, I can only make double-sided adhesive and stitch the two sides to please.
08
Because of the matter of the hotel, Song Ming completely let go of the wedding.
During the preparation period, the big things and small things were basically me following up.
Sometimes I was too busy and too tired, so I would throw myself at him and ask for comfort.
But what about him? Each time it was sneering, saying: "Getting married makes it so tiring, are you?" ”
I was angry with his attitude, and getting married was not a matter for me alone.
Song Ming said, "If you want to feel trouble, you can also not tie the knot." ”
My girlfriend was beside me at the time, grabbed my phone and said to him, "If you don't tie the knot, we won't marry yet." ”
Then, my girlfriend directly used my phone to block him.
However, within a day, I added Song Ming again and reconciled with him.
At that time, I felt that my parents did not support him, and if I had another unpleasant quarrel with him, then our marriage would be really yellow.
Therefore, all kinds of compromises were accommodated, only to bypass those trivial contradictions and let the wedding be held smoothly.
09
He Cheng thought that a month before the wedding, Song Ming, who was on a business trip in Shenzhen, suddenly said that he did not want to get married.
I was completely confused, and when I asked why, he actually said that the pressure was too much.
Saying that his family's conditions were not as good as my family's, my parents did not want to see him, and his girlfriends looked down on him, these were like invisible mountains one after another, which made him breathless.
He said, "Laugh, let's break up!" ”
This sentence is no less than a thunderbolt on a sunny day, and I would hate to fly to Shenzhen that night and talk to him.
But he quickly hung up the phone, and from then on, as if the human world had disappeared, the phone call was not answered, and the WeChat message was not returned.
It was a difficult time, on the one hand, I had to explain to my parents, and on the other hand, there were a bunch of wedding chores waiting for me to clean up.
I had nightmares every night, dreaming that Song Ming ran away at the wedding, and I lived as a joke in the eyes of others.
It is no exaggeration to say that in that half a month, I lost a full twenty pounds.
10
Just when I was living like a year, Song Ming suddenly asked me on WeChat: "Smile, are you still willing to marry me?" ”
I almost cried with joy, completely forgetting the pressure I had endured in the past half a month, and the persuasion of my parents and friends.
Just lightly told him: "I gave away all the things related to the wedding, how do you say?" ”
Song Ming asked me to re-settle, and said that in the past half a month, he thought a lot, although it was stressful to marry me, but he loved me and didn't want to just let go.
When he said this, I immediately softened my heart.
At that time, I didn't have an IQ and trusted him 100%.
Even naïvely feel that I and Song Ming have turned a thousand times, very cute in the novel, and it is still your twist and turn after a thousand sails.
Another point, from childhood to adulthood, I can almost get what I want easily.
Therefore, I simply cannot tolerate my own demands.
I took Song Ming's original excuses as his inferiority, and I didn't even dare to say a word of blame, it was really low to the dust.
11
Two days later, Song Ming came to my house to take the blame, saying that he was too impulsive, and repeatedly promised that he would compensate me well in the future and would be good to me.
My father resolutely opposed it, and the ugly words were not less said, and Song Ming endured the whole time.
And I, looking like I would die or live if I didn't marry Song Ming, finally made my father shake his head and compromise.
My dad asked me, "Are you sure you want to marry him?" ”
I nodded.
My dad sighed, "You forgive him like this, you will definitely suffer after marriage." ”
At that time, I couldn't listen to these words at all, bent on using marriage to prove that my vision was not wrong, and this love must be cultivated to a positive result.
Seeing that I had made up my mind, my father called his friends that night and finalized the various resources needed for the wedding.
It turns out that a marriage that is not favored by my parents will really not be happy, and I will eventually suffer the consequences.
12
After getting married, Song Ming was almost stationed in Shenzhen for a long time, and my parents let me move back home to live, so that I could take care of it.
In this regard, Song Ming also thought that my family looked down on him, and said that my parents had been guarding against him.
I should mention here that because of the repentance of marriage, my parents were really wary of him.
My parents married a house, two stores, and a car, all with my name written on it.
At that time, everyone said that Song Ming would fight for 20 years less to marry me, but he said: "These are the premarital property of Xiaoxiao, and they have nothing to do with me." ”
Probably for these reasons, Song Ming's opinions on me, my parents, are getting bigger and bigger.
Saying that he was on a business trip, he reported safety every day by video, and often did not honor it, not to mention the promise of coming back once every half a month.
He always said that the ticket was expensive, I bought him a ticket, and he said that if he spent my money, he would be looked down upon by my family.
In short, our state is not at all like a newlywed couple.
The difference between it and the kind of honey-blended marriage life I was looking forward to was one hundred and eighteen thousand miles.
13
During the Tanabata Festival, Song Ming said that he would come back, but as a result, he could not come back temporarily.
My girlfriend reminded me: "Smile, you need multiple eyes, be careful that he has someone outside." ”
I don't doubt it.
So, the next time he came back, he checked his mobile phone.
This investigation actually hammered Song Ming's affair so easily, and it began before marriage.
At the beginning, he said that he was stressed and did not want to get married, but in fact, he was in love with someone else.
The other party is his female boss, the sales supervisor, the two often travel together, and it is good to come and go.
Looking at their chat history, the other party knows that he is getting married and knows who I am, but he is "unable to control his feelings" and falls in love with him.
Song Ming is the same.
He even promised her that he would divorce me when I was married.
He said to the woman, "I have to marry her once, or I won't be willing." ”
14
Looking at those chat logs, the love pink bubbles that I blew out myself were completely shattered.
I asked Song Ming, why did you do this to me?
And, at this point, I'm still looking for reasons in myself.
I thought that Song Ming would mention divorce, who knows, he "pounced" and knelt on the ground, saying that he was wrong, saying that he was sorry for me, and begging me to forgive him.
Now it's my turn to be dumbfounded.
Song Ming also said that getting married cost his parents a lot of money, and he was under a lot of pressure, thinking of earning more money, so that he could have face in front of my parents.
In addition, the female boss took good care of him, not only mentioned him at work, but also assigned him high-quality customers, helped him make plans, and taught him some sales methods.
So, they're together.
"Me and she, just take what we need, and now it's over."
Judging from their chat records, since Song Ming turned back to me, they have rarely contacted each other, and after getting married, the two only chatted about work on WeChat.
As Song Ming said, the two of them have retreated to the relationship of colleagues.
On that day, Song Mingchang fell to his knees and wept bitterly.
Until this point, I still sympathize with and love him.
And continue to blow up the soap bubbles of love again: the boy has gold under his knees, if he does not really love me, really want to cherish this relationship, who would kneel so without dignity?
15
This matter finally ended with Song Ming's resignation and I forgive him.
We also moved into the renovated wedding room and officially started married life.
Not long after, my father arranged for Song Ming to enter a state-owned enterprise and beat him up from time to time.
Song Ming did not have to travel, every day he went home to accompany me, and we returned to the original mode of love.
This kind of life probably passed for a year, and then, it slowly changed its taste.
In particular, when the work is not satisfactory, Song Ming will regret resigning and returning to Changchun, and even hate my father's arrangement for him.
"I can obviously rely on myself, but now I have become a relationship that is ridiculed by my colleagues, and it is all your father's harm!"
Every time there was a fight, he would scare me with it.
16
Later, when my son was born, my parents were busy and paid for a babysitter, but he was not grateful.
I slowly realized that in our marriage, not only was he not grateful, but he always held a grudge.
For example, when a friend comes to play at home and says that he has a good life, he breathes and says, "What's good, what's the difference between me and my son-in-law, my parents can't come and bring their grandchildren." ”
In fact, since I became pregnant, my mother-in-law has said countless times that she has not yet retired and cannot help me with my children.
Seeing my parents' unconditional dedication for themselves, and then seeing Song Ming's incomprehension, I felt more and more sad in my heart.
I asked myself again and again, is this the love and marriage I pursue?
In Song Ming's eyes, what am I? What are my parents?
Soon there will be an answer.
17
When my son was more than one year old, my father owed more than 50 million yuan in debt due to investment failures.
Immediately after, the real estate he developed was seized, and all the property in his and his mother's name was used to pay off debts, which was still not enough.
Overnight, my home became nothing.
To make matters worse, my dad was in a hurry to catch fire, causing a heart attack, from the onset of illness to death, less than 24 hours.
I lost forever the man in the world who loved me the most.
But Song Ming said: "Your father is also harmful, patting his ass and leaving, this mess, who will clean up?" ”
At that moment, can you feel how I feel? It is impossible to describe it in words.
It turns out that fairy tales are all deceitful.
When the great calamity strikes, there is no one in the same boat, some are just like the schadenfreude of others.
18
After my dad died, the family's property was auctioned off.
My mother took my brother to live in the house I had before marriage, and my brother had just gone to college and couldn't afford to do these things.
The debts left by my father had to be handled by me one by one.
In this regard, Song Ming's approach is really chilling, he not only stood by and watched, but also said all the cool words.
It is ridiculous to say that after experiencing such a major change, especially from the side of the pillow person watching the fire and sneering, my princess heart and love brain are dead.
I don't complain about other people's scum, only my own blindness.
So, after Dad was buried, I just wanted to do two things.
First: help Dad clean up the aftermath, he has been an upright person all his life, although people are gone, but what is left, I will be responsible for the end.
Second: Divorce, I'd rather be held legally for debt than live with this man.
The heart can be broken, but the hand cannot be stopped, and it can do whatever it wants.
After all, now I am the main backbone of my mother, the son's piece of heaven.
I just want to prop up this family quickly, not to fight with an enemy-like husband.
Out of the mix, always have to pay back.
In fact, once as silly as I was, in this life, I was destined to die once.
If you die, you will be born again.