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Recently, papi sauce's life ordering theory has exploded the circle of friends.
In the variety show "My Girl", papi sauce and Jiao Junyan chatted about love and marriage, and papi sauce shared his order of important relationships in life:
> parents > their own partners > children
Papi Sauce believes that:
"You yourself spend the longest time with yourself;
After this life, I spent with my partner;
Children and parents are the ones you only accompany them for a while, and the rest of the way is still their own. ”
The remarks of papi sauce have aroused strong approval from many people.
Chaplin, the king of comedy, said: "Loving yourself is the root of all happiness." ”
The philosopher Baskerry also said, "If you don't love yourself, you will never love others." ”
Only those who love themselves can be loved.
In other words, self-attention is the deepest love for oneself and others.
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Some time ago, in a variety show, the little s, who has always been sharp and intimidating, was dumbfounded by Song Jia's words:
"You just say you love yourself."
In the face of Song Jia, who is really free in state, Xiao S revealed her heart in the show:
"I'm actually really not confident in myself."
I believe that this is the true state of mind of many people.
What they call "loving themselves" is lip service.
At the end of the day, they're just pretending to "love themselves."
However, when you give up focusing on yourself and put the needs of others in front, then you will slowly lose your happiness and lose your direction.
In "The Wife's Romantic Trip", Cheng Lisha said that she had not filmed for more than ten years.
After saying that, Cheng Lisha said that she had not had a good life in recent years.
Although the family relationship is harmonious, she has not had the opportunity to contact the work, which makes Cheng Lisha very sad and helpless.
She even advised Xie Na not to give up filming: "Don't be like me, it's really sad." ”
In the program, her husband Guo Xiaodong also revealed:
"I never brought the keys to my house,
So for so many years, I don't know what the keys in our house look like.
Whenever I go home, she's at home. ”
In this marriage, it can be said that Cheng Lisha sacrificed a lot for Guo Xiaodong, she gave up her career for him and became a full-time wife.
But when she put her mind on her husband and children, she was alone to taste the loneliness and helplessness brought to her by the full-time wife.
In fact, in any relationship, once you put yourself behind other relationships, slowly, you will also feel wronged, sad, and then lose the joy of life.
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I watched a recent interview with Cai Kangyong.
Cai Kangyong used the word "cold" to describe himself. He said:
"Some people think that it is better to put the words cold and enthusiastic together, it must be enthusiasm.
But in my opinion, a lot of enthusiasm is not worth spending time on, it is a very boring thing.
The best thing about being 'cold' is that you can say no to a lot of things before you can focus on what you want to do. ”
The man, who is known to have a high emotional intelligence, revealed that he no longer wishes others a happy birthday.
Because, he thinks:
"These social things,
The more you save it, the more you can save precious energy to treat a person well.
On the contrary, it is not very perfunctory to send a happy birthday in the east and a happy marriage in the west. ”
Cai Kangyong said: "High emotional intelligence, not to cater to and tolerate, but to get along with yourself." ”
In short, indifference is the highest level of emotional intelligence.
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Last year, Yuan Quan read aloud a song "Peony Pavilion" in the "Reader" program. Amazing Dreams", which surprised many viewers.
In the program, the 41-year-old Yuan Quan wore a white dress, a shallow smile, his eyes were still as agile as a girl, and every word and deed made people feel like a spring breeze.
Dong Qing said bluntly: "When Yuan Quan stood on the stage, with the dream of Du Liniang in the background "Peony Pavilion", Yuan Quan was undoubtedly the person in the painting. ”
Yuan Quan is very beautiful, her beauty lies not in her appearance, but in the confidence exuded by her determination of her future.
Yuan Quan in her teenage years, beautiful, hardworking, high starting point.
As long as she is like an ordinary actor, she takes advertisements and makes movies, and I believe that she will soon become popular.
However, she did not follow the path of most actors, but chose a more challenging drama stage.
Compared with film and television, the scope of drama is relatively niche, the exposure rate is low, and the income is small, but in Yuan Quan's eyes, this is her choice to be loyal to herself.
In 2003, she starred in "The Orphan of Zhao", accidentally fell, hit six steel nails and a steel bar;
In 2005, she won the film Jane? "Love" won the highest award in the Chinese theater performance industry - the Plum Blossom Award;
In 2007, the 30-year-old Yuan Quan was inducted into the "Chinese Drama Centennial Hall of Fame", and there were also seniors such as Lao She and Cao Yu in the Hall of Fame, who was the youngest member of the Hall of Fame.
In addition, Yuan Quan also won three major awards for Chinese drama - the Plum Blossom Award, the Academy Award, and the Golden Lion Award, becoming a veritable female number one on the drama stage.
Wandering in the show business circle, Yuan Quan clearly knows that film and television dramas can quickly make her fame and fortune, while dramas are the opposite.
However, she still set her goals and did not hesitate.
She once said that she just knows too much about her energy output value, wants word of mouth, wants quality, so she must choose between several things.
In this way, she was deeply rooted in the drama stage and gave up a lot of commercial performances for this purpose.
The so-called high emotional intelligence is not to cater to others, but to focus on yourself.
Put aside the words of others, strengthen your heart, carry the weight forward, and be the best version of yourself.
Cai Kangyong has this passage in his book "Cai Kangyong's Emotional Intelligence Lesson":
"Being comfortable with yourself is the most important reason for pursuing high emotional intelligence. If you like someone but lose yourself, that's the worst state of emotional intelligence. ”
That is, true high emotional intelligence never loses themselves, instead they choose to be comfortable with themselves.
Encourage with the King.